I turned 30 in 2022 and I won’t lie, I had a bit of a time of it. Despite 30 being this huge milestone with lots of confusion attached to it, I think your 20s are the most confusing decade of all. Whilst there’s no rule book for it, I definitely believe there are some things to do in your 20s that are important for personal growth.
My 20’s were… interesting.
And certainly not the 20’s that I envisioned for myself as a teen.
They started with me in the midst of the worst period of mental illness of my life. Slowly, throughout the very early stages of my twenties, my world got smaller and smaller until all I knew was the four walls of my bedroom. I had no friends in my 20s. No prospects. And absolutely nothing to keep me going.
Of all the things to do in your twenties, being a prisoner to your own mind is NOT THE ONE.
And even now, at thirty, I’m nowhere near where I wanted to be or thought I’d be at this age.
Your 20’s are a weird and confusing time. With half of the people you know settling down with marriage and kids and the other half travelling solo around the world being a digital nomad.
But I find that comforting. Because it shows that there are so many things to do in your twenties and no one way is the “right” way. Your 20’s are for exploration in all aspects of life; work, love, travel and sex and sexuality. The last point being a big one! Now’s the time to explore partners and learn what you like sexually as well. That might even include using OnlyFans and using an onlyfans lookup to find your favourite creators.
Life is all about growth – however you decide to do that. But now that I’m out of my somewhat unconventional twenties, I wanted to share some things to do in your twenties to help with personal growth!
17 things to do in your 20s for personal growth:
1. Find an exercise you enjoy
By our 20’s, we should all be exercising on a regular basis. With the increase stress of work and relationships, an exercise routine is a vital part of our routine to help keep us as healthy as possible as we move through our 20’s and into our 30’s where, sadly, health issues are more likely to crop up. Whether that’s HIIT workouts, swimming, Yoga practice, running – find something that suits you!
2. Establish some savings for the future
Now is the time to save, save, save! I wish I had started saving money much sooner than my 20’s because during a good number of years during my 20’s, I wasn’t earning anything due to my anxiety being so bad I couldn’t leave the house. Thankfully now I’m earning a full-time income from my blog and my savings are flourishing but that wasn’t always the case!
3. Let go of friendships that no longer serve you
It’s totally normal for friendships to fizzle out in your 20’s. As we grow up, we get different priorities and often go our separate ways. That doesn’t have to be a negative thing either – it just IS. So learn to accept that it might be time to let go of those friendships that no longer serve any role in your life or those relationships that don’t align with you anymore.
4. Talk about your mental health
Whether you feel like you need to or not, I urge you to start (or continue) talking about your mental health in your 20’s. It can be a tough decade, with a lot of curve balls. So don’t forget to put yourself first and seek the help you need if required, such as going to therapy or starting on anxiety medication. Get open and honest about your mental health.
5. De-clutter all your old rubbish
It’s time to have a de-clutter. Are you keeping a ton of old stuff from your childhood and teenage years? If so, why? Is it for sentimental reasons? If so, have you looked at or thought about any of those items in the last 5 years? If not, get rid of it. Scale down what you own and if you want to keep some stuff from your childhood, choose wisely.
6. Find your signature fragrance
Now is the time to confirm your identity to the world. And fragrance is an amazing way to do that because smell can be so powerful. I’m sure we’ve all got a certain smell or fragrance that reminds us of someone or somewhere? Personally, I’m a Lady Million by Paco Rabanne kinda gal!
7. Attend your cervical screenings
Of all the things to do in your 20s, I feel like this is one of the most important. A few months before you turn 25, you’ll be invited for your first cervical screening. Make sure you attend these – they’re so important and are such a convenient test to help save lives and prevent future problems.
