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Saying Goodbye To the Comfort Zone… Sort of

This post contains gifted items 

I’ve always loved the comfort zone. Especially within the last 6 or 7 years, when my Generalized Anxiety Disorder started. The comfort zone was somewhere I never wanted to stray from. And I don’t necessarily think a comfort zone is a bad thing. I remember Louise Pentland talking about how she likes her comfort zone too and I felt like, “Yes. Okay then. This is a normal feeling”.

We’re constantly bombarded with “inspirational quotes” about how life starts at the end of your comfort zone and everything you want is on the other side of your comfort zone, blah blah blah. I feel like my issue with inspirational quotes is another post for another time but you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. Go onto Pinterest now and I bet you’ll see at least 3 quotes of a similar nature.

And whilst I get it – sort of – I’ve always been a bit reluctant to believe it. I think we’ve all been led astray and led to believe that in order to escape your comfort zone, you need to do something big and drastic. Like quit your job, move country, change your name and never look back *eye rolls*. Which, not only is a thousand percent unrealistic and not doable for the majority of people. It’s also not true.

I like to think of the comfort zone as concentric circles. They get bigger and bigger and bigger the further outwards you go. And that’s kind of like a comfort zone. The things get scarier and scarier and scarier the bigger they are. But don’t forget, there’s a lot of other, smaller, less daunting circles for you to experiment with too.

We’re all so different and something someone would consider out of their comfort zone, might be an absolute piece of cake to someone else. And this is where we get into the point about how important it is not to judge yourself against other people. Just because that person is comfortable posing in their underwear and you’re not, has absolutely no correlation.

Now, as someone with anxiety, I gotta say my comfort zone is pretty tight. I like all my things being in the right place. I like my own bed. I like my routine. I like having a plan and knowing exactly what everyone is doing every day of the week. Coupled with being a Type A personality AND a Virgo. Well, you can imagine I’m pretty rigid to put it bluntly.

But this year, I DO feel like I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone. I do feel like I’ve learnt more about a lot of things this year already than I have for a long time. I feel like I’ve turned a corner. I feel like I’m growing up. And I feel like I’m slowly leaving the comfort zone behind. But not too far behind. Because I still enjoy coming back to it whenever I can.

To some people, these might seem like the most insignificant things in the world. But this year I have:

Experimented a lot more with outfit photos: This is where the images within this post come in. I’ve always hated photos of myself. Especially within my 20’s (I loved how I looked in my late teens but alas, things change). I’ve always felt awkward in front of the camera and just felt like a great, big, dollop. Basically.

So taking outfit shots has always been a bit anxiety-provoking for me. However, that’s something I’ve definitely been stepping out of my comfort zone to do a lot more this year! I was contacted by LILYLULU about featuring one of their items within a blog post and I instantly fell in love with their tulle skirts.

I’ve never wore or owned a tulle skirt before so again, this was something else quite far out of my comfort zone. The skirt I chose was this one and as soon as I put it on, I fell in love. It made me feel like an actual fairy – I never, ever, wanted to take it off. It’s super comfy too- the waist band hugs you tightly but not too tightly and the material is surprisingly soft and not at all itchy. Considering it’s affordable price, it’s really great quality too!

Started taking medication for my anxiety: This is something I put off for literally 7 years. I was well and truly on my high horse about taking medication for my anxiety and I was terrified of the potential side effects. But earlier this year, after a severe bout of health anxiety, the nurse and the GP said I needed to. And honestly? It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for my anxiety.

Started a worry management workshop: Along with the medication, I was also referred back to CBT. Which I had years ago but found it didn’t really work at the time. But, things have changed, so I’m willing to try again. Except this time, I opted for a group workshop, instead of 1-on-1. Which is SERIOUSLY out of my comfort zone! And it was the best decision I could have made.

Been on my first overnight press trip: In January, I was sent on my first ever overnight press trip for my blog to the Brooklands Hotel which not only was an incredible experience but also something I never thought I had the guts to do! Then, in March, I had another press visit to West Stow Pods!

Changed up my photography and editing style: I’ve always hated taking blog photos and you’ll have noticed within the last half of year, my blog has used primarily stock photos. And whilst a lot of my content suffices with stock photos, when it comes to product shots and things, I’ve finally found a photography and editing style that I adore. And it’s so different to what I’d usually do. See an example of that here!

