When was the last time you really listened? Not to the news. Or your favourite YouTuber. Or your partner contemplating which pizza topping to get for your Friday takeaway. No, when was the last time you truly listened to yourself? Your gut? Your body? Your SOUL?

inner voice

I’m aware this ALREADY sounds a bit woo but despite how I’m wording it or explaining it, listening to yourself is hella important. It’s something I’ve been working on a lot over the last year, particularly since I went down the road of life coaching. And let me tell you, it’s changed my inner world.

So what do I mean exactly by listening to your body, mind and soul?

Well, if we’re looking at basic examples to keep this beginner friendly, you might consider some of the following situations and circumstances as an opportunity to listen inwards:

  • You start to suffer from a headache and instead of powering through, you take time to evaluate what might be causing it and act accordingly
  • You might be tired and feeling run down and instead of powering through your to-do list, you take the night off to indulge in some self care instead

We have SO MUCH (arguably too much) external chatter going on around us all the time, it’s no wonder that so many of us struggle to tune in to ourselves. It’s a wonder we can actually hear ourselves think half of the time.

Related read: How To Be Mindful With Your Self Care

But self care goes much deeper than just having a bubble bath and some chocolate. Although those two things are great (don’t get me wrong, I BLOODY LOVE eating chocolate in the bath), sometimes that just not what we need.

Often times there’s a stark difference between what we want and what we need.

And the only way we can truly know what we need in any given moment, is to go inwards, dial out the chatter and dial in to our inner radio frequencies.

We’ve all been there. We’ve all experienced how that feels – whether you remember it or not. But the point I’m trying to get at here is that it needs to be a NORMAL thing to experience. Not once in a blue moon.

So how exactly can we tune in to ourselves?

There are many ways we can start tuning into ourselves, our intuition and our inner guides. For the sake of this post and keeping it as beginner friendly as possible, I’m going to start with some more basic suggestions:

Meditate

Always a good place to start. There are many different types of meditation you can practice and at this point, it’s not really what you do but getting into the habit of practicing it and making it a part of your routine. I meditate a few times a week, along with small moments of meditation during my daily Yoga practices.

And you wouldn’t believe some of the things that come up for me sometimes. Things that seem to be lurking deep that rear their head when I’m in my most vulnerable, forcing me to step back and be like “woah okay, maybe that needs tending to”.

Slow the heck down

How are you EVER going to tune in to your inner voice when you’re doing 4 things at once and going at 200mph every day? You’re not. There’s no point even trying because you won’t get a clear message in or out. Slowing down is something I think a lot of people learned the value of in 2020 during the pandemic, which is amazing.

And it’s also something you can take forward with your inner voice practice too. Multi-tasking, never giving yourself a break and constantly doing “something” is a quick way to kick your inner voice to the curb. So slow down. Hear what you’re saying.

Take the time for you

And following on nicely from that point is taking the time for you. Yes, I mean self care. That much is obvious and there are thousands of ways to practice self care but what matters is that you’re doing something for YOU. Not something that every blog you read has told you is a good self care idea.

Taking time for yourself will look different for everyone. But really truly, make it yours. Whatever you need to do to quiet the chatter, go inwards and reclaim focus of yourself, do it.

Intention setting

Intention setting is an amazing way to go inwards and think about what you want and how you want to live. Intentions aren’t the same as goals (in my opinion). And it takes more than just jotting down a couple of intentions in the back of your planner to really get to into those intentions that you feel are aligned with YOU.

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Yoga

Yoga is a bloody brilliant way to tune in to yourself as it gives you such a deeper understanding of your body. I can notice super subtle things that need tending to now that I’ve been practicing Yoga for so long and it’s amazing. And it feels INCREDIBLE in my body. Here are a few Yoga blog posts that will help you get started:

Life coaching

Not for everyone, I know. But considering the HUGE benefits I’ve gained from life coaching over the last 6 months, it’d be criminal for me not to include it in here. Life coaching has helped me go deep into my limiting beliefs and what my inner voice is saying.

It’s also helped me break through a TON of barriers and I have never felt better in my mindset. Truly. My coach Michelle from Journey To Bliss is absolutely incredible and I’ve come to think of her as a friend now, so would highly recommend checking her out if this is something you’re interested in pursing.

Tuning into yourself journal prompts

If you don’t know where to start, journaling is always a good place. We’re told to journal over and over again but what if we just can’t think of anything to write or our minds are so jumbled that we don’t now where to begin? That’s where journal prompts can come in REALLY handy.

Related read: 30 Journal Prompts for Mental Health

You can use journal prompts once a week to check in with yourself and how you’re feeling. Ensure you’re in a quiet, safe space, with a clear mind and free from distractions. Here are 5 basic journal prompts to get you started:

  1. How does your BODY feel right now? Is it tight? Does anywhere hurt?
  2. How is your BREATH? Is it short and shallow? Is it hard to breath today?
  3. How are your emotions lately? Are they manifesting anywhere in the body? Are they bringing up negative self talk or triggering emotions? What has brought these emotions on and how can you tend to that?
  4. How’s your mindset right now? Are you finding yourself leaning more towards the positive or negative?
  5. And how is your spirit? Do you feel connected? Are you in alignment?

And what are the benefits

There are so many benefits to tuning in and listening to your inner voice. Too many too list here but I’ll name a few, which will hopefully encourage you enough to start on this journey of self awareness:

  1. It helps you tend to things BEFORE they get too much (i.e tending to a headache before it becomes debilitating) which will enable you to maintain a more balanced lifestyle, with less obstacles
  2. It gives you a much bigger sense of connection with yourself; body, mind and spirit. You’ll start to notice subtle changes that you never would have noticed before and be able to tend to them accordingly
  3. It’s a huge act of self love that you should never, ever deny yourself of. I always say the only person you’re spending the rest of your life with, is you! So you’d better learn to love them
  4. You’ll learn how to take care of yourself without looking elsewhere for external validation. You’ll be so in tune with yourself that you won’t have to ask for permission, acceptance and validation from ANYONE

How do you take the time to go inwards and listen to your own body, mind and soul? Will you be following any of these tips going forward? Let me know!