I’ve been for LOADS of cervical screenings and colposcopy appointments at the hospital, due to them finding the HPV virus (which can cause cervical cancer) as well as abnormal cells. I’m so glad I attended all of mine. Here are some posts you might find helpful if you’re struggling with attending your screenings:
- Tips For Tackling Your First Smear Fear
- HPV and Cervical Screenings: Let’s Talk About It
- Colposcopy Experience: My Advice For Anyone Attending a Colposcopy
On the topic of sexual health, sexual liberation is also important in your 20’s. There should be no shame to try whatever it is you want to try, as long as it’s between consenting adult. Even consuming Free Onlyfans content is fine if you want to do it!
8. Find a hobby without the need to monetize it
With all the stress in our lives during our 20’s, hobbies can play a vital role in our self care and well-being. However, hustle culture online has it that we should be trying to monetize every aspect of our lives which honestly, is total bo**ocks. Find a hobby for YOU. Even if you never show or tell anyone. Find something that helps you cope.
9. Know what self care works for you
Of all the things to do in your 20s, it’ll be crucial for you to establish a self-care routine. You’re going to need it. But don’t follow the crowd. Experiment. Find what works for YOU. Self care comes in all forms, from mental, physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. Here are some self care posts you might find helpful:
- 30 Self Care Ideas In 10 Minutes Or Less
- How To Make Self Care Uncomplicated
- How To Use the Seasons For Your Self Care
- 9 Every Day Activities You Can Turn into Self Care
10. Understand your priorities
Notice how I haven’t written ‘travel’ on this list? Whereas most other people you speak to will say you “have to travel in your 20’s!!!” Well that’s because now is the time to figure out your priorities. And for some, travelling is NOT a priority in their 20’s. Which is fine. It literally doesn’t matter what your priorities are, just figure them out.
11. Cherish your relationships
When you get into your 20’s, you’ll get the stark reminder that your loved ones are getting older too. This has definitely been my least favourite thing about being in my 20’s but obviously something none of us can change or control. What we can do though, is make TIME and cherish those relationships while we can.
12. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes
One of the most important things to do in your twenties is to forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Especially those mistakes you made in your teens or when you weren’t in the right frame of mind. We are f**k up every now and again. But the only person you’re guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with, is you. So you better forgive yourself eventually.
13. Learn the value of alone time
Alone time is so important at any age but in your 20’s when there’s so much hustle and bustle around you, so many plans to make, people to see, things to do, it’s so important to establish a relationship with yourself where you can spend quality time with yourself and enjoy it. Whether that’s a solo spa date, a cinema trip or a meal by yourself.
14. Challenge yourself
Now is the time to challenge yourself. Challenge your limits. Find out what scares you. But try it anyway. Surprise yourself. Learn that you CAN do it. And if you fail? So what.
15. Learn how to cook at least 10 basic dishes
You’ll be fending for yourself in your 20’s so now is a good time to learn how to many some yummy go-to meals. Quick meals for after work, easy meals for when you’re hungover, nice meals for when you have guests and everything in-between.
16. Master your mindset around money
As well as establishing some savings, now is also a great time to master your mindset around money. Trust me, it will do you wonders going forward in life! Learn the basic principles of money. The fact that money is just paper with energy attached and how and why you should be grateful for every penny you receive.
17. Learn how to say ‘no’
Of all the things to do in your twenties, I think this is one of the most important. We’re past the University phase. We’re past the getting pissed over the park phase. Past hanging out with people we don’t like or have nothing in common with. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to follow your heart and your head and know when enough is enough. Preserve your energy. Use it wisely.
There are many things to do in your 20s for self growth but here are a little selection of the ones that I think are the most important.
These are the ones that I came to learn throughout my 20’s and I’m really glad I did because I learned a lot from them. I don’t think I’d have the level of self awareness I do now, had I not figured these things out.
If you’re in your 20s right now and you’re struggling or things aren’t going to plan, I feel you.
Your 20s are hard. And confusing sometimes. There’s literally no way around it. Some have it easier – I certainly didn’t.
But for most it’s a monumental time of self-growth and possibilities. And you have everything you need in you to get through it.