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Things I would tell my future child

Although I’m 25 (26 this year, oh dear God), I’m in absolutely no rush to have children. It’s in my life plan, I’d absolutely love to have a little one running around some day and it’d also give me a genuine excuse to watch Disney movies all day. Not the good old, “I wasn’t feeling 100% so I decided to take a self care day”. Amiright? With the world in the state it’s in, it genuinely does scare me to think about bringing a new child into it. I know that sounds lame but with so many social, political and environmental problems, what are we setting the adults of the future up for? However, I think our generation are fantastic role-models, advocates and hard-workers. Are we going to send our children into the world un-prepared? Hell fucking no.

* Clearly this elegant, beautiful child in this photo is me, it’s not some random kid

So, for my child of the future, whatever gender you are born or however you want to identify. Whatever you grow up to be or do or feel, this one is for you. Maybe you’ll read it one day; maybe my blog will still be alive and kicking when you’re old enough to read it. Maybe I’ll be a blogging sensation by then, earning thousands and thousands and living in my own Cath Kidston / Laura Ashley haven in Chelsea. Probably not. But regardless, here are some things I would tell my future child.

1. Learn early that illness isn’t always about physical pain. Recognize that you need to take care of your mind just as much as your body.

2. And know that if you’re ever feeling mentally unwell, you can talk to me about it. Without fear. Without judgement. And I will do everything I can and everything I need to do to help.

3. Don’t let any boy or girl ruin your childhood and teenage years.

4. Be kind to people. Unconditionally kind. And remember that just like you go through stuff, other people do as well.

5. You can play with whatever the heck you want, “boys toys” and “girls toys” don’t exist.

6. Sex and your body are not dirty subjects. You can talk to me about anything and I’ll answer you as best I can but all I ask is that you’re safe. Put your safety and well-being first.

7. Don’t let anyone bully you and get away with it. Tell me or tell a teacher and always, always, stand on the higher ground. Stun your enemies with kindness.

8. Read. Just read. I don’t care what you like to read but just pick up a book and show people that reading is cool. Reading and books are knowledge and life.

9. You can do whatever you want to do. Hobbies or a career when you’re older, you’re not limited by your gender or your abilities. I will do everything I can to ensure that you are treated as an equal and you’re able to do what makes you happy.

10. I know it’s probably annoying that you don’t have as much technology as your friends do when you’re younger but you’ll thank me one day.

11. Know your self worth.

12. If you’re in an unhealthy relationship or friendship, something doesn’t sit right with you or you’re not being treated how you think you should be, get out. It’ll hurt at first. It’ll really hurt. But a month of hurt could lead you to a lifetime of happiness.

13. And if you are hurting, I’m here. I’ll always be here fighting your corner.

14. Always wear a seat-belt. Don’t even question it.

15. The number on the scales and the number in your clothes doesn’t mean anything. No matter what the media or advertising tells you otherwise. Trust me on this one.

16. Self-love and self-care are really important. The earlier you can learn and practice this, the better. And yes, you can borrow my Yankee Candles for a relaxing bubble bath if you’re in need of some self-care.

17. Be passionate. Find your interests and embrace them with every ounce of your being. If other kids call you a nerd? So what. There’s nothing insulting about being interested in the world. 

18. If it’s a phase, that’s cool. If it’s not a phase, that’s cool too. 

19. Know that you have something to offer the world. You might not know what it is right now or for a very long time but that’s okay. Your gift will shine eventually.

20. I’ll always be your biggest fan. If nobody else believes in you and even when you don’t believe in yourself, know that you always have and always will have a biggest fan. 

I hope you liked this more personal post from me. If you’ve done any similar posts, please link them below as I’d love to read. Or leave me a comment and tell me some of the things you’d tell your future child or current child (if you have one!)

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Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.

82 Comments

  1. This is so sweet! I love that last point, but you also have some serious ones in there too xx Great post, you should make this into a tag!

    1. Ooh that’s a good idea! You’re welcome to use it if you want 😘

  2. I love this so much! I feel like your children will be so lucky to have a mum like you! These are so important xx

    Jamie | http://www.jamies-corner.com

  3. This is one of my favourite posts you’ve ever written, and that’s a big statement! These are all such important and inspiring points and it’s so heartwarming to see what you’re going to teach your kids. They will be so lucky to have a mum like you xxx
    Beth x

    1. Awh thank you so much! xxx

  4. I loved this

  5. I really liked reading this post, this will be lovely to look back on in years to come

    1. It really will xx

  6. Oh my gosh, what a beautiful post! I love this, and I wish I’d had a mum who would have told me these things when I was a child.

    1. Awh Aimee, thank you so much!

  7. Isabel says:

    Oh wow Jenny, this post just hit me right in the feels! 💕 Everything on your list is just brilliant. I don’t think I’ll have children of my own, but I do have a four year old niece who I would do anything for, I love her with all my heart. I would tell her that she should never be afraid to talk to me – she can tell me anything, and nothing could ever, ever make me stop loving her.

    1. Awh thank you – sounds like you’re a brilliant aunt and would make just as a brilliant Mum if it is right for you in the future xxx

  8. I love this! Definitely things I would want to tell my child when I have one and even my younger sister. We need more love and acceptance in this world 🙂

    1. We really do xxx

  9. This was a brilliant post to read. Your very wise!

    1. Thank you, that’s quite a compliment! xxx

  10. Awww this is amazing!! You’d make an outstanding mother.

    1. Awh thank you

  11. Melanie Jewell says:

    Very well said and extremely enlightened. A great example for other parents. Unconditional 💕

    1. Thank you – although I can’t imagine being an example for other parents when I’m not one! xx

  12. Maya @ Powered Crowd says:

    I love this post! So many good points here! I love how well thought out it was. 🙂

    Maya @ http://www.poweredcrowd.com

    1. Thank you xx

  13. Amongst many other things I taught my three lads that they are all unique and completely individual, they are not sheep and to not follow the crowd but use their own brain and think for themselves.

    I taught them to not get bothered if someone is talking about them. They are strong enough to ignore others pettiness and whilst people are talking about them they are leaving someone else alone.

    I also taught them something my dad drummed into me and my sisters. No-one is ever above you and no-one is below you. Just because someone has money does not make them better than you and just because someone is poor does not make them beneath you. Treat everyone the same.

    1. I love your last point and I think it’s something that a LOT of people (and even People online) need to remember xxx

  14. Lena Dee says:

    Wow! These are all great things to encourage children! I think you’d be a stellar mom with patience and understanding. I wish my mom told me some of these things. Being unconditionally kind is one of my faves, you really can’t encourage kids to add to the negativity of the world. Just beautiful 💕😊

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com

    1. Thanks so much! Everyone could do with being a little kinder don’t you think xxx

  15. allthingspopsx says:

    What a beautiful, touching and great post! Really great read and I’m sure you will make an amazing mum one day 🙂

    1. Thank you so much that’s so lovely of you to say xxx

  16. Awww you are going to be such a loving mom… The kind that every child needs while growing up. As the times are changing so fast, and the world becoming scarier, it is always a good idea to prepare a child. But before all that, have a fun life and enjoy 😀

    1. I’ll sure try (; xxx

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