Mental Health Reviews

My ‘Anti-Anxiety’ Bucket List *

#AD It’s absolutely no secret by now that I’ve suffered with Generalised Anxiety Disorder for a good 6 or so years. I’ve spoke about it on my blog multiple times (I have a whole Mental Health section here, with plenty of personal anxiety related posts as well as tips and tricks for anyone else that might be suffering) and I always mention it on Twitter. I’m very open and honest about my journey, experience, goals and ambitions and most things I do, I take anxiety into consideration.

I’ve had therapy in the past and from that, I’ve learnt to accept that my GAD may always be a part of me. However, I’m learning more and more each day how to live with it and manage it, instead of fight it. Anxiety has taken a lot from me and limited my life in so many ways but gradually, I’m taking the control back.

I never want my anxiety to limit my life. I want to be able to experience things I want to experience without having anxiety pulling me back by the collar saying, “no, I don’t think so!” It might be a little harder for me than some other people but with support, love, self belief and coping mechanisms, I know I can do anything I set my mind to.

So today I wanted to write a little ‘Anti-Anxiety’ Bucket List. I’m not usually a huge fan of bucket lists and I’m not intending this to be a list that I’m going to actively tick off but more of a way of saying ‘f you’ to anxiety and making a note of some things (big and small) that I’d love to do in my life that I won’t let anxiety stop me doing.

If I don’t end up ticking these things off? So what. Circumstances change. But the idea isn’t that it’s all or nothing, it’s knowing that if it came to it, anxiety would’t stop me living my best life.

Moving out and having my own place

I’m not ashamed to still be living with my parents in my 20’s but I’d love to have my own place at some point in my life. I’d love to decorate it how I like, be the host for Christmas and of course have my own little office space for blogging. Moving out seems pretty daunting (probably for everyone, not just someone with anxiety) but it’s something I’d love to do.

Having a baby

Phew, that’s a big one isn’t it? I’m 26 and have no plans to have a baby any time soon. I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 4 years and we’ve discussed baby names that we like but that’s about as far as that conversation has gone. The thought of being pregnant and giving birth makes me break out in a sweat. And my anxiety makes my pregnancy fears even worse. But one day, I’d love to have a little family (preferably 2 boys!)

Do a driving experience at a race track

I love Motorsport (I wrote about a visit to Donington Formula 1 Museum here and my recent stay at the Brooklands Hotel here), I love watching the cars fly around a track and I’m in constant awe of these incredible pieces of machinery and the speeds they can get up to. I’m relatively close to both Brands Hatch and Silverstone and I’d love to do a driving experience around one of these tracks one day.

Travel alone

This one seems completely unrealistic to me right now but I’ve always loved the idea of going on holiday alone and I still stand by that now. It’s something I’d love to do in my life and I know it would be a huge challenge for my anxiety. I don’t even necessarily mean anywhere far and exotic, I’d just like the experience of being alone and navigating a different environment without the help and support of someone else.

Do something within the film / television industry

A pipe dream of mine has always been to be a voice for a character in an animation. I think that’d be so much fun and an amazing experience seeing your animation with your voice come to life. I’m not sure how I’d ever get into doing that but this is a bucket list, so anything goes. I’m a huge TV series fan as well, so being an extra on a show would be incredible.

I’d love to hear what you’d put on your own anti-anxiety bucket list (or just your regular bucket list if you don’t suffer from anxiety!) Share the wildest and biggest dreams and goals you have!

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Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.

123 Comments

  1. Solo travel is the best thing I ever did for my anxiety! Its so nerve wracking to begin with but once, I started getting into the days and doing lots of different things, it felt so normal and less scary! X

    Melanie || http://www.melaniewithanie.com

    1. I think it’s amazing you did that! I’d love to read some tips type posts about it!

  2. Mine is really simple. Go to the cinema on my own. I feel I often miss out because I won’t go places on my own.

    1. I struggle going places on my own too. I haven’t been anywhere alone for about 5 years.

      1. It’s frustrating how easy it is for some people but I’ve faith we will get there.

    2. rebeccasfisher says:

      I agree with that one. Go cinema alone and eventually have children. I have a huge fear of needles and know that pregnancy can involve alot if things don’t run smoothly.

