Why I Like Spending Time Alone & Why It’s Important

For someone who, when their anxiety was at it’s worst, would crumble at the notion of spending time alone – I very much enjoy it now. Being alone in the house would render me essentially useless and made me feel isolated and unable to cope with doing every day things just in case something was to happen in which I would need assistance. I realise now how incredibly ridiculous this was – I don’t live in the middle of nowhere – I have neighbours either side of me, people to call and things to do and over time, as I began to understand my anxiety more and more, the feeling on isolation and worry of being alone soon turned into contentment and peacefulness.

Why I Like Spending Time Alone and Why It's Important

Suddenly, being alone in the house meant I could do anything I wanted to (oi, I didn’t mean that you dirty bird). It meant I could relax and not hide anything. It meant I could cry if I wanted to without anyone disturbing me. It meant I could wander around and look like a tramp without anyone judging me. It meant I could make up my own rules – even just for a couple of hours whilst people were out – and the only person I had to worry about… Was myself. And my dog.

Over the past few years, this feeling has grown and grown until now where I don’t have a single pang of anxiety when I’m in the house alone. I still struggle slightly when I’m in an environment out of my comfort zone but after getting my thoughts in order and realising that I can trust myself to be with myself, all is well. And that was my main problem a few years ago: I didn’t trust myself to take care of myself. An it was the worst feeling in the world.

I spend a fair bit of time alone but I do love being around people, meeting people, chatting to people but there’s always that moment where I crave a silent room, by myself. I don’t think there’s anything wrong at all with enjoying being my yourself. There’s also nothing wrong with hating it. But I wanted to share my own little list of reasons why I think it’s important to spend some time on your own.

  1. You learn more about what worries you, your fears and anxieties
  2. You also learn how to cope on your own without relying on someone else
  3. You will learn to trust yourself – the person who can take the best care of you, is you
  4. You can do what you need to do: cry, scream, dance, watch 49 hours of Netflix
  5. You will learn new skills on your own that are important for life – even if it’s just using a tin opener!
  6. You can spend time doing something you and only you enjoy and put all your energy into it
  7. You have time to assess yourself and how you can better yourself and your life
  8. You can work through your issues with no outside influence
  9. You will notice little things and appreciate them
  10. You learn that being alone is okay

What are your favourite things and hobbies to do when you have your precious alone time? Do you enjoy being alone or loathe it? Let me know and let’s have a chat!

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22 thoughts on “Why I Like Spending Time Alone & Why It’s Important

  1. I’m a person who has always really enjoyed being on my own, because I just need the peace and quiet sometimes. As a lot of the things I like to do are solitary activities (like reading and writing) it really can become frustrating when people keep interrupting you and don’t seem to respect your need to just be on your own sometimes!
    I recently house-sat for my parents whilst they went on holiday, and the four days of being left on my own (with the dog) was so refreshing! Plus they have wifi at their house (unlike at mine) so I got to catch up on loads of Netflix!

    • Agreed! Writing, reading, blogging are all very solitary hobbies and people who don’t do them don’t really understand sometimes that although we’re alone in doing them, it doesn’t mean we’re not enjoying them and we just need our alone time. I bet house sitting was sooo relaxing!

  2. I love both being alone and being around people – but I have a confession to make… I still can’t use a tin opener!!!! Haha I’ve tried & tried & I just can’t do it!
    Nicky x

    • Hahaha! It took me SO DAMN LONG to learn how to use one too. Then I learnt and thought I was all big and my mum was like, “you’re doing that completely wrong”. I did wonder why I took me 15 minutes to open a tin and everyone else a couple of seconds 😂 xx

    • I totally feel you there. Spending time alone with no one to please, no one to worry about, being able to do exactly what you want, when you want is a lovely feeling it’s a shame some people don’t respect that xx

      • Exactly! I truly believe that alone time is very important. Take kids for instance. Parents nowadays are always rushing them around from one activity to another, and as a result they don’t learn how to be comfortable by themselves anymore. It’s really sad.

  3. I LOVE spending time alone, a bit too much some might say. I completely agree, you do find out things about yourself and learn new things and really truly the ability to be content in ones own (and the dogs’) company is not to be sniffed at. Also, I can’t sing for shit and I do love to sing, being alone helps.

    It’s nice, in a world so full of people and responsibilities and chores, to just spend a bit of time on your own, not worrying about anyone else.

    M x

    • It’s definitely not to be sniffed at – were all different and it’s vital for some people to have alone time. I understand that some people just don’t need it – and that’s fine – but you have to respect the people that do xx

  4. I don’t mind being alone. I guess it’s because I’m used to not being part of a huge social circle. Being alone is when I can truly be myself, without judgment.

  5. I love this and relate to it so much! I’ve discovered over the last few years, to my surprise, that I’m actually an introvert. Even though I do love meeting & spending time with people a lot, I also value my alone time so highly. If I don’t have it for a while I crave it so much & can’t function if I don’t have it for too long. I do find people close to me just don’t relate so it’s nice to see someone who does 🙂

  6. Really interesting. I cant write when there’s anyone else in the apartment. I cant talk to myself to focus and I cant pace up and down. Yeeey for being on yer tod! My anxiety comes from being around people. A lifelong drag!

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