Meaningful conversation

It’s likely that this post is going to be a bit of a nonsensical ramble. But that’s okay. I’m going with the flow and seeing where the wind takes me with this one. A couple of months ago now, I tweeted a tweet. Yes, you might say, that’s generally what you do on Twitter. Well this particular tweet was met with a big response, a lot of likes and retweets and a heck of a lot of comments. Some wholeheartedly agreeing with me, some half agreeing with me and some not so much. But with over 800 favourites and 200 retweets, it was obviously a tweet that a lot of people resonated with. 

The tweet in question was this:

” How much you weigh and how much you earn are the two most boring pieces of information about anybody on this planet. Yet, they’re the two things that society has always led us to try and care about the most”

If you follow me on Twitter, you may have seen it, if you’re reading it for the first time now then you’re probably either nodding your head in agreement or rolling your eyes at someone else trying to spout motivating bullshit all over the Twittersphere. I wasn’t, it was just a thought that popped into my head one day, one I couldn’t stop thinking about. So I decided to tweet it. Trust me, I’m not trying to be deep or meaningful with that tweet.

But deep and meaningful is exactly what this post is about because it’s exactly what was lacking when I came to think about that quote that I tweeted. Meaningful conversation. Obviously meaningful conversation will mean different things to different people depending on our likes and interests. E.G if you love Formula 1 like my boyfriend and I do, a meaningful conversation to us might be about the different elements of F1. Same for people who like theatre, books, gardening and so on.

But referencing back to my Tweet again (don’t worry I’m not that person that keeps retweeting themselves), I genuinely do believe what I said. They’re both just numbers. Your weight is a number on a scale and your income in a number in your bank account. I’m not saying people shouldn’t individually care a bit about either/or of these things, what I’m saying is that you can care… but they’re boring pieces of information that I don’t care about in regards to other people nor do I want to talk about.

If I’m having an interesting conversation with someone, I don’t think in a million years I’d think, “oooh I wonder how much they weigh!” or “hmmm how much does this bod earn?” Why would I? Why are those numbers relevant? I’m sure we all have a few of these people in our lives who only talk about money. I certainly do. Every time I see them it’s always money, savings, how much you’re earning, how much you get paid etc etc. And I’ve learnt to tune out because I don’t care. It’s mindless babble. It’s noise to fill a gap. 

There are so many incredible and important things in this world to be thinking and talking about; the universe, the oceans, science, animals, books, music, dreams, culture, travel, politics and more. Yet here we are, asking someone who we haven’t seen in 2 months how much they’re earning now, how much they have saved and re-hashing the same pointless conversation over and over again. What’s the point. What is the point.

As I said, I’m not saying you shouldn’t care about your personal situation with these two things. Although I’m going to bite my tongue about weight and the number on the scale otherwise I’ll go into a whole other sphiel about diet culture and we’ll be here all night. But I’m not saying we shouldn’t care… If we care, we care. That’s up to us. Some people are worried about how much they earn because they can’t pay bills. That definitely warrants a care.

But when it comes to other people, relationships, friendships, conversation, why on Earth aren’t we talking about stuff that really goddamn matters? Things that could inspire hours of conversation, debate, discussion and questions.

We know more about the universe than we do about our own oceans. Do you think any of us could comprehend what’s lying at the bottom where nobody has ever gone?

Let’s talk about how by 2025, it’s estimated that there’s going to be more plastic in our oceans than fish.

Let’s discuss conspiracy theories. Titanic, the moon landing, 9/11.

Religion or science. Or both? Our Universe. Or Goddamn Universe and everything that’s in it. Can you even begin to think about that?

Psychology. Learn about controversial psychological experiments and psychologists like Stanley Milgram or Philip Zimbardo and The Stanford Prison Experiment. That sh*t is seriously interesting.