  3. daysoutNOW says:

    I moved out at 19 and it was horrendous. I was always skint and lost friends as I could no longer afford to go out.
    So I joined the army, got married and now have 3 children. A few years ago my wife and I walked the 84 miles from Carlisle to Newcastle (Hadrians wall) for Breast cancer. Awesome experience.
    My bucket list would feature lots of travelling and becoming a writer.
    Loved your blog, thanks for sharing!

    1. Wow that’s quite a sorry!

      1. Darren Lswson says:

        Thank you. The reason we did the Hadrians wall walk is because my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2015. It has given me anxiety but we are still trying to be strong.
        Life is tough, just enjoy each day and do more of what you enjoy doing! 😍

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  4. Ahh Jenny I love this post so much! I first moved out of home at 17 for uni and I was TERRIFIED. I loved the independence but having to get to grips with all the new ‘adulting’ tasks like setting up your electricity and internet was really overwhelming for me and my anxiety. But now I love having my own little space – and I’m sure when you get yours you’ll love it too! Also a racetrack experience sounds SO fun, I think my uncle did one as he’s really into F1 and he absolutely loved it. I hope you get the chance to try it (and do a blog post haha!)
    Beth x

    1. My uncle has one booked as well but hasn’t done it yet! I wish I’d have gone to Uni for that very reason. I’d be much better equipped for life right now if I did!

  5. AH! I’m so writing my own bucket list for my anxiety because I need a kick up the bum to do things. I also want to do the speed track and traveling alone…it’s just whether I’ll let myself do it! You’ve got this, Jenny! <33

    Daisy xoxo | TheDeeWhoLived

    1. So have you lovely! It was really liberating writing this list 😌

  6. Love your list 🙂 I’ve had panic attacks and anxiety for over 20 years now but I’m currently on a solo trip in Europe so it’s definitely an achievable goal. I hope you get to do it some day xx

    1. Wow! That’s incredible and so inspirational!

  7. I still live at home at 30 (I have lived in a flat before with an ex though and came back when we split up). I really don’t think people think before they joke or give you “banter” about the real reason you live at home. The truth is moving out seems absolutely overwhelming. Hoping to do it this year though as our offices are moving to White City and that is going to add significantly to my journey.

    1. Totally agree, there’s loads of reasons why you’d live at home and none of them have anything to do with anyone 😌

  8. Moving out does feel really daunting when you have anxiety. I ended up living alone after a relationship breakdown, and at first it felt like the scariest thing in the world. To make matters worse I ended up living miles away from friends and family as the place I’m from was too expensive for me to rent a place on my own. As I’d only just started driving I was too scared to even drive down the motorway to go and visit them. But over the weeks and months my confidence grew in such a big way, and it’s only from living alone I realised I really can do it! I can be completely independent and not rely on anyone, and it’s such an empowering feeling. if you do ever get the chance to move out, my advice is go for it. It’s scary at first but after a while it’s second nature and you grow to love it. Even just going round the supermarket and picking out your own shopping, paying bills and everything else is satisfying when you’re by yourself.I found that buying myself lots of pretty homewares and making my home a space I genuinely loved spending time in really helped xxx
    http://www.aworldofwellness.co.uk

    1. Wow that’s an amazing story. If anything happened with my boyfriend and I, I’d still be living with my parents so I wouldn’t be alone thankfully so that sounds like a huge life change for you! But I’m glad it worked out for the best 😌

  9. You’ve outlined some great goals to work toward and I truly hope that you achieve them all.

    http://littlemissmelanie.com

    1. Thank you 😌

  10. Britt | Alternatively Speaking says:

    These are great goals! I never considered the idea of being a voice in an animated film, but I think that would be so much fun!
    Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca

