Life Lessons From 2019

2019 has hands down been one of the most transformative and most memorable years of my life. It certainly hasn’t been all sunshine and roses; we’ve had our fair share of sad or stressful moments throughout the last 12 months. But 2019 has taught me so much, more than any other year.

In 2019, I’ve seen fear. Grief. Happiness. Opportunity. Growth. Discovery. Vulnerability. And more strength than I’ve had in years. It’s been a tale of two halves. It’s been rock bottom and the highest peaks. It’s been light and dark. It’s been everything. It’s been lesson after lesson after lesson. Here’s some of them.

Not everything has to BE something

Man, this was a tough one for me to crack. As someone who’s a compulsive do-er, who likes to be productive 24/7 and always have something to show for it… yeah, this was one tough. But it’s an important lesson that 2019 taught me. Not everything has to BE something.

If you read a book, you don’t have to review it online. If you watch a film, you don’t have to start a debate about it on Twitter. If you have a hobby, you don’t HAVE to monetize it and make it a “thing”. You CAN just let things be, do things and enjoy things and they’re still as important and meaningful, even if you don’t share it online.

Stepping out of your comfort zone will change your life

It certainly changed mine. I spoke about my relationship with the comfort zone earlier in the year in this post. And in 2019, I stepped out of my comfort zone probably more than I have in the last 6 years combined. I feel better mentally than I’ve done in God knows how long and I really believe that opening my heart and my mind to new things has helped tenfold with that.

In July, I hit rock bottom again with my anxiety and my health anxiety. So I started medication which I’ve put off for years, thinking I didn’t REALLY need it and that I’d prefer to cope without it. I quickly learnt that medication is NOT the enemy and it’s opened up my world again. My life feels full for the first time in years.

Opportunities are around every corner

Since stepping out of my comfort zone more and working incredibly hard, I’ve found that opportunities are everywhere. Sometimes you have to look for them, sometimes you have to put yourself out there and sometimes they just find their way to you. But they are OUT THERE.

I’ve always been big on finding the opportunities in your life – the big, the small and everything in between. Everything is an opportunity if you allow it to be. And 2019 has certainly made me realise that more than ever. My Granddads funeral was an opportunity for me to test my strength. My book contract was an opportunity for me to show what I’m capable of. Everything. Is. Opportunity.

I am the writer of my own story – nobody else

And speaking of my book contract and opportunities – getting offered to have a book published was definitely one of the best things to happen to me this year. Knowing someone out there believes in my blog and what I have to say enough for them to put their trust, money and time in ME, is incredible.

And the experience I’ve had writing my book so far has been great – although it’s only in it’s first draft still, I’ve enjoyed every word. Going back over my journey of anxiety and self discovery in much finer detail has made me notice how far I’ve come and the process of writing my story has made me realise that I’M THE WRITER. Nobody else.

Quality time is everything

As I mentioned in point one, I’ve always struggled with being on the go 24/7 and wanting to be doing something productive ALL THE TIME. So much so that in the past, I’ve sacrificed quality time in order to do work or blog or check emails. It was ridiculous.

This year I’ve really learnt the value of quality time. Whether that’s with your partner, parents, family, friends or even with yourself. Going hand in hand with not everything having to BE something, sometimes it’s okay to just BE. Soak up the moment, with the people you love or with yourself. This quality down time is just as important as anything.

I am capable of anything

And finally, ending on a high note. 2019 has made me realise that I am SO BLOODY CAPABLE. I hit rock bottom with my anxiety in July. I went on medication which helped me tenfold. And since then, I’ve pushed myself further out of my comfort zone than I have done in years.

Anxiety controlled my life for so long. I felt useless. Incapable of basically everything. My world was getting smaller by the day. And I genuinely thought that was going to be my life forever. But it wasn’t. 2019 has taught me that. It showed me the way back to me.

2019, it’s been an absolute pleasure. I love you. I’ll miss you. And thank you – for the memories, for the lessons, for the clarity. For giving me my life back. What has 2019 taught you?


Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.


  1. 12 months sounds like nothing until you stop and reflect on how much you’ve actually achieved! I’m glad you have come out of 2019 feeling so positive. X

    1. Oh totally agree! Day to day it can feel like nothing is changing but then you look back and it’s like… wow.

  2. Quality time really does mean SO much! I love all of these!

    Erin || MakeErinOver

    1. Thank you x

  3. Lovely post! All the best for 2020! x

    1. Thank you x

  4. Happy new year, Great and insightful post, there are some difficult lesson yet I feel like we all could learn one or two things on your journey. I hope to allow myself to feel this 2020.

