Mental Health Reviews

Why 13 Reasons Why is f***ing important and you should go and watch it now 

The world has been taken by storm with the new season, “13 Reasons Why” which was released on Netflix earlier this month. Based on the book by Jay Asher, 13 Reasons Why is about Hannah, who has committed suicide and has left behind tape recordings for her old friend, Clay, with the 13 reasons why she did it. In these tapes, she opens up to Clay about what was going on in her life, the people that have wronged her and the events which ultimately led up to her taking her own life. But it’s not all as it seems as these tapes have a far more profound effect on not just Clay but a whole group of kids from their school. Sounds good right? Sounds gripping and shocking? It is. It’s also the most important show I’ve ever watched in my life.

13 Reasons Why is good; it’s a fantastically made show with a great bunch of actors, a gripping storyline, cliff-hangers, shocks, laughs, tears – you name it, it’s got it. What it also has, is some invaluable messages and lessons to be learnt from it. At first, it might seem like your very typical teenage angst type show with it’s typical high school problems but once you strip it back, it’s a hell of a lot more than that. Here are my 13 reasons why 13 Reasons Why is really, really, really important and what it teaches you in those 13 short episodes:

  1. You don’t know what is going on in someone else’s life. Even someone you’re close to.
  2. You will never know how someone is going to react to something; just because it’s minor to you, doesn’t mean it necessarily will be for them.
  3. Your issue with a person might be adding to the 18 issues they already have.
  4. So bare that in mind before you say that mean thing. Calling someone fat / ugly / useless doesn’t make you any better.
  5. Be a bit more wary of your actions.
  6. Your problems aren’t better or worse or more important or bigger or more tragic than anyone else’s – they’re just different. And they’re all valid.
  7. It’s never a waste of time to learn the important warning signs of depression and suicidal thoughts; for yourself and for someone else.
  8. It’s also never a waste of time to seek help and to keep seeking help until you find something that works for you.
  9. If someone is crying out for help, listen to them. Don’t dismiss their thoughts and feelings as “attention seeking“.
  10. It’s important to have friends / acquaintances / someone to talk to. Just 1 person.
  11. School is important but not to be-all and end-all of your existence.
  12. If you want to tell someone something, tell me. Do it now.
  13. Above all else, just be a little bit kinder to people.

13 Reasons Why is heart-breaking. Entertainment wise, it’s top notch but under all that, it’s heart-breaking in every way possible. Hannah was crying out for help for so long and nobody fucking noticed and the thing that pains me the most about it is that it happens, to real people every fucking day and that needs to be addressed. In a world where it’s so damn easy to be anonymous, to say mean things without ever getting found out, to judge people left right and centre from behind a computer screen, it’s so important that media like this exists. So if you need something to fill some time or a new show to binge watch this weekend, please, make it this one.

Some important links and information:

Informative blog posts:
Things to remember if you’re nervous in therapy
5 ways to help you cope with a bad day
Coping with anxiety in high school
Why it’s important to talk about mental health in YA
Mental health and social media
My experience with the Samaritans
The face of mental illness
Mental illness and the need for consistency
Experience of bullying

Useful websites:
Samaritans (General; all)
Mind (General; all)
Anxiety UK (Anxiety Disorders)
Suicide Prevention Lifeline
CALM (Men 15 – 35)
No Panic (Panic Attacks, OCD, Phobias)
OCD Action
PAPYRUS (Young suicide prevention)
YoungMinds (For parents; child and teenage mental health)

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Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.

62 Comments

  1. Completely agree with you in this post. I haven’t seen the show yet. But keep hearing about it.
    Your 13 reasons are spot on xx
    LucyLu xx lucylulife.wordpress.com

    1. Watch it! It’s incredible x

  2. I’ve heard such good things about this show. I’m glad things like this are being made to raise awareness and actually makes people THINK about what they’re doing to others

    1. Absolutely, it REALLY makes you think and wonder if you’ve ever done anything that’s affected someone deeply without even knowing.

