As an anxiety sufferer, I spend an awful lot of time worrying. Often, about anything and everything – particularly when I have an event in the
distant near future that I’m slightly apprehensive about. It could be anything, from a holiday, a day out or a party but the thing they all have in common is that I will end up worrying about them viciously for daysa – sometimes weeks – before they happen. It sucks and I wish I could just experience the excitement that comes with a looming holiday or a big event but unfortunately for me, that’s not the case but I do have ways of dealing with these sometimes overwhelming nerves which I want to share with you below, in case any of you feel the same.
Look after myself first: Despite how nervous I may be about something, particularly on the day it’s happening, I always try and make sure I feel okay in myself before I attempt to do anything. To me, this means drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated. Taking a multi-vitamin and my hay fever tablet to prevent any unwanted sneezing fits or sinus headaches which are bound to make things worse and taking the time to just sit and breathe.
Be organised: If I’m going on holiday or going out for the day, I try and be super organised – usually with a to-do list – and get all my stuff together and ready the night before so that on the day, I’m left with the bare minimum to do and worry about having to do. I will leave the outfit I’m wearing for the day out, along with underwear, jewellery and anything else so I literally don’t have to think about a thing and will avoid any unnecessary rushing.
Eat plainly and sensibly: I don’t know about anyone else, but when I feel nervous, I find it extremely difficult to eat. Then when I do eat, sometimes the overwhelming nerves make me feel sick. So whenever I have an upcoming event that’s likely to make me nervous, on the day I will always try and eat and plainly as possible and avoid any strong smells or flavours that could make me feel even more sick, especially when I don’t want to eat in the first place.
Take Kalm’s tablets and Bach’s Rescue Remedy spray: Those that know me know that I love these herbal remedies for anxiety (I talk about them more in this post). They really do take the edge off and keeping one to hand is perfect for when you’re feeling overly anxious about something. Even if it’s only the psychological feeling of having taken them, as long as they help, that’s all that matters.
Take the time to do something I enjoy: Even though it may only take my mind off of it for 10 minutes, it’s still so important to forget about everything for a while and just do something fun. Whether that’s reading a book, gardening, taking the dog for a walk – it doesn’t matter – I just try and get out of my own head and put my focus elsewhere.
Talk about it: Like with any mental health worry, talking about it is sometimes the easiest and best thing you can do for yourself. It doesn’t matter who – mum, dad, friend – just someone you trust. I also find writing things down helps, which is why I am writing this post! Get all your thoughts down onto paper or into a blog post and not only does it distract you for a while, it can sometimes put your worries into perspective.
Take it one hour at a time: Time is a funny thing. When you want it to go slow, it flies by and when you want it to go quick, a minute can feel like an hour. Naturally, when I’m terribly nervous about something, time always goes so ridiculously quick. When that’s the case, I like to take things one hour at a time. If I have lots of things to do, I’ll pick a couple of them to do in that hour and try and focus as much as I can on the hour I’m in and not worry about how much closer to the event I’m getting.