Online dating is now one of the most popular ways to meet your one true love. However, you are probably going to have to date a few frogs along the way in order to meet your prince charming. After all, online dating is a learning experience more than anything. It can be difficult to get your head around. So, to ensure online dating success, read on to discover the common blunders you need to avoid.
Getting your hopes up – Not to start the article on a complete and utter downer, but don’t make the rookie mistake of getting your hopes up. Getting to know someone online is very different to getting to know someone in person. He may seem to tick all of the boxes on paper, yet in person, he may not be what you imagined. Don’t set yourself up for failure by expecting the world. The best thing to do is go into it with no expectations at all.
Not being upfront about your intentions – If you are looking for love, say so. If you are looking for fun, say so. Of course, you don’t need to be brash about it; you can mention it in a tactful way. It is vital to be upfront about your intentions, though; otherwise one of you could get hurt.
Giving off the wrong signals – If you are failing to get a lot of messages, it could be because your profile is sending off all of the wrong vibes. Is vaping or smoking more attractive on Tinder? To be honest, you probably don’t want to have a photograph of you holding a cigarette as your profile picture. Do you have a photograph of you with your brother or your male best friend? Never a good idea! Make sure your profile is attracting suitors, rather than putting people off. Needless to say, this doesn’t mean you should start telling lies.
Choosing your best photograph – This may sound like a bit of an odd one. Why wouldn’t you choose your best photograph? Well, people don’t usually look like their best photographs. If you do, then great! However, you don’t want to set yourself up for failure by picking a photo of you covered in make-up and with as many Instagram filters and you can use.
Sending boring messages – If you have finally found someone you find attractive, the last thing you should do is send a boring message that they have probably heard a hundred times before. There is nothing worse than simply sending a message with the word “hey” and nothing else. Bring up something you found interesting in the person’s profile or ask them a question.
If you can avoid the common online dating blunders that have been mentioned above, you can give yourself a great chance of attracting Mr. Right. Of course, there are no guarantees that you won’t have a few disasters along the way, but embrace it! At least you will have some funny stories to tell the grandchildren.
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Well written and on point. Well done 😊
Good article Jenny and very valid points.
Great post. I am so glad I was spared online dating. Lots of my friends are going through it and all they tell are horror stories. I can’t think of one who met someone they dated more than 3 months. Maybe they’re exaggerating things.
I thought dates were supposed to be fun, but they make all their online dates sound like high-stakes interviews for their “soulmate”.
Maybe they’d enjoy them more if they took your advice.
This is a very insightful post, I’m glad I did not have to go through online dating but most things are ture for in person dating such as the expectation bit!
Great suggestions. Reigning in one’s expectations is extremely important.
Never did the online dating thing myself but these tips make a lot of sense! You can even use them on all social media sites, be you, be that person you want someone to fall for….lover, or friendship!
Omg I am so glad I didn’t ever go through online dating. My friends are and it seems hot or miss. This is a great list!
I meant hit or miss but this typo seems appropriate