  3. The Monday Project says:

    Completely agree, I read the book years ago and it changed my life. I haven’t finished the TV show yet but it is harrowing and so bloody raw! Xx

    Kirsty | The Monday Project | themondayproject.co.uk

    1. Ugh I know right! Harrowing is the perfect word for it.

  4. itsallzara says:

    I completely agree, bullying and suicide are two things I don’t think get enough presentation in the media and 13 reasons why is a way of showing just how hard someone may have it without showing it. Great post xx

    Itsallzara.blogspot.co.uk

    1. Abso-freaking-loutely! It doesn’t at all – especially suicide. It’s a topic everyone wants to skirt around because it’s so difficult xx

  5. Corinne & Kirsty 🌸 (@corinnekirsty) says:

    I have heard so much about this TV show. Kirsty, the other half of the blog, has watched and loved it. She highly recommends it. I know I really need to watch it but your post defo helps to convince. Thanks for sharing! xx corinne

    1. I’m so glad! I hope you love it when you do get around to watching 🙂 xx

  6. Taiba says:

    I agree so much with this. I read the book years ago and it left me an emotional wreck. So if course I had to binge the tv shows. Personally it was a little over shelling to binge but I got to say it us must watch. Well if that is if you can stomach it. If not I think reading the book is as just as good or not better

    1. Yeah I agree – I haven’t read the book (I actually hadn’t even heard of it until last year and even then, I just popped it on my “to-read” list on Goodreads and didn’t think anything else of it after that) but after watching the show, I don’t really want to but if you are particularly sensitive and don’t want to SEE what happens, it’s a great alternative to have so you don’t miss out on the importance of the story.

      1. Taiba says:

        To me books are more soul destroying but i agree x

  7. I absolutely loved this post and created one similar over on my blog! Such an incredible TV show that deserves so much recognition x

    1. Ooh really? I’ll go check it out now!

  8. I’m so looking forward to watching this show! I read the book, years ago, and had chills just reading the book. I feel like it’s so important, and I hope teens watch the show and take from it all the important lessons!

    1. I haven’t read the book and after seeing the show I don’t think I want to tbh! I’ve heard they change a few things (the method Hannah uses to kill herself for example) but I hope you love it as much as I did!

  9. Fantastic post! I binged watched this as soon as it came out and I have never been so emotional. Have you seen the making of episode that is on after it? It talks about they make you deliberately feel uncomfortable watching some of the very real and difficult scenes so that we learn what we’re doing wrong as a society by just sweeping it under the rug xxx

    1. Yes I watched the Beyond the Reasons thing yesterday as it goes! It’s a really good insight and nice to hear from the actors too! Fantastic fantastic show 🙂 I’m glad you loved it as much as I did!

  10. lolitambonita says:

    i have just watched the first episode and cant wait to see how it unfolds. Hopefully more people will become aware and sensitised to certain issues! x
    Lola Mia // http://www.lolitabonita.co.uk

    1. Absolutely! I hope you enjoy the rest 🙂 xx

  11. I’ve never watched a show as important!

    1. YES 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

      1. I wrote about it as well. I especially think that if you are a parent, you have a moral responsibility to watch it in order to educate your children.

      2. Omg yes. I’m obviously not a parent but that’s such a good point. I didn’t consider it from the parents perspective.

      3. As a mother to a young girl, it was frikin terrifying!

      4. Oh gosh I can imagine 😔😔😔

      5. Education regarding social media and cyber bullying will be imperative. It’s not enough to teach them about sex

      6. I really loved your post! Here’s mine if you want to take a look
        https://readsandreels.com/2017/04/10/13-reasons-why/

  12. Yes!
    13 Reasons Why was such a real and hard hitting show. They touched on a lot of not talked about topics!
    I definitely laughed and cried a lot during it. Such important messages to get across!
    PaleGirlRambling xo

    1. Isn’t it just brilliant?! I love that they made it quite funny in parts too – I thought Clay’s dad was hilarious! xx

  13. I have a post coming up on Wednesday about this show, and was really intrigued about reading this post. I’ve not watched it due to different things I’ve heard about it, but I’m glad it’s informative for people!

