Things bloggers should never feel guilty about

If you’re a new blogger, you’re likely coming into this industry (ugh, I hate that word) to an array of “how to be a fantastic blogger” posts all telling you to do X, Y and Z in order to succeed in this pool of bloggers all trying to do the same thing. I write what I hope are “helpful” posts for new bloggers (and not so new – you’re never too old to want to improve!) but I always state that the advice I’m giving is what has worked for me or is currently working for me and you’re under absolutely no obligation to take any notice of it. But some of these “helpful” posts certainly have a different approach; less ‘here’s a suggestion, why don’t you give that a go?’ and more ‘if you want to be successful you have to do this because if you don’t you suck and you’ll fail miserably’. Jog on.

And sometimes, these sort of posts don’t actually teach us anything. Instead, they leave us feeling down-trodden, overwhelmed and downright guilty about all the stuff we “should” be doing but aren’t. But I feel like I’ve been on the blogging block long enough to be able to safely say that there’s not a damn thing that you, as a blogger, should be made to feel guilty about. Not a damn thing. Here are some of the most common guilt-trips we’re taken on as bloggers and why you should throw that guilt straight in the bin:

“Only” blogging as a hobby

I really am baffled as to why some people think they need to comment about the reasons behind why someone blogs. We’re all doing this for different reasons; full-time, part-time or a hobby and all our voices are valid. But if suddenly you find yourself making big bucks, don’t look down on bloggers who “only” blog as a hobby. And if you fall under the “hobby” category, you do you, boo. I no longer fall under the “hobby” category myself but it makes absolutely no difference to me how someone else is blogging; if I like their content, I’ll support it. Simple as!

Having no niché

I am sick to death of reading how if you blog, you have to have a niché. You have to pick your topic and stick to it. No exceptions. THAT is the way to success. But it’s not. I fail to understand why this is even an argument but I think whichever way you swing, it’s brilliant. If you only blog about one particular topic which you love and know loads about, then that’s amazing that you’re sharing your insight on that. If you want to blog about a bunch of a different topics that appeal to a wide range of interests, that’s great too!

Not posting consistently

Life gets in the way sometimes. Our mental health affects our day / week / month, we have problems at home, at work, with fuck boys – whatever. But at the end of the day, life still happens when you blog and sometimes the two won’t align. And that’s okay. Don’t feel guilty about not posting for whatever your reason.

Not being online much

Similar to the above point, sometimes social media gets too much for us as well and we just want to shut ourselves off from it and focus on our “real” lives. The next time you’ve found yourself not online and you’re about to post that, “Sorry I’ve not been active much recently” tweet, I DARE YOU to delete the word “sorry”. It’s not needed; you don’t need to be sorry.

Blocking people

I’m certainly no saint when it comes to wondering why some people have blocked me. I’ve definitely tweeted about it before, wondering why certain bloggers who – sometimes I’ve never spoken a word to – have blocked me. But there may be bloggers out there who are wondering the same about me. At the end of the day, if someone just doesn’t sit right with you, if you’re constantly triggered or upset by their tweets / content, if you don’t agree with their views and values and would rather not see them then you’re well within your right to block that person. I’m all for curating our feeds to be our safe spaces.

Not responding to hurtful comments

Literally, why do we need to give people our time and energy who have nothing nice to say? Even if they’re “trying to be constructive” but end up just sounding downright rude. Your time is precious, don’t waste it. No guilt.

Using stock photos

I wrote an entire post about this here when I used to use a lot of stock photos so most of my opinions on this one are in that post. I have started working harder on my blog photography and I’m very happy with my progress but again, that’s a personal thing for me. In the grand scheme of things, as long as you’re following the guidelines on stock photo websites and aren’t doing anything wrong, then you shouldn’t feel guilty.

Do you have anything to add to this post? What else are we always made to feel guilty about in blogging but absolutely should’t? Have you experienced any of these mentioned?

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127 thoughts on “Things bloggers should never feel guilty about

  1. I’m terrible for making myself feel guilty for taking time away from my phone but I’m learning that it’s so important to get the balance right!
    Rosie

  2. This was a wonderful and refreshing post!! Thank you very much😊 Maybe someone has already commented or asked but there are over 100 to read through …….what is your opinion on reading and commenting on other writers posts to build followers? I spend hours and hours a day and only follow 40-50. I spend far more time reading others writer’s work that working on my own. I feel guilty if I skip a day or two but I’m feeling overwhelmed sometimes.

    1. I wouldn’t feel guilty for skipping a day or not commenting if you don’t have time. I usually take part in comment swaps on twitter and that’s my time to comment on others posts but if I can’t for whatever reason I definitely don’t feel guilty! x

  3. Past few weeks I have been travelling and was on vacation. I feel very guilty about not posting on my social media and not being able to read and comment on others posts. There are time when I have to spend time with my kids and husband then I am awake late at night replying to comments on my IG. I know I should not feel guilty I do and can’t help it hehe! First time I prepared a few posts and scheduled them so I don’t have to worry but was unable to promote which made me feel guilty. hehe Thanks for sharing this wonderful post Jenny. 🙂

    Via | http://glossnglitters.com

  4. yes to the stock images! sometimes its hard to get a good photo for a post so its handy to use freely available stock images and theres nothing wrong with it

  5. Agreed when it comes to blocking people. Your mental health is more important! So if someone is being a massive dick for no reason, block away!

  6. oh i agree! Im glad some people are actually okay with people not blogging consistently etc. I just started my blog yesterday, and im just doing it as a hobby, and I found that its not supposed to be like that, but after I read this post, i realized its totally fine just to do it for fun 🙂

  7. It seems to be that no matter what anyone does, everyone has an opinion but I can resonate on so many things. I personally blog for a variety of reasons and I don’t like that we live in a blogosphere where justification is almost as important as content and I’m not even talking about controversial content! I sometimes find myself integrating a justification into a blog post about why I’m even doing the post. I mean that probably says more about me than the actual perceived requirement of justification but it certainly doesn’t help. Great post though. Enjoyed reading it and nodding along 👍

  8. Oh wow, thank you so damn much for writing this post. I follow plenty of ‘becoming a blogger’ pages and some of the people on them can be so rude. They make me feel stupid, guilty, not good enough, insignificant. Basically a right screw to my mental health. I don’t like pushy people who look down on other bloggers! I’m glad you have posted this post, it has made me feel a lot better. I was having breakdowns about not knowing who I am as a blogger and not taking it too seriously. Take care lovely, keep up the great work x Laura / https://laustworld.blogspot.com/

    1. Seriously blogging ISN’T WORTH your mental health and those pushy bloggers certainly aren’t!! I just ignore those type of posts now – they serve no value if they just make you feel crap without offering support. I’m so glad this has made you feel better 🙂 xxx

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