A Note From Me to 2016

This year has been, to put it quite bluntly, shit. Shitty shit shit. We’ve seen some of the most controversial campaigns and decisions in political history. We’ve lost some of the most iconic actors, musicians and role-models and we’ve endured more news stories of terrorism, violence and heart-break and than I care to think about. Globally, 2016 has been a bit of a travesty. But personally, it’s been pretty diabolical too. It’s been hard and stressful, my mental health has plummeted numerous times throughout the year, it has fallen into holes I didn’t know existed. There has been death (although no-one too close to me, thankfully) and I’ve seen people I know and love suffer. I’m going to leave it there because I’m not auditioning for the X Factor and this isn’t a sob story but today I wanted to talk about the importance of finding joy whenever you can, however you can. Finding happiness and enjoying the little things in life because when the world is as royally fucked as it is right now, the little things are so very important.


People find it very easy telling you how to be happy and how to make your problems disappear. “Just quit that job you hate”, “just be happier”, “just go on holiday it’ll make you feel better”. Just, just, just. But it just isn’t as easy as that and we all know it. Life isn’t as clean-cut and easy as quitting your job, leaving your unhappy relationship, jumping on a plane and travelling the world. Living in a lap of luxury for all of eternity. Although some people do quite literally quit their job and go travelling and I admire them for that, I really do. But as beautiful as their life looks on Instagram, I bet they have their share of problems, too.

I’m not going to go into why this year has been shit for me. Partly because I just wouldn’t know what to say and partly because well, I’d like to have a private life too and as open as I am about mental health related issues on this blog and on Twitter, I do keep some things to myself. But what this year has taught me more than anything is the importance of self-care, putting things into perspective and focusing on the little things. Being excited about the smaller pleasures in life because they are just as important as the big moments.

I’m definitely not know for portraying a “always spreading the positivity” attitude. In fact, the word ‘positivity‘ really grinds my gears but I’ve been trying to teach myself, through a whole range of mechanisms to find positives in little things, to be more mindful and focus on small achievements and small moments of joy and gratitude. Not only because the ‘big things’; holidays, events, promotions and celebrations are hard to come by – sometimes not coming by at all because plans have a habit of changing last minute –  but because we need something to hold on to.

Things like cooking, trying new food and recipes, watching new YouTuber’s and going for massages are just some of the small, insignificant things I’ve enjoyed this year. Little, miniscule things that really don’t matter but are so important because if we don’t and can’t enjoy the small things then we will go crazy. We’ll lose the will to live and never, ever be satisfied. I felt that this year, definitely. More than once I felt like life was just closing in around me and I couldn’t be bothered getting out of bed because I felt I had nothing to get out of bed for. Chances are, I’ll feel that again. But I’ll push through. Hopefully.

I’m definitely not the only person to have complained about how awful this year has been. And if you’re one of those people, I’m really sorry and I hope 2017 is much, much kinder to you. I hope you can spend the next month reflecting, looking back at the good times you did have but also preparing for a better year to come. Not that we can really prepare for these things – we didn’t prepare for 2016 to be much a monumental fuck-up, let’s be honest. But on that note, if I was to say one thing to 2016, it would be;

“I didn’t think 2015 could be topped in the way of shittiness but you have really out-done yourself this year. 2016 has altered, ruined and changed many, many people’s lives and not always for the best. Personally, 2016 has taught me resilience. It has taught me that sometimes, you just gotta do what you gotta do to get by. It has taught me that you should always seek help and it will always be beneficial. It has taught me that self-care is fucking important and you should never, ever neglect yourself for anything or anyone else. You matter. You fucking matter more than anyone else on the planet and you are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness but your own.

It has taught me that everyone’s problems matter but there are always bigger pictures to look at. It taught me that the world is fucked up, always has been and always will be but it’s not one individual person’s duty to fix it. It’s taught me that nobody is perfect and nobody can save the planet but everyone can do their one tiny little bit to contribute.