    – Chloe
    chloetommo.co.uk
    xoxo

    1. People can relate to so many different things in this show – not just the really serious stuff. Like the friendship troubles, school troubles, home lives – everything. It’s so relateable and that’s why it’s important. But they are good with trigger warnings – there’s a notice before an episode with something a bit more darker than some people might be triggered by and I was really impressed with that with this show, it shows good initiative. I would definitely recommend watching, you can ask anyone who’s seen it if there’s any other particular episodes to be wary of too.

  14. I’ve been seeing this show posted all over social media and had no idea what it was really about before reading this blog post, im definitely watching it tonight!

    1. I was a little late to the party too, to be honest! I saw it on Netflix so much but didn’t know what it was or what it was about so just kept scrolling. It was social media that encouraged me to watch it! I hope you enjoy it 🙂

  15. Teaisawishyourheartmakes says:

    I’ve heard so much about this show but I haven’t had chance to watch it yet! After reading this I’m going to have to make sure I watch it because it sounds amazing 💖

    1. I’m so glad! I hope you enjoy it when you get around to it 🙂

  16. jodiedcmitchell says:

    This post is bloody fantastic, I’m so glad you’ve put contact details in there. I haven’t watched this yet (I’m dying to though) but I’ve heard how hard-hitting it is, and I’m hoping it’ll change how people think about treating others.

    1. I really hope you enjoy it when you do watch it! It is truly incredible, I’m currently watching it for the second time! I finished it and couldn’t get it out of my head for days. I hope it has that effect on those watching it, too.

  17. I haven’t watched the show yet but I’ve heard so much about it. Your blog has really inspired me to watch it. I love your passion for an important topic that is too often swept under the rug and sugarcoated. Thank you for this x

    1. Aw thank you so much, I’m so glad it came across that way. I hope you enjoy it!

  18. Hi, I’ve not heard of this before. I think I might be streaming it now when a few hours free #TeacupClub

    1. Yes you absolutely must! I hope you enjoy it 🙂

  19. abbeylouisarose says:

    I’m 6 episodes through the series right now! I am completely hooked! It is an absolutely incredible series, the acting is frankly amazing and the messages hit home so so hard! I can understand why it is quite triggering for some people, but if you’re able to, it’s definitely worth the watch!

    Abbey 😘 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

    1. Yes absolutely it’s so triggering, there was plenty that made me feel so anxious and one scene I couldn’t watch at all at first (the suicide – but then I went back on the episode the next day on my own and watched it because I kinda felt like I owed it to Hannah. I know that sounds silly but yeah). I love that they sugar coated NOTHING xx

  20. abbiewest96 says:

    I’ve been meaning to watch it and this post has definitely made me want to watch it right his second! I’m so annoyed that my VPN has blocked Netflix in china now so I’ll have to wait until July 🙁 But I love the way you have written this post, a great read.

    Abs x
    https://afababulouslife.blogspot.com

    1. Oh no! I’m so gutted for you, that’s such a shame. At least you have something to look forward to watching in the summer! Thanks very much & I hope you enjoy it when you can finally watch it!

  21. Gabija says:

    I’ve been meaning to watch it (thanks to the glowing reviews) and now, will be sure to give it a go- especially since the messages it shares are close to my heart!

    Gabija | everylittlethingblog.weebly.com

    1. Yay, I’m so glad to hear that! I hope you enjoy it 🙂 xx

  22. I really want to watch this- heard so many amazing things about it but kind of want to read the book first. I might just watch it anyway! Anything that promotes mental health awareness is a win in my book!

    1. I’ve heard that the series is better than the book! I haven’t read it either but actually, I don’t really want to now. Yes absolutely, I agree! It’s a tough watch but so important.

  23. I started watching this last night and I’m already on episode 7! Loving it so far! 🙂

    1. Wow ultimate binge watch for you! Enjoy the rest!

  24. Yes! I recently started watching it and I can’t wait to finish. It’s absolutely breath-taking. Simply beautiful.

    1. That’s so nice to hear! The actual cinematography is beautiful isn’t it?

      1. It definitely is!

  25. sortingthroughtheshit says:

    Completely agree, finished watching it last night and it broke heart. so many powerful messages running through and everyone should watch it xx

    1. Agreed! So glad you enjoyed it, that last episode is so difficult xx

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