It’s a nice afternoon; you’re sitting on your bed, in your comfiest clothes and your fluffiest socks, doing some blogging or some online shopping or watching your favourite YouTubers. The dog is laying at your feet, sleeping peacefully, not making a sound but you can feel the weight of him against your leg and it’s a welcome comfort, knowing he’s there. You’re sipping on possibly the best cup of tea you’ve ever made yourself – way to go! And munching on your favourite snack; an apple pie or a bar of chocolate or maybe, because it’s that time of year, an Easter egg.
You’re home alone but that’s okay, you don’t mind. In fact, you quite like having the house to yourself. There’s not much noise, apart from whatever you’re doing, your dog – who’s now snoring – the chirps of birds outside your window and because you live right next to a park, the odd scream from a child who’s flung themselves down the slide or the odd woof from a dog who’s playing with their owner. You’re content, right now. There’s not much on your mind and most of today’s to-do list has already been done and you know what you’re like with to-do lists. At this moment in time there’s not much to worry about and you’ve got better at that, haven’t you? Keeping yourself in this moment in time and stopping your mind wandering too far ahead to worry about things that have yet to come, maybe won’t ever come and when they do come, will probably be absolutely fine anyway. If you’re struggling with anxiety, you might want to consider some alternative therapies. Natural remedies, such as using CBD, are becoming increasingly popular for those suffering from anxiety. Check out goldbee.com, and similar websites, for more information on CBD products.
So overall, you’re alright right now. Everything is fine. When suddenly, you get a faint flicker of butterflies in your stomach. You try and ignore them – don’t give them a second thought. And they’re gone – phew. For a few moments. Until they come back but lightly stronger this time. The waves of butterflies is getting more intense and more frequent and it’s not the nice kind of butterflies like when it’s your birthday and you’ve got a ton of surprises to open or when you’re about to meet up with a friend you haven’t seen in years. It’s not those good types of butterflies that remind you that you’re alive and you’re excited about life.
It’s the butterflies you get when you’re expecting bad news. Like when you’re about to go in for a job interview and you could be sick with nerves. It’s the type of butterflies before going to an important doctors appointment or receiving test results. It’s not really butterflies at all; it’s great, big, black, angry moths. Not beautiful, elegant, gentle butterflies that remind you of the happy, exciting things in life.
But that’s the thing, isn’t it. You’re not going to a doctors appointment. You’re not receiving test results. You’re not expecting any bad news. You’re sitting at home; your safe haven with all the comforts you could possibly need. But suddenly, you’re not concentrate on anything. What was you blogging about? What did that YouTuber just say? Hang on, did you just accidentally buy the wrong size jeans? You can’t form a coherent thought; you can’t rationalise why you’re feeling like this because there is no reason for you feeling like this. This is anxiety, this is what it does to you. Makes you feel like you’re about to go into a job interview, for hours and hours and hours on end when you’re not going anywhere at all.
This is what my anxiety feels like, sometimes, on a daily basis. I can be sitting in the exact scenario I just wrote about where everything is fine but feel like I’m about to receive the worst news of my life. I’m find myself constantly expecting something bad to happen because surly something bad has to happen soon? It’s exhausting; being constantly anxious. It’s exhausting; having butterflies 12 hours a day. Sorry not butterflies, moths. It’s exhausting worrying about everything and nothing all at once. Knowing that everything is fine but feeling like your world is going to come crashing down at any moment. But it’s not. Because everything is fine.
Isn’t it?
I was diagnosed with GAD in 2012 and this is a personal account of what it feels like for me. I understand that all mental health disorders are different and even those who have been diagnosed with the same condition can experience it very differently. You can find all my mental health posts here and please don’t hesitate to share your stories on this post, I would love to hear them and give you a platform to get your thoughts, feelings and frustrations about mental health out on. But as always, if you think you’re suffering from a mental health condition and need help, visit your GP.
Hi great readiing your post
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Thanks for sharing, I can definitely relate. Anxiety can come when we least expect it, even when we’re not in a particulary scary situation but I suppose that’s exactly what it is. You really explained anxiety and the horrible effects it has so so well.
Thank you so much for posting this, I’ve just started developing anxiety in the past few months and it’s comforting to know that other people feel the same way <3
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Oh my gosh, I can definitely relate to this. This is EXACTLY what I feel like every single day. It IS exhausting. I’ve never been able to word it so well when trying to explain GAD to others. Would you mind if I shared this on my Facebook page (with credit, of course)? Thanks for sharing.
Not at all, Aimee, please share away! I’m glad you can relate (well no, I’m not glad you can relate but you get what I mean?!) it is truly awful, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
Oh dear, I wish this post was new information for me, but I know very well what it’s like to live with anxiety and, in my case, depression. It’s not easy and it certainly doesn’t feel good.
It really, really doesn’t, does it? I’m sorry you suffer with it too xz
We’ll be fine. Both of us
Damn right we will 💪🏻
Thank you for sharing your story. I suffer romance GAD as well ND it’s always nice to know you’re not alone. ☺
Absolutely, that was the aim of this post (: I’m sorry to hear you suffer too but you are DEFINITELY not alone and you totally got this 💪🏻
Thank you. Going through some medication adjustments right too so not fun 🙄
Uh oh! I do hope it’s sorted soon and you find something that works perfectly for you.
Thanks
What a brutally familiar post. Thank you so much for being courageous enough to share your story – I think it is one that too many of us recognise but not enough of us speak out about. The anxiety is pervasive, but I believe we can push through it, if only by realising that we are not alone in this fight. xx
I’m so glad you found my post – not so glad you have to endure this condition as well. And I completely agree – realising that it’s JUST anxiety and we are in control, not it, always helps xx