Affiliate links // Last month, I posted my first post in my new blogging for fun series, all about time management tips for hobby bloggers. I explained the need and want for this series in my post The Lost Art of Blogging for Fun, which I published last year and I’m thoroughly enjoying writing these and being able to give some advice to those bloggers out there who are hobby bloggers but still want to grow and thrive in this industry.

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Today I’m moving on to talking about MINDSET. One of my favourite things to work on and talk about at the moment. I’ve been doing a lot of mindset work in my personal life, thanks to my life coaching and it’s made me realise the importance of this work in most areas of life.

Mindset work is important for everyone, as those things that might damage your mindset can certainly seep into various areas of your life in which you’re putting a lot of effort. School, work or your blog. I’m a full-time blogger and mindset work has been CRUCIAL for me to be able to manage and cope. But it can be just as important for hobby bloggers too.

If you’re a hobby blogger blogging for yourself, perhaps you don’t spend an awful lot of time online and aren’t bothered with views or stats, then this post is NOT for you. It’s important to note here that everyone is blogging for a different reason, in a different way.

But if you’re a hobby blogger who also:

  • Suffers with a lot of self doubt or lack of confidence
  • Wants to grow but isn’t sure the best way to do it
  • Compares easily and feels like giving up sometimes
  • Is worried about stats, views, figures

Then this post IS DEFINITELY for you! And by all means, if you’re not a hobby blogger and you struggle with this too, then these points will definitely apply for you as well. Take what you need and leave what you don’t!

So let’s look at some tips to help you manage your mindset as a hobby blogger:

Set realistic goals for you

Goal setting. For me, it’s an important part of life and growth. I think when we know what we want and we take steps to get there, we continue with that forward momentum we need to succeed. The same process can be applied to blogging; whether that’s as a job or a hobby. In order to grow – you need to know what you want.

So if you’re a hobby blogger and you want to grow and set goals to aid that growth, it’s important for you to remember to set goals which are realistic for YOU. Do you have a full-time job as well as your blog? Are you a carer with limited time on your hands? You goals might be different to the goals of someone else who perhaps blogs full-time because you have different priorities and time available to you.

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Comparison is normal, but…

Comparison is completely normal and natural and you’d probably be a bit weird if you WEREN’T comparing yourself to someone about something. But what exactly are you comparing yourself to? That blogger who does it full-time who works on their blog 40 hours a week? That other blogger who’s been doing this for 10x as long as you have?

Related read: Is It Healthy To Have “Blogger Envy”? – The Doubting Thomas

Comparison is VERY easy to do. We all know that. But in the midst of comparing ourselves to others, we’re often blindsided by the negative emotions to realistically consider the fact that hang on a sec… that person is on their own path. Doing their own thing. And it has no reflection on you.

and that jealousy? It might be an illusion

And if left to fester, comparison can quickly turn into jealousy. And if you don’t know how to control jealousy or turn it into a positive then you’re going to be left in a very uncomfortable place. TRUST ME, this is the thing I struggle with the most. Jealousy is something I am always dealing with. Remember, jealousy often comes from a place of self-doubt. So you NEED to go deep and figure out what’s going on there.

One thing my coach has been saying to me when we discuss jealousy is that often we feel jealous of just about anyone, for anything. But when we REALLY think about it, we don’t even WANT what they have. So why are we even jealous? You’re jealous of a successful lawyer for having a great job and achievements. Do YOU want to be a lawyer?

Recognize the sh*t out of your achievements

Something that ties in nicely with the above two and that’s celebrating and recognizing your own achievements. It can be hard to do when we’re surrounded by people achieving so much. But this will help you MASSIVELY manage your mindset and focus on what you’re good at. I want you to stop what you’re doing and write a list of 20 blogging achievements you’ve had. I’ll wait.

It’s okay to want to grow

Most people with a hobby – whether that’s playing the guitar, drawing, baking or something else – want to grow and learn. It’s human nature to want to get better at things. If for some reason your mind is telling you that because you don’t blog as a job or blog for money that wanting to grow your blog isn’t for you then back the heck up and check your thoughts!

It’s okay to still invest in your blog and your hobby even if you’re not blogging for money. Because there is a HECK OF A LOT you can get out of blogging. Friendships, experience, creative freedom, personal growth, opportunity and more. Here are a few resources I’d recommend if you want to grow your blog:

Remember that blogging is a valued and respected hobby

And just like guitar playing or cake making, blogging is a very valued and respected hobby. Especially now. Blogging has grown in popularity more than I could probably put into words. People trust what bloggers have to say. Their voices are being heard more than ever.

When the fun stops, stop

I got that quote from a gambling advert but it definitely applies here too! I’ve always said that as soon as blogging stops being fun, you need to take a step back a reevaluate. This applies to me, someone who blogs full-time and it also particularly applies to hobby bloggers.