61 Comments

  1. I can totally relate to headache source. I have been having anxiety and headaches every single day lately, and most of it was coming from not getting fulfillment from my job. I was on vacation all last week and after 3 days of headache I finally felt relief. Fresh air, spending time with my 2 year old, eating well, and spending time doing what I’m passionate about (working on my new coaching business) made it all better. Now I am seriously debating leaving my 9-5 job as soon as possible and invest my time and energy on my passion. I just signed up for a Life Coaching program myself and will learn how to better help my clients in the future. Thanks for the post!

  2. The last time (and first time in a WHILE) I listened to my body was last night, I had so much I wanted to do BUT my body & mind just needed sleep. So I had an early night and felt SO much better for it today!

    Great post!

  3. I love this. I’ve recently been focusing on my self growth and this is one accept I could do better with. I do alot of journaling right now, but I could do so much more. Another really empowering posts Jenny X

  4. These are some really great tips, sometimes I feel like I’m going so fast trying to do everything that I definitely need to learn to slow down more! X

  5. I am awful at slowing down and listening to what my body needs and am currently dealing with total exhaustion so feel like I really need to pay attention here. This is such an in-depth and inspiring post, and definitely motivating me to start thinking about what it is I need. Thank you!

  6. I absolutely love these recommendations! I personally use yoga and journaling a lot! I definitely need to start doing more meditation and I’ve learnt a lot about slowing down over the last year!x

  7. Amazing post! Listening to your inner voice truly is an act of self-love. I really like the idea of doing an intention setting ritual at the end of each month. Such a wonderful way to re-evaluate and prepare for the new month. Thanks for sharing these great ideas!

  8. I think the biggest thing that stops people from finding their inner voice is they make it hard on themselves. They might think they are missing out on something, that the voice they have is not their own, and go looking for something that is already there. This happened to me until I realized inner voice is me speaking and I have only to listen.
    Love the practices you share to help nurture that connection!

  9. I really appreciate this post, my favorite part was that you included another post of yours offering journal prompt ideas! Sometimes we think ” yeah journaling sounds nice!” But then struggle to put thoughts on paper.

    Great work!

  10. Amazing article Jenny, all of this is so true. I’ve been doing more and more of this over the last few years and being home (thanks Covid…) has really helped me become more in tune as well.

  11. I love the wee images you have along with this post. It’s beautifully put together and the wee budda reminds me of the one I have in my bathroom (only from Home Bargains but they look beautiful).

    I couldn’t agree with these tips more by the way! Having done some inner voice searching lately, I can tell you that’s it’s changed my whole outlook.

  12. Hi Jenny! Hi all! This post is so well written and thorough. I appreciate these suggestions as there are so many different ways to go about tuning in and every way doesn’t work for everyone! It’s so important to be easy on yourself and patient when you are practicing. If anyone is looking to practice some yoga at home, I really enjoy Yoga with Adrienne. You can find videos on her YouTube channel for inner peace, self love, and inquiry.

  13. I wish I could meditate. I have tried over and over with no success. However, I am very spiritual thus taking time for me to pray and have my inner conversation with the powers be. Taking time for yourself is so crucial now and every day.
    Journaling is such a freeing experience too, one that I just picked up.
    Thank you Jenny for a great post

  14. These are great tips. I’ve found a real love for yoga and meditation in the last two years and have really begun to notice the benefits in so many different areas of my life.

  15. Trying to learn and tune into my inner voice is something I’m really trying to take action with recently, especially since I was prompted my my peer counsellor. I’ve started journalling and wanted to start my yoga practice again. However, I know that I need to start slowing down and your completely right – honestly I think we all need to slow down and enjoy each day – just wish I could follow my own advice but I’m trying. Thank you for writing this piece as it’s a really thoughtful one.

    1. Oh it takes time and practice. Even if you just get a GLIMPSE of slowing down and being present then you’re on the right track. Because that one moment can lead into two moments. Start small and don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s a practice after all! πŸ™‚ x

  16. Thank you for sharing this post. I really needed to read it. I am trying to listen to my inner voice more at the moment. I started journal at the end of last year and I have recently started meditating. I am starting to feel the benefits from it. Thank you for the reminder.

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  17. Thank you for sharing this, Jenny. This is a very thought provoking post, and I felt like I could identify with this in so many ways. Self care is so, so, so important. I am really happy for you, that you have managed to find ways to help yourself. Keep it up! Xx

  18. Thank you for sharing this. Since I started yoga and some light meditation, I’ve felt the need to look more into my internal voice and my breathing strategies. I am quite a positive person anyway but I know that this will help to elevate me to a whole new level of calm!

    Rosie

  19. This feels like a really empowering post. I know I am so guilty of doing too much, pushing myself and suffering for it. I don’t listen to my inner voice often enough.

    I suppose my journal is the one time of the day/week where I really tune in to myself and I feel the benefit of this almost immediately so I can really appreciate that all of these tips would be hugely beneficial.

    It sounds like the coaching has really changed everything for you which is incredible x

  20. These are all great tips! I have been feeling like I have done so many things at the same time and been feeling down since last week, so really need to slow down and sort that out! I will look into meditation and intention setting, as i think only positive affirmations are not going to work alone! Really needed to read this, thank you Jenny x

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