If I’ve learnt anything this year so far, it’s that we could all do with giving ourselves a bloody break once in a while. It’s okay not to be “on it” every minute of the day, it’s okay not to be productive every single day of your life and it’s certainly okay to feel like crap – for a multitude of reasons or for no reason at all – every now and again. One of the main changes I’ve made to my life this year is listening to my body and mind and giving myself what I need or want at any given time rather than ignoring it and powering through when I really shouldn’t be.

I’ve incorporated this mind-set into food; after I set myself some food-related goals at the beginning of the year and realised they were doing more harm than good and encouraging restrictive eating rather than intuitive eating. I’ve also incorporated this into my exercise routine; I do a lot of Yoga – every day if I can – but some days, it just doesn’t work out. And that’s fine. I’ve just learnt to roll with the tide whenever I’m not feeling 100% for whatever reason and I’ll let you in to a secret… it will change your life.

So, with my new mind-set in mind and my new lust for “doing what feels right” mentality, how has that affected things? Well, like I said, I’m learning to cut myself some God damn slack. Nobody wants to feel crap but at the end of the day, we’re going to at some point or another. Break-ups, arguments, illness, stress – you name it. And it’s times like these where we need to do what’s right for us, focus on our self-care and treat ourselves because we deserve it. Here’s some things that I like to treat myself to when I’m feeling like sh*t:

A massage

I have a wonderful lady who I’ve been having massages with for over a year now and when you’re stressed or not feeling 100%, I couldn’t recommend going for a massage enough. The relaxing music, the smell of the oils and release of all that tension really is the epitome of self-care for me.

A new book

You all know I love books and reading is my biggest hobby and biggest passion so I think when we’re feeling shite, we need to revert back to that thing we love, that thing that’s ours, that thing that you wouldn’t be you without. For me, that’s books. Throw me in a library and I’ll already feel 10x better (don’t literally throw me).

A takeaway

Restrictive eating and diet culture can do one and that’s another thing I’ve learnt this year. “Bad” food or “cheat” food is just another way for society to make us feel awful about what we’re eating and about ourselves. It’s food. We literally need it to survive. I’m not saying always eating junk food and takeaways is the way to go but what I am saying is that if you fancy a McDonald’s or a pizza just eat one. Especially if you feel crap and that’s one thing that’s going to make you happy for a little while.

A nap

Not all “treats” have to be physical things that we need to use money to pay for! I think a nap is the perfect way to take care of yourself when you’re feeling crap. I’ve learnt to listen to my body and if it’s telling me to nap, then I do. Even if it’s in the middle of the day but if you’re having a crap day, a nap is never a bad idea.

Playing a game for hours and doing no work

I’m such a goal-orientated and motivated person that I find it hard to switch off from “to-do list mode”. I always have to be doing something, in order to achieve something else and when I’m feeling rubbish, the work I do is going to be rubbish as well. So there’s no point in forcing something. When I’m in this sort of state, I try and forget about anything productive and play a game for hours instead. It’s a great way to switch off and my games of choice are usually The Sims, Rollercoaster Tycoon or Spyro the Dragon!

What do you like to treat yourself to when you feel like crap? Do you do anything particular?


  1. With retail therapy I tend to go for books, my favourite sandwich, or feelgood movies. If I don’t want to spend anything, I’ll game, watch said feelgood movies (or Friends reruns let’s be honest), or go all out using my skin and hair products ๐Ÿ˜€

      1. It really is! The first time I went she picked up on my ear problems without me telling her. It’s so relaxing and you can target certain health issues too. I’d definitely recommend it. X

  2. Doing something fun for an extended period of time really really does help, but it can be hard for me to focus on having fun and stop worrying about whatever’s stressing me out at the moment >.<

  3. playing a game for a few hours you really do feel better, taking time off and being someone else is an amazing.

  4. Mine is definitely a hot bath with a scented bath bomb and a good book ๐Ÿง–๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ’•
    Or curling up with my dog and watching a movie ๐Ÿถ xxx

  5. I love this Jenny! There’s a weird focus at the moment on always being productive, even in your free time, and I find it a bit dangerous. We are totally allowed to lounge around when we feel like it, and to just enjoy junk food, junk tv and sleeping! It definitely helps cheer me up when I’m really sad.
    Beth x

    1. There really is, Iโ€™ve noticed that too. Although Iโ€™ve always struggled with down time and allowing myself to relax and not be productive, actually seeing that sort of behaviour being praised really concerns me because itโ€™s not healthy xxx

  6. Iโ€™ve been going through something similar recently and have been reevaluating my life trying to find a better balance, after finding myself exhausted all the time. Reading is always something I can lose myself in, as is writing. Spending more time with family and friends. And a good cup of tea!

  7. I treat myself to some of the same things as you but unfortunately nothing has really been cheering me up recently. Maybe I might buy a game or something frivolous and see does that work.

  8. This was really good, I loved it!! I didn’t think taking naps would help so much, I usually do blogging, go through instagram lol, watch youtube or movies, read, play board games, go walking, so shopping…
    Loved this post!!!!! ๐Ÿ˜€ <3

      1. Thatโ€™s true, I find pausing and listening to what I actually want to do in that precise moment, helps, then I can throw myself into the activity- yoga, gym, dance, roller skating, meditation- and enjoy it more ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. I love this!! Self-care is so important and itโ€™s something that we often push to the side. Itโ€™s amazing what a good nap or a new book can do to refresh your soul and give your life some new encouragement and perspective! โ˜บ๏ธ

  10. Could easily and happily spend time doing most of these things. I love having a nap and playing playstation for hours ! Deffo need some time out every now and then x

  11. These are great things to cheer yourself up. I tend to take a nap, listen to music or eat a bit of junk food from time to time when I feel down.

  12. These are great ideas, I’ve never had a massage but they sound like the best way to make yourself feel better and more at peace. I’ve really needed this today since I keep getting put down by work and losing track of self care, such a good post~


  13. Recently I haven’t been on my A game and reading books have definitely been my saviour. Such a nice post to remind people to do things for themselves every now and then.

    Rebecca Elaine x

  14. Totally agree with these points! Sometimes a nap and a book can do you the world of good. I always feel like I need to be getting things done and I’m hard on myself if I take a break but it’s totally okay and well deserved. I’m with you on takeaways too, some days you just need McDonalds! Xx

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

  15. Everyone deserves a break every now and then! I wish I could enjoy a massage, but I just tense up the second they touch me. I can’t relax on the table at all!! For me, it’s either a pamper evening of a day of nothing but netflix without feeling guilty. It used to be cooking, but now I do so many recipes that sort of still feels like work… self sabotage ๐Ÿ˜‚ x


    1. It’s important to find a masseuse you feel SUPER comfortable with because if you don’t it’s not relaxing at all. So can take a bit of time and work but once you’ve found them, they’re amazing! It’s a shame cooking isn’t a “treat yourself” thing for you anymore! xxx

  16. This is such a good post – it’s definitely easy to get carried away and not let ourselves switch off these days. I needed this today – thank you!

  17. We all need to treat ourselves sometimes! Buying a new book is a great one – I do this too! Infact, I bought a new one by Dorothy Koomson today. Loved this post xxx

    1. I love Dorothy Koomson! I’ve been incredibly lucky to read a few advance copies of her books and she just knocks it out of the park every single time! Hope you enjoy it ๐Ÿ™‚ is that The Brighton Mermaid? I haven’t got around to reading that one yet! xxx