The blogging industry can be very easy to get sucked into, with the competition and the numbers and the fear of not being online 24 hours a day. I’ve definitely been there. I’ve been sucked into that void and found it very hard to get out of. So please remember, have fun. Be creative. Connect. Express yourself. Have damn fun.

What do you struggle with in regards to mindset and blogging? What other ways do you manage your mindset?

78 Comments

  1. Great post – but I couldn’t download your link to your freebie goal setting link – is there any other way of getting it? I think I’d find it really useful! I’m just getting back to blogging after an attack by a burglar which hss left me with a spinal injury, and I feel I’ve lost all my readers!

  2. Comparison was a big issue for me in the beginning. The important thing to remember is that comparison is the thief of joy. That and if you’re blogging for a hobby (which I suppose I do), it’s important to remember that it’s meant to be fun!

  3. Yesss to this post. Our achievements are huge – especially considering we do this as a side hustle and usually hold down full time jobs at the same time!

    Rosie

  4. Iโ€™m a hobby blogger with a full time job so your advice on time management and mindset is really helping me! โค๏ธ hopefully I can grow my blog in the future too!

  5. I loved this entire post. I think it’s so important to set realistic goals for YOU rather than comparing your numbers to any other bloggers. A lot of us are hobby bloggers who have other jobs or are students so it’s not easy to dedicate full time to being a full time blogger with a consistently growing blog. So great tips, thanks Jenny.

  6. Fab post! I think it’s usually so hard to admit you WANT to grow, because so many times you’re told “it’s not about the numbers!!” ect, but I think we ALL want our hard work to pay off & see your content being enjoyed!

  7. Such great tips Jenny! I’m sooo big on setting realistic goals, I always make sure I’m setting goals that aren’t too crazy for me. I work full time alongside running my blog, and it’s hard work fitting things in as well as trying to find the time to relax and do other things. Love the quote you got from the gambling ad too haha, it is so true, I’ve taken breaks from blogging before just because I wasn’t 100% feeling it, but actually made me more excited to get back to it afterwards! Great post x

  8. I try to set as realistic goals as possible though sometimes it can be hard not to compare. But, I honestly just love writing so much so I’m trying to not worry too much ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

  9. Thanks for this post Jenny. Iโ€™ve definitely had some down moments since I started blogging. Thereโ€™s been times when my stats have been low or when posts Iโ€™ve worked really hard on just havenโ€™t gained much reaction. And itโ€™s tough. But then I always remind myself that I love writing and I keep going.

    Being a hobby blogger comes with a lot less pressure. Sure, Iโ€™d love my blog to do well, but itโ€™s not the end of the world if some posts just donโ€™t pull in the views. People who have hobbies such as baking or playing an instrument will have bad days too. Not every cake will come out of the oven a masterpiece and not every song will be played perfectly every time. Blogging is no different really. The old saying of โ€˜practice makes perfectโ€™ is so true. And honestly, thatโ€™s what keeps me going and gets me in the right mindset. Your post has also got me thinking about how far Iโ€™ve come with blogging in 10 months and Iโ€™m proud of my achievements so far. Onwards and upwards! X

  10. I thinking using people as a learning tool is key – having good role models to inspire. Sometimes I’ve just seen a paragraph I’ve liked, thought about what makes it so good, then reengineer the style into my own work!

  11. Love that you write from a personal space; after all, if we have been there and done that at any point in our lives, I believe it is so wholesome to share what we have learned along the way.

    The most important thing to me in regards to the way and why of what I write is to write something because I have to; because I love it. On the few occasions where I have been pressured to write something ‘by popular demand’ and caved into it, I have never been truly happy with what I have shared.

    Recognizing what I am capable of and what I have done is also a great help to me in my moments of doubt. ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. Great tips. I was always comparing myself to others, but that is no good. Now I am focusing on my blog and what I can do to grow it. My life has been much calmer and happier.

  13. Great post! We all want to learn and grow in all areas of our lives. It is important to set goals and be realistic in our expectations. And, you are so right, if a hobby does not bring you joy and there is no fun in it, why bother with it? That is a sign that something needs to change…perhaps, a new hobby is in order!

  14. I love this series so much! The one I’m definitely taking away from this is setting realistic goals so I know what I want and what to do to get there rather than feeling like I’m doing odd things and not knowing why. I also must start paying attention to whether I’m still having fun with it as well! Thanks for the great tips!

  15. I LOVE celebrating all my small and big achievements and I’m so lucky that my boyfriend celebrates them with me (and weirdly gets more excited by it than me)! And also remembering this is a hobby and if you’re not loving it, why are you doing it is also so important!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

  16. I got half way through this post and then got called away, I came back and before I started reading again, I sat and thought about my own journey. I have so much to be proud of but I do struggle to manage my own expectations, my time and the not comparing thing.

    But I love what I do… most of the time.

