Well… that’s a scary thing to say, isn’t it? Although I wrote a post about why I didn’t particularly like my birthday back in July, here I am on my birthday writing a blog post! Oh yeah… it’s my birthday today. I’m 25. Officially a quarter of an entire century old. And quite frankly… I’m freaking the F out.

 

I’ve wrote a post on my birthday every year since starting blogging so it feels almost obligatory to continue on with the tradition. I don’t really know what this post is about, just general ramble really of my thoughts of being 25. 25 is an age I’ve always been dreading to hit. I’m not sure why because yeah, age is just a number at the end of the day and it’s still a very small number in relation to how many years we are on this planet for (assuming I don’t get hit by a bus tomorrow). But still… 25, the quarter of a century milestone seems scarier than 24, the almost a quarter of a century milestone.

At 25, I’m not where I want to be or expected to be at this age. I’ve never been one for expectations of the kind that you should be married by this age or should have a house by this age. I totally understand that life works at a different pace for every human on it. And I love that. I just wish more people would see it that way and not be surprised or even disappointed when they find out a 25 year old isn’t married, hasn’t got kids or wants kids anytime soon and still lives with their parents. So what? Times have changed and people are all different.

But personally, I’m not where I want to be. And it’s okay to say that and acknowledge it. Yes, I still live at home with my parents and I’m fine with that – I just wish I was in more of a position to be considering moving out in a few years. Of which I’m not. I love my job and I love being self employed but I wish my career path took a different turn when I had the opportunity to. I could look back and hope and dream all I want about things being different but at the end of the day, they’re not. This is my life. 

I’ve been thinking a whole lot about life recently; probably due to the looming birthday coming up. I’ve learnt more so than ever that you really have to make the most of the small stuff, appreciate everything, look after yourself and put things into perspective. The little things matter and can be just as beautiful. Every day has a beautiful moment in it, if you just look for it. You are the most important person in your life and your body has taken great care of you; so make sure you take care of it. And there will always, always be someone worse off than you. There will always be situations which “could have been worse“. That doesn’t for one minute invalidate your actual experience but it does mean we can look at it with different eyes and realise how lucky we are.

Giveaway!

On that note, I’m going to run a small giveaway because, well, just because! Unfortunately this is UK only as the last time I ran an international giveaway like this it was a whole lot of bother so really sorry about that. But for all you UK folk, here are the details! 

Prize: a book of your choice worth up to £7 from The Book Depository.

How to enter: leave a comment on this post and tell me what your proudest achievement/s are at this time in your life! And also a means of contact should you win.

T&C’s: giveaway starts today (4th September) and ends in 1 week on 11th September. A winner will be chosen at random and contacted via Twitter or email.

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27 Comments

  1. Congrats lovely! My biggest achievement is getting into vet school 🙂
    My contact: @WordsThatStay1 on twitter 😀

  2. Happy belated birthday! My proudest achievement/s so far? Beating depression and getting a new job after being signed off sick for two years. Learning to drive despite my anxiety, and getting married (in just 7 days!)

  3. Happy Birthday!! I think birthdays are always a little sad because you’re never where you want to be but so long as you’re getting there that’s ok. My proudest achievement is that this month I’m finally starting my LPC two years after I finished uni and vowed I’d never study or do anything in Law again 😊 Twitter is @EsBookworm

  4. Happy birthday! My 25th is in 2 days and I am also freaking out. For me it’s not so much about the number as I don’t even know what I want in life anymore. I used to think I had it figured out and now I am overwhelmed by the possibilities of life! I’m glad to know I’m not the only freaked out (almost) 25 year old. I am starting to think it’s normal. Best of luck with the quarter life crisis!

  5. Happy Birthday my lovely .. hope you have had a great day. I know you don’t ‘do’ birthdays but it’s the one day you can be spoiled 🙂 I’m not going to waffle on but I’m also quite a few years older so with hindsight 25 is a wonderful age, you have the world at your feet. I think in my current state each day is an achievement for me. You’ve summed it up perfectly in your last paragraph xxx

  6. Hope you’ve had a really lovely day Jenny! My proudest achievement at the moment is passing my National 5s (and an A in every subject but my worst) despite all of the difficult things I’ve had to deal with at school and with my health xxx

  7. Happy Birthday!! Hope you have a nice day even if you don’t like birthdays. I have to agree with Inge, might just be me but having a good few years on you I also have a lot of people that expect things to have happened in my life due to the number associated with it, and I might not have achieved everything that I would have liked, but I feel like I have eventually grown into myself and I know that the things I want to achieve will come all in good time. So as hard as it is sometimes to put into practice remember to try have a positive outlook on it, you might not have achieved everything you wanted but you have still reached lots of goals and milestones on the way 🙂

  8. Happy Birthday! I’m really glad I found your blog, I’m fairly new to reading your posts but I love how genuine they come across, and how lovely they are. My proudest achievement so far is getting into university to study Astrophysics. When I was in primary school, I struggled with mathematics. Once I arrived in secondary, I discovered physics and worked day and night on achieving the best grades I could, and did the same at A-level. For me, I have been 7 years in the making to get to where I am with this subject. I have taken a lot of falls, but I’ve never stopped making myself work on this and better myself. Oddly, doing that has made me more confident with myself, and I have been able to show people that hard work does pay off. I hope you have a lovely day, and 25 isn’t all that bad, it’s only a small portion of all your years to come!
    (my twitter is @proffessorex, I hope you find me okay!)

  9. Happy birthday!! (It’s my sister’s birthday today too! She’s 21 now) hope you have an amazing day! I think everyones life’s work out differently and uniquely to them and so yours is a journey that you will look back on in the future and realize it all made sense to get you to where you will be which may not be where you want to be but you will be happier for the things you’ve experienced along the way. My aunt didn’t get married and have kids until she was 38 and you wouldn’t even guess it (im too busy watching the kids run around 😂). She never thought she would have children (I don’t think she even used to like kids 😂) but her life changed in that particular year so you never know what is to come! Sorry for rambling on 🙈😂 I agree that everyday has a beautiful moment too! Have a lovely day 💗

  10. Happy birthday lovely! I hope you enjoy your day! I understand your feelings about the quarter-age but you really shouldn’t be thinking so much of it, there are lots of worse birthdays to come (30 (then you really start to think where you are and what you haven’t achieved – I already passed that one), 40 (half of your life), 50 (over half of your life) seem worse than 25 to be honest), so you should just enjoy this one to the fullest ! I’m not a fan of birthdays either and mine’s coming up too (nope not even telling anyone how old) so I do know how it feels but believe me that 25 is such a great age to be and I’m envious of you!

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