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Define success on your own terms 

The other week, it was my blogs 4th blogoversary! I don’t know where those 4 years have gone; it’s been an almighty blur and I can’t distinguish one year from the next any more. It feels like only mere months ago that I had my first ever blog design, I had a handful of followers and all I was doing is reviewing books. Before the time where I knew what a sponsored post was or what a product review would entail because things like that seemed so far fetched for a little blogger like me. 

But then the other day, I was sitting there, quite contently, pondering all of this. I was thinking about my time blogging and I was thinking about my little blog tour company – which I wouldn’t have started if it wasn’t for blogging (and the reason I was thinking about this so much was because I had about 300 things to do and you know, procrastination). Then suddenly it really hit me…

I am damn proud of myself. 

I have a blog that people read.

I’ve had brands send me stuff for free because they want me to feature it on my blog.

I have a small, online business that I have built from scratch which I earn actual money from that actual people want to give me because they like and trust my services.

I am self-employed.

And no, I’m not exactly where I want to be. And no, I don’t earn enough money yet. 

But I am successful. 

And that got me thinking into the subject of success. How it is so subjective and very much depends on your perspective. But at the end of the day, nobody else defines our success but us. We are free to define success on our own terms. And that’s what I’ve started to do. And I can tell you… boy, it doesn’t half feel good.

I believe that every achievement matters; whether it’s in family or work or fitness or personal development – each and every tiny little achievement helps you and gets you that little bit further towards the goals and the “bigger picture”. You should celebrate them; work promotions, blogging statistics, home renovations, health milestones, fitness milestones, mental health milestones, damn it you should celebrate them because they all matter. What we do, matters. 

So I don’t care what anyone else says. I don’t care if someone thinks I should be earning more money. I don’t care if someone thinks that blogging is a waste of time. I don’t care if someone doesn’t “get” what I do or why I do it or thinks that online work isn’t a “real job”. Whatever, what fucking ever. Because I know that as long as there are people that think that, there will be tons of other people who, like me, think it’s brilliant, “gets it” and appreciates it.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t earn a shed load of money. If you don’t own a massive house and a fancy car and eat in the most expensive of restaurants and can buy whatever you please, whenever you want. 

If you can, good for you. I’m sure you’ve worked hard and you deserve every one of those things. 

But if not, that doesn’t mean you’re not a success. 

Define success on your own terms. 

How do you define success? What doe success mean to you? Share your personal successes from this year so far and celebrate each others!




  1. Success is leading the life of my choosing. I am self-employed too and I am in charge of my schedule and of the help I give my customers. Even if times might get rough I enjoy having a creative job and not embracing any boring routines.
    PS: You have a beautiful blog! I will visit it more often and it will be my pleasure to share my thoughts 🙂

  2. You go girl! 🙂 Great post!

    1. Thank you (:

  3. My blog is only 3 months old, and I can’t say I’m earning any money from my blog yet, but I’ve come a long way and have learned a lot! I just redesigned my blog and I’m finally happy with how it looks. To me, that’s a huge success!

  4. Aimee Cottle says:

    This is so true. I often feel like I’m always that close to success, but not close enough. But reading this post got me thinking, I am successful. I started a blog, and have a pretty decent no of followers, good engagement and awesome opportunities. I balance that with a part-time marketing role, which I love, and which, two years ago, I could never have imagined myself doing. I’ve overcome depression, and dragged myself up from the darkest depths. If that isn’t success, I don’t know what is!

    1. You are a HUGE success, Aimee!

  5. What a great post!! Love this so much. For me, success is defined pretty simply. Am I happy? If the answer is yes, I’m into a winner.

    1. Perfect way to define success!

  6. Lovely post! Happy 4th blogoversary! I think success means something different to everyone we all have our different goals to achieve. Mines that I’m on 800+ followers on twitter, never in my mind did I think that I would get that far or even stick at my blog

    Tasha x


    1. Thanks Tasha and yes, I completely agree it does mean different things to everyone but we have to recognise that and not dismiss someone else’s achievements because it doesn’t match up to ours. Congrats on the 800, next stop, 1,000! 😉 xx

  7. Jess says:

    I was reading an article the other day that said if you get under 1000 views a month you’re a failure and I was like that’s not okay!! Let people define their own success. We all need a reminder of this sometimes x

    1. Holy crap, REALLY?! What an awful, awful article! 😫

  8. I loved this post! I think any sort of following on my blog is an achievement, I never thought in a millions years that people would genuinely want to read my opinions on things!
    I can’t imagine blogging for 4 years! That’s an incredible milestone! Congrats girl! And good luck in the future
    PaleGirlRambling xo

    1. Thanks so much for your lovely comment! You’ll be there soon – it goes exceptionally quick, trust me! I think a blog following is a HUGE achievement too, so well done 😘

  9. I love this! So true. You cannot compare numbers & statistics to others because your success is different!

    1. Absolutely! 👏🏻

  10. Corinne & Kirsty 🌸 (@corinnekirsty) says:

    This is a great post. I really relatable. When I feel about the blog, I never know what to call success coz there is such a dictature of figures and stats! But in a general way, success would be doing something I love, going to work and be happy about it. I feel like being happy would be success! xx Corinne

    1. Happiness is a HUGE success, I agree. It’s underrated and it’s also harder to come upon than what we’re led to believe ☺️

  11. What a fab post 🙂
    I find that so often I feel down about my blog, then take a step back and look at the wider picture and *wow*. I feel like my blog has grown so much – strangers recognise me at events, like what??
    Cora x http://www.teapartyprincess.co.uk/

    1. Haha exactly! And that’s amazing! You do have to remove yourself sometimes and look in on what you’ve done to realise that you’ve achieved a lot! ☺️

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