Created a blogging course to release soon: And finally, I’ve only gone and created a blogging course! This is something that’s been on my mind for literally years but I never had the guts to even start. But this year, I did. And it’s complete and ready to go. It’s not released just yet but if you’re interested in finding out more, check out this page!

How have you stepped out of your comfort zone this year?

* This post contains gifted items. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

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Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.

120 Comments

  1. This is the best blog post I’ve read in months! So candid and gentle at the same time. Well done – I think the ‘inspirational quoters’ could learn a lot from you 🙂
    PS. you look lovely in this skirt!

    1. Thank you so much, such a lovely comment x

  2. Firstly – love this skirt and love the pictures’ aesthetic!

    I’ve been in therapy this year and realised that I’m just not very good at change / unpredictability. I strive on routine and demands. The more time I have to think about something, the worse it is.

    I’ve put myself out of my comfort zone so much this year and moved from London back to Sussex. I’m trying out new places locally and attempting a vibrant social life but I definitely still need my down time with Netfix & a blanket or I burn out!

    1. Thank you! I’m similar, I don’t like unpredictability either. I love everything to be planned and knowing exactly what I’m doing. From what I’ve read of your blog over the last few posts, you seem to be doing amazingly on your own!

  3. Such a pretty skirt! 😀 It’s hard for me to step out of my comfort zone and if anything, since I got diagnosed 2yrs ago with Horton’s Disease, I have gone back a dozen steps. I used to do a lot of IG Stories, didn’t mind talking or showing my face etc. I can’t seem to be able to push myself to even talk on them now, let alone show my face. It feels incredibly out of my comfort zone.

    Sarah 🌺 || Boxnip || Latest Post

    1. Thank you! Ah showing my face and talking on an Insta story is welllll out of my comfort zone too!

  4. Your outfit is SO beautiful, that skirt is so gorgeous! You look incredible and the photos are really stunning. I think you’ve done such amazing things in regards to getting out of your comfort zone. You’ve made such an amazing amount of progress and you’ve got a lot to show for it – just look how successful your work is and how much more confident and happier you seem. I’m proud of you – and really, really inspired by you!
    Beth x Adventure & Anxiety

    1. Thank you 😭😭😭

  5. Honestly, just blogging has taken me so far out of my comfort zone this year. From the OMG people are actually reading my blog and what if I’m leading them all astray, to self-promoting and learning how to pitch brands and getting in touch with other bloggers.

    It’s been the most rewarding step outside of my comfort zone that I have ever taken because it’s built a beautiful online blogging community for me of friends that I would never have known existed had I not taken that first blogging step, and the second and third.

    That skirt is total fairy dreams! And the photography is *chefs kiss* amazeballs!

    1. That’s amazing, I’m so proud of you!

  6. Pushing our comfort zone can be so rewarding . You look fantastic in this outfit , loved your skirt and the photo editing is on point. Happy Wednesday !

    https://www.ninakobi.com/2019/10/givenchy-poudre-premiere-loose-powder.html

  7. Omg these are the cutest photos! The skirt is absolutely stunning! xx

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

    1. Thank you x

  8. Mariam says:

    The photos on your recent posts have been so beautiful, Jenny! Whatever you’ve been doing to get them this way, keep at it! And you look stunning in that skirt!

    1. Thanks so much!

  9. What an inspiring post and well done you. I absolutely agree with you that the comfort zone means something for everyone else. To be honest I cannot imagine having done anything recently that was out of my comfort zone, but maybe it is time to explore the unknown a bit. Also, I love that skirt on you. Even before you mentioned in the post that it was send to you. I thought it looks good on you and makes your legs look really long in one of the pics! Looking forward to more pics of you 🙂

    1. Awh thank you! My legs look deceivingly long 😂

  10. Lauren says:

    You look beautiful Jenny, the skirt is stunning. You’ve done so many things outside of your comfort zone, you should be really proud!

    Lauren | http://www.laurenyloves.co.uk

    1. Thanks so much!

  11. Love this post. I also have felt that I have stepped outside of my comfort zone this year, but like you said, my own comfort zone is going to differ to others and so what might be a big step for me isn’t such a big step for someone else. Love the skirt, it’s so so pretty and your photo’s are lovely <3

    Chloe xx
    http://www.chloechats.com

    1. Thanks so much x

  12. These photos are absolutely stunning Jenny – you look beautiful! I absolutely love that skirt too, so magical! Yay to stepping outside your comfort zone 🙂