    1. It really would!

  11. So great that you’ve got goals to help you progress – I hope you achieve them all x

    1. Thank you 😌

  12. I hope in time you can achieve everything you want xx

    1. Thank you 😌

  13. Thanks for sharing. I’ve not been diagnosed with GAD but I know I have it.was diagnosed with anxiety before and didn’t trust doctors after they never helped and misdiagnosised me as a child. I don’t really have a list like this. I struggle sometimes. I know anxiety has held me back and I’m not open enough about it. I can’t seem to talk about it and when I do I wonder if people realise how hard it can be. I’m ok at the moment but get blips occasionally.

    1. I think people online definitely realise how hard it is – it’s more common than you’d think. Opening up and being honest really helped me

  14. Luna Enigma says:

    This is an excellent list. Much luck to you achieving your goals.

    1. Thank you 😌

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  16. Miss Blogs-A-Bit says:

    Love this post and I truly hope that you get to tick each one off over time. Voicing an animated character is such an awesome goal! Like you, I hope to travel alone sometime. At the moment I just don’t have the confidence. We’ll get there one day I’m sure!

    http://www.missblogsabit.com

    1. I do hope so! 😌

  17. Such a great post and so many ways to change your view of the world. Travelling alone is the best thing I have ever done to combat anxiety, I hope you get to experience it in this lifetime

    Char || http://www.memoirsmusings.com

    1. Wow really? That’s amazing!

  18. thestonedartist says:

    I lived with my parents until I was about 25. Mostly because I’m obsessed with them. So there’s no shame in that! But living alone is also AMAZING. You can surround your whole space with your vibes and the things you love.
    This is a beautiful list.

    1. Definitely no shame in it 😌

  19. carnyschronicles says:

    Such a great list. It is funny how people experience anxiety differently but remember you got this😊💪. Travel alone is sounds like fun and more adventurous so you should try it. Great post

    1. Thank you 😌

  20. Thank you for sharing this and being so honest! My anxiety skyrockets when travelling and on flights, and like you, I’d like kids but pregnancy sounds too scary for the next few years

    1. With travel, it’s usually the anticipation that’s worse! Once I’m going or there, I’m much less anxious!

  21. What a great way to challenge yourself! I traveled alone and LOVED It. It was on my bucket list too and I eventually did it last New Year’s Day (2018) I went to Portland alone and navigated the city by myself. I blogged about it along the way which made me feel like I had a little friend with me 🙂 I hope you do this one day! You won’t regret it.

    1. Wow! That’s amazing and well done for doing it! 😌

  22. jasonlikestotravel says:

    I posted a while ago at how traveling alone was a big step in managing my anxiety. I’d fully recommend it. My first solo trip was to Australia, a long way to go but having a common language was a big help. Perhaps a trip to an English speaking location would be a less anxiety inducing / good start 🙂
    Fingers crossed you tick all the others off your list too!

    1. That’s a really good idea! I don’t fancy Australia (too hot, too many bugs haha!) but a English speaking country would definitely be a good place to start!

      1. jasonlikestotravel says:

        Haha that’s true. Although I didn’t find Sydney too bad (or I was completely oblivious to all the bugs).
        Hopefully you can make it happen somewhere less bug-infested though 🙂

  23. Rachelle Lewis says:

    Wow, what an amazing post, so inspiring. Your bucket list has inspired me to create a small one of my own.

    1. Thank you and that’s amazing!

  24. Rachelle Lewis says:

    Wow, what an amazing read! It is a great list.

  25. I love that you put getting into film and TV on your bucket list – totally relate because that’s one of my dreams! Your blog is a great way to start with short stories and poems – go for it 🙂

    1. I’m not really into writing short stories or poems (I’ve tried writing fiction before – not for me!) but hopefully getting into TV is in my future!

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