    This was just the read I needed, full of self doubt, ideas and a lack of time. I feel like I needed this reminder that I am a hobby blogger and that’s OK x x

  17. I am definitely guilty of comparing myself to others and self doubt. I do agree that the friendships you make through blogging are great.

  18. Love your post Jenny! So true about having fun and when it is gone take a break. After 10 years of food blogging I do take breaks to re-pump my juices and let the creative flow back in. A MUST do.๐Ÿ’•

  19. It’s always good to take a step back and look at the bigger picture, for any blogger. I’m not a hobby blogger but I appreciate the attitude tips. Nice post, Jenny. Thanks!

  20. Awe I love this post so much! It’s definitely relatable to me because I work full time and struggle with balancing both a career and blog because I do want to grow it and become successful with it. But I love how you said when the fun stops, stop! Thats so important to me because sometimes I definitely need to take a step back and take a break!

  21. Such a wonderful post, I used to struggle with this as growing was so slow and felt not worth it but it takes time and some dedication. Celebrating achievements is a must ๐Ÿ™‚

  22. This is an amazing post! Personally, as a blogger, I often forget to slow down. I think that’s so common not only for bloggers. I realize that sometimes, we love what we do so much to the point that we forgot how much we love it. I found out that the best way to appreciate and have fun is to pause and slow down. Thanks for sharing this! ๐Ÿ’–

  23. This was such a great Jenny! I found myself lately to be obsessed about numbers, views and how the posts are doing, so I decided to take a step back and focus on what I wrote more instead. I must say that blogging has brought me so much during these months and I now start understanding what it truly means.

    I started out blogging for fun years ago, where I didn’t care about numbers I just wanted to put my opinion out there, but now that I have goals and see results, it pushes me to work on it even more! As you said, if it makes you miserable take a step back and that’s what I did years ago, it didn’t feel right anymore.

    COmparing is still such a struggle but as you said you need to focus on what you do and recognise your own achievements too, couldn’t say better!

    Thank you for sharing all these, I will make use of them!

  24. I’m struggling with writing at the moment. I’ve had to drop my February fiction challenge, and I’ve not blogged for a couple of weeks. The fun has definitely stopped, but I don’t know why exactly (the endless lockdown is partly to blame, but not the whole cause.) Re-evaluting seems like a good move.

  25. I started out enjoying it but then I discovered the stats section ๐Ÿ˜‚ I became obsessed about beating the previous dayโ€™s views etc or getting likes on Facebook. I think having to take a break once schools started back helped and Iโ€™m back to just enjoying writing again. I will start setting monthly, realistic goals though to give me some focus ๐Ÿคž๐Ÿป

  26. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. This is really timely as I’ve had a crisis of faith following the underwhelming response of some recent posts. I think the biggest challenge with blogging is trying to get it seen by the people who want to see it!

    I did your exercise and wrote some of the great things my blog has achieved. It actually reminded me of a lot of the positives and my achievements so far.

    Something I’ve learnt about comparison is not compare to the vets/full timers, but also not use it as an excuse not to put effort into growth and becoming a better writer.

    I think one of the biggest takeaways is if you don’t find blogging fun – stop doing it! I know from some past blogs I’ve read you can tell the person doesn’t enjoy it anymore but keeps persisting!

    1. I’m so glad that doing that exercise reminded you of how much you’ve achieved. Makes you feel great, doesn’t it? I totally agree. Actually, you shouldn’t compare yourself to ANYONE but use them as a learning tool.

  27. such a great post, i’ll keep it with me at all times to remind me that it’s okay that my blog is just a hobby and i don’t have to compare myself with anyone seeing my stats… I am doing it because it’s fun and i have a great time working on the stuff for it, but it’s a hobby i’m not doing it for anything or anyone else but me, mostly… obviously i enjoy when people are interested on the topics i post. but it’s okay, it’s all for the fun of it.

  28. Hi Jenny.

    Thank you for writing posts geared towards us fun bloggers – it is much appreciated! And your tips and comments in this post are spot on.

    For example, my very first blog post was about ‘collecting a new puppy’. If you search on those keywords you’ll see a featured snippet from Royal Canin, a huge dog food manufacturer, and the first position taken by none other than the Kennel Club. My post is immediately after that. Do I focus on what a marvelous achievement this is for a fun blogger in his first post? No, I think “Why isn’t my post the featured snippet or in the number one spot?”!! Crazy but true. I don’t beat myself up about it, and I can smile about it, but it is still my first thought ๐Ÿ™‚

    And you are absolutely right with the “When the fun stops, stop” advice. Why keep doing something that makes you miserable? Take a break. Walk the dog. Watch TV. Read Jenny’s blog ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. Hahaha that is crazy! Due to the authority of Royal Canin and Kennel Club, it’s highly unlikely you’d beat those but being underneath those is FREAKING AMAZING! You should be so proud of that!

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