When it was Fibromyalgia Awareness Day last year, I invited another blogger onto my blog to guest post and talk about her experience of Fibromyalgia and share some tips for when you receive a diagnosis. I have no experience of the condition myself, so I wanted to hand my platform over to someone that did. Today (27th June 2022) is National PTSD Day and I’ve decided to do the same.
I wasn’t about to write some generic post with tips and tricks on how to deal with PTSD that anyone can find on the internet. I have no experience of PTSD, so it wouldn’t have been fair and it would have been an utterly pointless exercise. Instead, we need to hear from REAL people who have REAL experiences.
So I’m thrilled to welcome Jade from Mum Life and Me onto my blog today for National PTSD Day to share her story about PTSD as well as some things that have helped her with her own situation (which might help you, too).
Jade talks mostly about mental health and motherhood on her blog, with a great mix of content including self care for busy moms, a discussion on whether cockapoos are good with children, her experience of pre/postnatal anxiety and depression and more. Jade experienced trauma during the birth of her first child, which has led to PTSD.
So for National PTSD Day today, Jade is here to tell her story and share some tips with you.
Trigger warning for birth trauma.
I experienced trauma during the birth of my first child, Isla, back in 2014, and as a result suffered with Postnatal Anxiety and Depression. As the years went by, I was longing for another child, and a sibling for Isla. However, I couldn’t get what happened out of my head.
I would panic at the thought of it and it would trigger me to have flashbacks and nightmares. But my desire to have another child was too overbearing so we decided to try for another baby. 5 years after the birth of my first child, I fell pregnant.
I always envisioned having a natural birth. I read about so many women who turned to Hypnobirthing after a c section and had wonderful natural births, and I thought I’d give it a try. However, as my due date was approaching, I started having panic attacks and flashbacks.
I just couldn’t get over the huge fear I had inside me, so I booked in for an elective C Section. This isn’t the easy way out by any means, and I was very scared leading up to it and while on the operating table, but a few coping strategies helped me to stay relatively calm and focused.
I also use these methods on a daily basis so I don’t relapse:
Meditation: I try to meditate for 10-15 minutes on a daily basis. I particularly like to listen to guided meditations on YouTube and Insight Timer which you can do for free. My personal favourites are Boho Beautiful Life and The Well-being Blogger.
Prayer: I find saying a prayer works wonders. It sounds a bit strange but I feel as though there’s a higher force that has by back. I try to start by saying thank you for all that I have, as it’s important to have gratitude. Then I will say, “Please remove the anxiety, fear and negativity. Please take it away.”
Affirmations: I do self love affirmations every day. They seem to kick start my subconscious into believing it to be true. Here are the affirmations I will use:
- I am strong
- I am confident
- I am capable
- I am worthy
- I can do this
Journaling: As soon as I get up on a morning. I will write whatever comes into my head. It seems to help “declutter” the thoughts so I can’t start fresh for the day ahead.
Yoga: When I really get into it, it feels like I’m moving the energy all around my body and I feel so calm and relaxed afterwards.
Walking: I enjoy walking my dog most evenings, especially now the evenings are getting lighter. The walk is great exercise too and makes me feel good afterwards.
Connecting with nature: While on a walk, I like to take in the sounds of the birds tweeting, the water trickling and the trees blowing in the wind. I find it really calming just to be present in the moment.
It’s important to keep doing these things on a daily basis. If, for whatever reason I don’t do them, I will have a relapse.
Thank you so much for Jade for sharing her story on National PTSD Day. If you’re not familiar with PTSD, check out this page for more information about the disorder. If you feel like you might be suffering from PTSD, please speak to your GP or a mental health professional.
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Thank you for sharing your experience Jade, and spreading awareness about this topic!
Thanks for your comment!
I really appreciate your honesty on this post Jenny, the fact you didn’t just write a post with tips from the internet is greatly appreciated. This is one of the reasons I love your blog as it’s truly written from the heart. This is such a beautifully written post which I think so many will relate to and find helpful. There’s some really great tips which I’ll for sure be using to help with my own PTSD. Thank you so much for being so honest both of you! Xo
Elle – ellegracedeveson.com
Thanks Elle I know it would have been a pointless exercise to just copy and paste information you can find on Google, I’d have much rather share a story from someone who’s been there xxx
You are so brave and thank you for sharing your experience. I appreciate you sharing these tips.
I admire Jade for sharing this too! 💛
Thank you so much for sharing your story Jade. I know this will help someone out there who might have experienced similar things.
I’m sure it will too! 💛
I did not know it was national PTSD day. Thanks so much for bringing awareness to this and sharing your story!
I didn’t either until I researched!
I love how Jade has found some daily methods to do to stop herself from having a relapse, such a beautifully written post x
Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk
It’s great isn’t it, those small coping tips can make the world of difference 💛
Thank you for sharing this and exploring experiences with PTSD. I had this in my 20s after I went through a traumatic medical/health issue and I had some therapy to help me through it. Connecting to nature is still my go-to for helping me feel connected, mindful and de-stressed. Thanks for the other tips!
I’m glad you’ve found a go to coping method to help you 💛
I am glad you have found how to help yourself and the courage to share tips with others. I don’t have personal experiences but do believe this topic needs more awareness.
I totally agree, definitely needs to be spoken about more freely 💛
Thank you, Jade for sharing your story. These are great tips. I will note these tips.
Jade is so brave, love reading her blogs. Thank you for sharing this experience with us and for raising awareness to this issue. PTSD is really tough. Once we are triggered it can be very hard to stabilize our emotions and thoughts. When we can have alternatives, we should not be ashamed of choosing them x
Absolutely agree 💛
I am glad your guest blogger had her second baby and is okay! I had a bit of trauma during my first delivery too, yet went on to have a second one as well. Trauma is a real thing! I wish doctors understood that!
Thank you both for the space to share on this important topic!
Thank you for sharing that! Definitely something that’s not understood or spoken about enough 💛
I love how you get bloggers to share their experience rather than sharing a general post on the subject. I really appreciated you allowing me to post and share on Fibromyalgia Awareness Day. Like you I don’t have experience in PTSD, so this post was insightful and helpful to understand more about it. Thank you for sharing your experience Jade.
Awh thank you. Well I figure you can find information on Google about these things so I think sharing actual experiences is more beneficial! 💛