There’s so much more to life than numbers. Numbers on the scales, numbers in the bank, numbers on your Twitter account. Although they’re boring as sin, we’re allowed to care about these things, of course we are. Just don’t forget to talk about other stuff too.

In the comments, tell me something unusual. A fascinating story, a random fact, something you believe in.

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52 thoughts on “Meaningful conversation

  1. Couldn’t agree more with your tweet. Numbers don’t define a person and there’s much more significant things to focus on x

  2. Interesting point! I think the only time income becomes relevant is when we’re talking about income inequality. In that kind of discussion your income doesn’t define you but is used to unite people, ie so those with unnecessarily low incomes can work together to fight that. I’m a bit of a politics nerd so that kind of thing is right up my meaningful conversation alley. Xx

    Megan // pixieskiesblog.wordpress.com

  3. I tend to find that the people who focus so heavily on these numbers, are masking some insecurity elsewhere. It is a boring conversation topic, far more interesting things to talk about!

  4. I completely agree with you! I’m so sick of boring and meaningless conversations when I know I can talk for hours about things that interest me (I personally love discussing true crime + conspiracy theories) Great post ❤️

  5. In the modern world so much gets reduced to a soundbite or a number. It’s bollocks. And like you say, very dull and uninteresting. I want to know what makes people tick, what lights their fire, what makes their heart sing. That’s where life is!

  6. YES YES YES to all of this! I am so fed up of being asked about money or a load of other judgemental things whenever I see people after a while, why does it matter?! People seem to think that money defines people and that they have a right to ask what we earn or what we do with it, and it’s actually none of their business at all. I totally agree why aren’t we talking about more important things? Why does it always come back to the same thing? God it’s boring. I would absolutely love to discuss conspiracy theories with someone 😂there is so much more in this world to talk about than money and weight xxx

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

    1. You can discuss conspiracy theories with me any time!!! I love them! Totally agree with everything you say, I think as someone who’s self employed as well, they seem to think it’s okay to ask you how much you earn. My boyfriends mum said to me once, “so you going to sign up for job seekers then?” Like no, because I have a job. Ffs 😂 xxx

  7. Definitely agreed with your tweet, weight and income are boring subjects. Like you say, there is so much fascinating information out there. I remember learning about Stanley Milgram’s obedience experiment in my degree, it was really interesting! I’m so curious what the Stanford Prison Experiment is about, I’m going to have to Google it right now. Thanks for sharing Jenny, really thought provoking post 💖 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    1. Oh there’s a film about it on Netflix!!! It’s called The Stanford Prison Experiment and it’s got actors but it’s basically a dead accurate depiction of what happened. It’s SO good! xxx

  8. I agree with you about what you said about weight and income. I mean – it doesn’t define a person’s morals and such. Some people can be rotten whether they’re big, small, rich, or poor. Life isn’t a cookie cutter! I usually try to avoid asking friends how much they make.

    If you want to know something unusual, queen termites grow to be inches long, as they become a baby-making factory for a few decades. I mean, I hate bugs but it’s interesting to learn about them!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

    1. I do too, I never ask people how much they make because quite honestly, I don’t care! It makes absolutely no difference to me 🙂

      Oh wow really? That’s cool and kinda gross! Not the biggest bug fan over here either but they are pretty fascinating in what they can do! xxxx

  9. The older I get the less about money I care. Give me enough to have a comfortable life and I am happy. I’d much rather have time to spend doing things I like than working around the clock to make money so that I can feel better than other people. Even having things like fancy handbags and flashy cars doesn’t bother me anymore. Believe me, they don’t make you happy.

  10. So very true, I would never think about how much someone earns or how much they weigh. It’s not a measure of who they are or anyone else for that matter.

  11. I completely agree with your tweet, I think that’s why I love getting to chat with people online – because those two things aren’t massively evident from a profile picture! Also, any time you want to talk conspiracy theories – hit me up! My absolute favourite thing to debate haha!
    Beth x Adventure & Anxiety

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