Mostly, it has taught me that things aren’t always as bad as they may seem. That life is a rollercoaster; it ebbs and flows but you can’t just jump off when it plummets. Things change and will keep changing but you adapt and carry on and never, ever assume that something will be terrible and spend hours upon hours worrying about it because you, nor anybody else, is a mind-reader and cannot predict the future. It has also taught me that my counsellor is a wonderful woman because without her, I probably wouldn’t have realised all of that. Thanks for the lessons 2016 but good riddance. Here’s to the next month, always looking forward and always appreciating and enjoying the small things in life.”

How has 2016 treated you? What have been your favourite moments? What have you learnt from this year? Do you have any exciting plans for 2017? Let me know everything!


Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.


  1. Excellent post as always. I can’t say personally is been terrible for me, more of a healing year for personal events of 2015 and gutting for everything happening around me in 2016.

    You’re right on making yourself happy. After seeing Matthew Santoro’s latest vlog yesterday I heard a few lines that really resonates with what you are saying (and dare I say it Shia LaBeouf). If you want to be happy, you have to be the one that does it. You have to be responsible for being happy and the 0ne that picks yourself up if the world knocks you down. If obstacles come, then change and adapt to dodge or overcome them. 2017 might not be THE year we’re all looking for and might not bring all that you want to you. That’s life. But you still could still get it if you plan and trailblaze through it with passion and determination.

  2. […] writing this, I am completely emotionally and mentally drained. I wrote a post a little while ago about 2016 with a person note from me to the universe about what 2016 has taught me from being so utterly shite […]

  3. I agree that 2016 has had more than its share of shitty moments culminating in Trump being elected, which really upset me and like you I have my problems too. Anxiety is difficult to cope with but doing little things to recharge your self like having massages really does make a difference. I’ve pampered myself recently with some make up treats, and days out with my daughters and hubby which has been lovely.

  4. A very powerful post. And something I could really relate to. I don’t get too many of the big happy moments in life – holidays, celebrations etc – so I make sure to really relish every little thing that brings me happiness. Whether that’s a Lush bath, a good book, or a coffee with a friend. This year has been shit globally, but actually pretty kind to me (I got engaged, passed my driving test, got a car). And next year I’ll be getting married. So those are some pretty big moments I’ll be so happy and grateful for. But I still think self-care is important, and enjoying the little things too. You said it way better than I ever could! 🙂

  5. One too many unexpected deaths for me and people I knew. Death didn’t scare me neither did the suddenness but still people dropping dead has me rattled for reasons I can’t point. So yeah at times I just loose it and mentally spiral down some dark hole. I hope I get a grip before someone else dies.

  6. I love this post! 2016 has been utterly ridiculous for me; a really trying year with far too many negatives and not enough positives. But I’ve definitely learnt how to find the joy in smaller things, and to remember that tomorrow is a new day (and 2017 is a new year). I like to believe that it’ll all get better, we just have to ride it out till it does! Hope 2017 is a much brighter year for you.

  7. Great post, 2016 has been mixed for me also. As a human being in this fucked up world it’s scary & I often feel out of control. But personally I ‘know’ what I have to do to get by day to day. Cancer is a bitch but it does make me grateful for every day, then my mental health kicks in & some days like you I just can’t or don’t want to get out of bed. So it’s a constant battle between physical/mental health. I’m grateful for the small things and the constant support I get from people, sometimes a complete stranger can make my day with a comment. Here’s to a better 2017 for all of us xx

  8. Lynsey James says:

    Fantastic post Jen. I totally agree that making the most of all the little moments you might otherwise take for granted is an awesome idea.

    2016 has been mixed for me. Professionally, it’s been great. I’ve been able to keep doing the job I love and I’m starting to be financially better off than I was when I was doing my 9-5 job. Personally though, it’s been mixed. I was learning to drive and even booked my test, but it was making me too anxious so I had to give it up. Felt like such a failure after that. I feel like I’ve been more anxious this year than I usually am and I’m not sure why. Also I’ve not been able to come and see you this year and I’m really sorry about that. 2017 definitely!

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