It’s likely that this post is going to be a bit of a nonsensical ramble. But that’s okay. I’m going with the flow and seeing where the wind takes me with this one. A couple of months ago now, I tweeted a tweet. Yes, you might say, that’s generally what you do on Twitter. Well this particular tweet was met with a big response, a lot of likes and retweets and a heck of a lot of comments. Some wholeheartedly agreeing with me, some half agreeing with me and some not so much. But with over 800 favourites and 200 retweets, it was obviously a tweet that a lot of people resonated with.
The tweet in question was this:
” How much you weigh and how much you earn are the two most boring pieces of information about anybody on this planet. Yet, they’re the two things that society has always led us to try and care about the most”
If you follow me on Twitter, you may have seen it, if you’re reading it for the first time now then you’re probably either nodding your head in agreement or rolling your eyes at someone else trying to spout motivating bullshit all over the Twittersphere. I wasn’t, it was just a thought that popped into my head one day, one I couldn’t stop thinking about. So I decided to tweet it. Trust me, I’m not trying to be deep or meaningful with that tweet.
But deep and meaningful is exactly what this post is about because it’s exactly what was lacking when I came to think about that quote that I tweeted. Meaningful conversation. Obviously meaningful conversation will mean different things to different people depending on our likes and interests. E.G if you love Formula 1 like my boyfriend and I do, a meaningful conversation to us might be about the different elements of F1. Same for people who like theatre, books, gardening and so on.
But referencing back to my Tweet again (don’t worry I’m not that person that keeps retweeting themselves), I genuinely do believe what I said. They’re both just numbers. Your weight is a number on a scale and your income in a number in your bank account. I’m not saying people shouldn’t individually care a bit about either/or of these things, what I’m saying is that you can care… but they’re boring pieces of information that I don’t care about in regards to other people nor do I want to talk about.
If I’m having an interesting conversation with someone, I don’t think in a million years I’d think, “oooh I wonder how much they weigh!” or “hmmm how much does this bod earn?” Why would I? Why are those numbers relevant? I’m sure we all have a few of these people in our lives who only talk about money. I certainly do. Every time I see them it’s always money, savings, how much you’re earning, how much you get paid etc etc. And I’ve learnt to tune out because I don’t care. It’s mindless babble. It’s noise to fill a gap.
There are so many incredible and important things in this world to be thinking and talking about; the universe, the oceans, science, animals, books, music, dreams, culture, travel, politics and more. Yet here we are, asking someone who we haven’t seen in 2 months how much they’re earning now, how much they have saved and re-hashing the same pointless conversation over and over again. What’s the point. What is the point.
As I said, I’m not saying you shouldn’t care about your personal situation with these two things. Although I’m going to bite my tongue about weight and the number on the scale otherwise I’ll go into a whole other sphiel about diet culture and we’ll be here all night. But I’m not saying we shouldn’t care… If we care, we care. That’s up to us. Some people are worried about how much they earn because they can’t pay bills. That definitely warrants a care.
But when it comes to other people, relationships, friendships, conversation, why on Earth aren’t we talking about stuff that really goddamn matters? Things that could inspire hours of conversation, debate, discussion and questions.
We know more about the universe than we do about our own oceans. Do you think any of us could comprehend what’s lying at the bottom where nobody has ever gone?
Let’s talk about how by 2025, it’s estimated that there’s going to be more plastic in our oceans than fish.
Let’s discuss conspiracy theories. Titanic, the moon landing, 9/11.
Religion or science. Or both? Our Universe. Or Goddamn Universe and everything that’s in it. Can you even begin to think about that?
Psychology. Learn about controversial psychological experiments and psychologists like Stanley Milgram or Philip Zimbardo and The Stanford Prison Experiment. That sh*t is seriously interesting.
There’s so much more to life than numbers. Numbers on the scales, numbers in the bank, numbers on your Twitter account. Although they’re boring as sin, we’re allowed to care about these things, of course we are. Just don’t forget to talk about other stuff too.