AD – This is an advertorial feature
Whoever said resolutions and New Year goals had to be established on the 1st January? Nobody… that’s who! And personally, I love setting a range of different goals for myself throughout the year. Rarely a month goes by where I haven’t set myself some sort of goal. My boyfriend Carl and I recently sat down and thought about our relationship goals for 2020, some things we’ve like to do more of which will hopefully improve our relationship even further.
I like the idea of setting goals together with someone else. Of course this doesn’t have to be a romantic partner – it could be a friend, a parent, a child – anyone. But setting out to achieve things together can be a great bonding experience and an opportunity to get even closer and more understanding in your relationship.
So Carl and I came up with 5 things we’d love to try and do more of this year as a couple. #3 might surprise you:
We will attend more racing events together
We’re very much a Motorsport couple. I wasn’t into Motorsport AT ALL before I met him but the more I learnt about it, the more I loved it. And now, it’s one of my favourite things in the world and I love being able to experience this passion with him. Racing events are so much fun – the cars, the atmosphere, everything about them is brilliant.
We’ve been to a few in the past; the DTM in 2018 and 2019, the Blancpain GT series in 2019 and the WEC 4 hours of Silverstone last year too. But our goal for this year is to do even MORE. Even if it’s a series we’re not too familiar with – we just want to get ourselves to a race track more often. I can’t see this one being too hard to achieve!
We will go out for a meal together once a month just the two of us
Partially due to my anxiety, I never enjoyed going out for meals much in the past because it was something that made me feel incredibly anxious. BUT as I’m a thousand times better now, my love for going out for meals has come back – thankfully! As it’s something I always loved to do.
So we’ve vowed to go out for a meal, just the two of us, at least once a month. We’ve already completed that for January – as we had a 50% of mains for a pub that we like – so we took advantage of that last week. I’m looking forward to hopefully trying some new food and restaurants as we work through this goal.
We will do more things individually
I know this point sounds a bit backwards to what this post is actually about but particularly for me, this one is really important. Again, my anxiety took a lot from me, including my ability to do anything alone. For years, I’ve relied on my partner to go places and do things. Rarely doing anything alone. So if there was a film at the cinema I wanted to see but he didn’t? I wouldn’t see it. Because I couldn’t go by myself.
So this goal is huge for both us as a couple and me as an individual. I’m only 27, so I’m at a prime place to experience life both as a couple and on my own (not single, just on my own). And really, nothing should be stopping me.
We will cook together more
When I say more I mean, at all. We used to do this a bit but then as life got busier, we just stopped. But in the past we’ve made Thai fish cakes, chunky beef chilli, south western sea food and much more together. Cooking together was always a fun activity and plus – super yummy food at the end of it!
We will watch more performing arts
And finally, we’re hoping to watch more performing arts together going forward. So theater, music, cinema – anything of that nature. Every time we come out of the theater we say we should go more. Every time I come out of the cinema, I say that I want to go to the cinema more. So now’s the time to put that into action! We have a James Bond Orchestra performance booked for February and hopefully a lot more for the rest of the year.
What are your relationship or dating goals for this year? If you’re in a relationship, what would you like to do more of together? If you’re single, what are your dating goals for this year? Let me know!
* This is a sponsored post