    1. Thanks so much, happy new year x

  5. These are some lessons you’ve learnt in 2019 Jenny! I learnt to step out of my comfort zone years ago and it honestly changed my life and gave my life a whole new perspective! x

    Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk

    1. It has for me too! I hope I can keep it up this year too x

  6. You’ve had an amazing year – what a way to end the decade! A belated congratulations on your book deal too.

    This year, I learnt that I am appreciated at work as I was promoted in September.

    1. Thank you so much. Congratulations on the promotion! x

  7. Thank you Jenny for sharing so much with us, you have achieved so much, we can all learn so much from you

    1. Thank you, I hope so!

  8. Some very important lessons and I completely agree with the ‘not everything has to be something’. Learning to just simply do things that you enjoy should be enough and shouldn’t stress over it connecting to something else.

    1. Totally agree. That’s been a really hard one to crack but I’m determined to do more of that in 2020.

  9. I love this. I am terrible when it comes to stepping out of my comfort zone, there are so many things I want to do and so many places I want to see but half the time I will not allow myself to leave the house and I get so frustrated but it is something I want to change this year! You have achieved so much this year and you should be really proud of yourself!


    1. I hope you manage to change that. If you need some support or someone to be your cheerleader, you know where I am! x

      1. Thank you!!

  10. I am so proud of everything you’ve accomplished this year. You work so hard and you really deserve the best. I can’t WAIT for your book to come out!

    Jas xx

    1. Yayyyy thank you! x

  11. Love these lessons, and massive congratulations on the book! Here’s to a wonderful 2020.

    1. Thanks so much! x

  12. It’s amazing what 12 months can teach us. U hope that 2020 is a good year for you!

    Ashleigh | https://ashleighwrites.co.uk

    1. Thank you, you too! Btw, there was no comment box on your latest post?x

      1. Thanks for letting me know, I’ve updated the post now 🙂 x

  13. Great post! These are all great lessons. I need to work on overthinking. I always get into my head to much and over analyze it.

    1. Overthinking is a tough one!

  14. Such a lovely post. I can relate to these life lessons entirely.

    I’m hoping to step outside of my comfort zone a little this 2020 and have already began doing so by getting in front of the camera instead of hiding behind.

    I can’t wait to read your future content. Wishing you the best this 2020!

    Kate | thelittlecrunch.co.uk

    1. That’s a great place to start, well done! x

  15. Kayleigh Zara says:

    It sounds like you made some amazing achievements in 2019! I’m so excited for the release of your book, and I’m trying to get out of my comfort zone too! X

    1. Thanks so much! x

  16. What a great post. Some great lessons from 2019. I learned to slow down, say no more often and to prioritise rest. Have a great 2020!

    1. Slow down! Yes! I really need to start doing that this year too.

  17. Wonderful post! I’m sorry there were so many challenges for you in 2019, but it’s great that you were able to get the help you needed! Congrats on the book (that’s amazing!) and best of luck in the coming year 🙂

    1. Thanks so much – I genuinely think the challenges made the year what it did x

  18. Sarah Eliza says:

    Sounds like 2019 has given you a lot of valuable lessons and I hope you have an amazing 2020! I can’t wait to see read your book 🙂
    Sarah x

    1. It sure did – thanks so much! x

  19. Love your lessons and what you took from 2019. Happy New Year and I hope you have a fabulous 2020!

    1. Thank you – Happy New Year! x

  20. These are some difficult but eye-opening lessons! Super proud of you, lovely! I’m just hoping to figure out this whole ‘love yourself’ thing! xD

    Daisy xoxo | TheDeeWhoLived

    1. Ah the love yourself thing! I’m still working on that!

  21. These are such amazing and valuable lessons to take away from the year. I love the first one about not everything having to be something. I feel like as a society we put so much pressure on for things like that and it’s nice to just do things because you want to sometimes x


    1. Yeah exactly! Especially since blogging and side hustles become a thing. What ever happened to just doing something for fun?

  22. Happy New Year! Wow! You have had an incredible year…so much wisdom here. Thank you!

    1. Thank you – Happy New Year to you too!

  23. Wow what an incredible year! It’s been a pleasure joining you in 2019 and been a part of your blog both as an advertiser and avid reader of your posts. I hope you have an absolutely fantastic 2020. Happy new year! Xx

    Lauren | http://www.laurenyloves.co.uk

    1. Thanks so much Lauren, happy new year to you! x

  24. It has been an absolute pleasure to watch you step out of your comfort zone this year.

    You’ve come so incredibly far, it’s like a completely new Jenny.

    I can’t wait to see what next year brings you x x

    1. Thank you so much – that’s such a huge compliment. I feel like a completely new Jenny! Same to you Claire, here’s to 2020!

  25. I have really tried to step out my comfort zone this year xx

    1. That’s good to hear.

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