    Kate | http://www.katelovesx.co.uk/

    1. Thanks so much! Yay indeed!

  13. Lisa's Notebook says:

    Oh wow, Jenny, you look absolutely gorgeous in these photos, a real life fairy, and not just because of the gorgeous skirt (henceforth to be known as the skirt of dreams). I’m so proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone (I hope that doesn’t come across as patronising, it certainly isn’t meant that way) and I love your idea of concentric circles, that’s spot on. Love everything about this blog post, it’s fab! XXX

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

    1. It absolutely is the skirt of dreams! 😍 Not patronising at all – I really appreciate it x

  14. Jenny you look so pretty and this skirt is like a dream! I feel so mesmerized by this location, its so wonderful. I also agree that saying good bye to your comfort zone is extremely important! Wonderful Post! Have a great day!
    Allurerage
    Rampdiary

    1. Thanks so much!

  15. I can definitely relate to what you were saying about loving your comfort zone; I feel exactly the same way. I don’t know whether it’s because of my own anxiety, because I’m also a virgo or for some other reason, but I definitely don’t think it’s a bad thing either.

    Like you, however, this year has definitely been the year where I’ve started challenging my ‘comfort zone’ to get more out of life. In particular, I’ve actually be outside by myself, which is something I couldn’t do before the end of Feb/beginning of March. To some, this seems so insignificant but it’s been literally life changing!

    P.S: I love these photo! And that dress looks GORGEOUS on you.

    1. I definitely meant to say skirt instead of dress there… that’ll teach me for clicking enter before my brain can catch up with my hands!

    2. That’s amazing I’m so proud of you. That’s something I struggle massively with too. So I definitely need to work on that!

  16. Loving the new images! I always love seeing the person behind the posts 🙂 I think I definitely need to step out of my comfort zone more regarding blog photos of myself, and it’s wonderful to know I am not alone in worrying about it! I guess it’s time I stepped out of my comfort zone too x

    1. Awh thank you! x

  17. Kayleigh Zara says:

    Jenny you look absolutely stunning! This skirt suits you so much and you can see it makes you feel confident. I love the tips in this post, I think it’s great to step away from your comfort zone x

    1. Thank you so much! x

  18. Couldn’t agree more! I love my comfort zone, even though that comfort zone has changed a lot over the years. It’s changing again right now as I’ve gone back on medication for anxiety and depression too. I love how you described the comfort zone as concentric circles, it makes so much sense! You look lovely in that outfit too, I really do love that skirt!
    Bella x

    1. Thank you! I’ve gone on medication for the first time this year which is well out of my comfort zone too but actually, it’s helped massively. So I’m really glad I did step out of it in that case! x

  19. Great post. Comfort zones are…really comfy and so it’s difficult to see what pushing out of it will do. Your things are all really positive and it sound like your zone is shifting for the better 😊

    1. That’s the point. But a lot of amazing things lie outside of it. They might not be as comfortable but you’ll definitely gain something more from it! x

      1. Totally agree!

  20. I’m so happy to see you pushing your comfort zone! I’m with you on the inspirational quotes, and I definitely think it’s up to us to create our own boundaries and ways to push them. Truly adore this skirt xxx

    1. I totally agree. We shouldn’t live by anyone else’s boundaries x

  21. I think it’s so important to acknowledge that, as you said, we all have our own individual limits and comfort zones. Comparing ours to someone elses is really setting us up to fail. Why? You’re bound to find something that is a challenge to you and easy to someone else around you…

    1. Exactly! It’s a pointless exercise really x

  22. Nicola Niemc says:

    Gorgeous photos! And the whole concentric circle/comfort zone metaphor is spot on 😊

    1. Thank you! x

  23. I adore the photos in this post so much. The skirt is absolutely beautiful and you look gorgeous xx

    1. Thanks so much Alice x

  24. Victoria Austin says:

    Your photos are lovely, they’ve got such an autumn feel to them! Love the skirt too. x

    1. I know! I’m so pleased with how Autumnal they turned out! x

  25. I love your new images. They are very crisp and definitely lend more of a touch then stock photos.

    “I like to think of the comfort zone as concentric circles. They get bigger and bigger and bigger the further outwards you go.”

    That is a lovely way to describe your thoughts on comfort zones! I feel the same way; once you step outside the circle, you cannot help widening it. Then you take another step! 🙂

    1. I’d still use stock photos – I can’t get images like this often and most of my posts don’t really NEED images like this either. But if I need to, at least now I’m comfortable taking these sorts of photos x

      1. Precisely!

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