AD // Sex is a big part of most of our lives and with the introduction of shows like Sex Education on Netflix, more and more people are talking about sex and making it a more normal part of every day life. Yay! I’ve not been too vocal talking about sex or sex related topics on this blog for a few reasons (mostly out of fear of who might be reading) but I want to start changing that.
I’ve wrote a couple of pieces for other blogs, including this one about 5 Things You Can Do To Enhance Your Masturbation Time and I always really enjoy writing these pieces. I know sex content isn’t for everyone – and that’s okay – but for those of y’all that do want to talk about sex, then it’s nice to have you here!
Today I want to talk about some easy tips you can implement to improve your sex life. We all have personal sex lives, with ourselves and our partners. And it’s okay to admit that your sex life might not be 100% where you want it to be. Our libidos and sex lives change massively over our lifetimes, due to a variety of different things from hormones, stress, health problems and much more.
Sexual wellness is like any other area of wellness; such as physical, mental and emotional. It needs to be nurtured and worked on over time. It’s a constant work in progress and that’s what makes it exciting – in my opinion! So if you’re ready to change things up, even just a little bit, let’s look at these easy ways to improve your sex life.
Understand that penetrative sex isn’t the ONLY way to have sex
If you want to explore this topic further, I’d highly recommend checking out this video from Hannah Witton on What Is Sex? It was incredibly interesting to see people break down what they think of as sex and see that penetrative sex isn’t the only way to do it. As Maeve says in Sex Education, “you have 10 fingers and a tongue – use your imagination”.
Have fun with experimentation
Experimenting can be really daunting at first but nobody is asking you to do BDSM if you don’t want to. Experimenting could mean something as small as having sex in a different room to normal or wearing some new sexy lingerie that you don’t usually wear. Take it slow and do what feels right for you – you can always build up from there.
You might want to invest in some of the best male enhancement pills to get the ball rolling! Experimenting on your own with different sex toys is a great way to get more in tune with what you like for both men and women.
A penis sleeve might be an interesting and exciting new toy to try for those with a penis. They can be used solo or with a partner, depending on the design you choose and there are different styles, depending on the type of desire or stimulation you’re after. There are so many available, there’s bound to be a choice for everyone!
Learn what you like on your own – as well as with your partner
This is a really important point because knowing what we like in our own bodies is a great starting point for improving our sex lives with our partners. If you have a penis, you might want to experiment with a male masturbator and for people with vaginas and a clitoris, there are plenty of amazing vibrators and devices out there to play with too! You can also explore options like Vella’s lube for women, which can enhance pleasure during solo or partnered play.
Communication is SO important
I think this is one of the most important points in this list because before you even DO anything, learning how to communicate what you like, don’t like and what your expectations are is really important and I think this is the point that has helped me the most. Talking about things with your partner can be a bit embarrassing at first but the more you do it, the easier and more natural it’ll feel.
But consent is even more important
And finally, the most important point of all. Consent, consent, consent. However you choose to try and improve your sex life; whether that’s trying a different position or introducing toys into the bedroom, consent should always come first and if either party isn’t happy with it, then it stops and you communicate. Consensual sex is the best sex.
So let me hear your tips! What advice would you give to someone who wants to improve their sex life?
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