I’m really not a fan of this toxic positivity you find in the blogging world. Those people that brandish you with a pitch fork for saying something that’s negative. No aspect of life is ever going to be 100% good, all of the time. And the same very much goes for blogging. For all the good that comes from it, there’s bad too. And like most bloggers, I definitely have blogging pet peeves.

Blogging Pet Peeves: Flat lay consisting of 2 stacked notebooks with an iPhone on top. A candle, a book and flowers

Something pissed me off a while ago and I tweeted about it. Unsurprisingly, I got a reply from someone saying, “wow, what a negative way of looking at things”. *eye roll*. I wasn’t annoyed at the response. If anything, I owe that person the inspiration behind this post! So ta babe!

Shortly after that I tweeted to ask if anyone would want to see a blogging pet peeves blog post and the response was a resounding yes. It appears a lot of other people are sick of the toxic positivity too and would like to read more honest posts from bloggers about elements of the blogging world!

This was around 3 months ago. I’ve been putting this post off for so long so quite honestly, I’m a little nervous. I never want to offend anyone – I’m just not like that. But I want to be honest. So without further ado, here are my blogging pet peeves!

Forced / OTT Positivity

I kinda have to start with this one being as I’ve already briefly mentioned it but nothing grinds my teeth more than positivity Nazi’s on social media. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love supporting people, cheering others on and making friends through blogging. But I can’t bare those who shove positivity down your throat every day.

Yeah, it helps to be positive. It’s nice to have a positive outlook on things and believe it or not, I’m actually a pretty positive person! But I’m also a realist. No industry is going to be positive all of the time and you know what? Sometimes shit happens in the blogging world and sometimes you’ve just got to talk about it like it is.

The follow / unfollow game

A pretty old one now but something that people stilllllllll do and just… ugh. It’s boring now babes. People have been playing the follow and unfollow game since the dawn of time it would appear. They think it’ll gain them more followers quicker. And it does. For a while. Until people notice and then you have all the followers but no dignity.

Begging for views and followers

This is what I tweeted about when I got that negative Nancy response a few months ago. I basically tweeted saying that it makes my eyes roll when bloggers basically beg for views and followers on Twitter (or wherever else they’re promoting their blogs) instead of creating good, engaging promotional content which makes us want to read it.

I mean, each to their own. Some people don’t care about that and that’s fine. But for me, nothing makes me want to read a post less than the blogger behind it basically guilt tripping you into reading it. Big blogging pet peeve!

Certain blog comments

I’m talking about those comments which just say, “Hey! Check out my blog *link*” that some bloggers leave, with no indication of having read your post at all. This is just down right rude and a huge blogging faux pas.

Bloggers misusing hash tags

I’ve honestly tweeted about this so many times that I sound like a broken record. But stop misusing the mother freaking hash tags! The #bloggerswanted and #bloggersrequired hash tags on Twitter are primarily for PR’s / brands looking for bloggers for campaigns / product reviews / sponsored posts etc.

So then whyyyyyy are you clogging up the feed promoting your blog posts? Or begging for followers to enable you to hit your next follower goal? If you’re not LOOKING for a BLOGGER then don’t use the hash tag for crying out loud!

Claims that blogging is the hardest job in the world

Lord give me strength with this one. I’m not saying blogging isn’t a hard job. It is. It’s my job and I know it’s hard. There are plenty of things which make blogging difficult. Like not knowing what your work load will be like from one month to the next. Or Having to constantly be on form, creating and promoting content.

But hardest job EVER?

All jobs deserve respect. We’re all just trying to do our bit. Get by. Make a difference. But I can think of plenty of other, harder and perhaps even lower paying jobs that being a blogger. Jobs which require long, grueling and emotional hours. I actually think it’s a bit disrespectful to even consider that being a blogger is harder than being a nurse for example.

Incessant moaning about views & followers

Christ this gets on my tits. Similarly to the “begging for views” thing, there’s nothing that makes me want to follow a blogger less than when they’re constantly moaning about “why isn’t anyone following me?”

Or “why are my views low?”, “why is nobody reading my blog?” or “why do I bother with my blog?” Firstly, that attitude is going to get you nowhere.

Secondly, it’s going to discourage people even more from following you and reading your content. We’re all entitled to have a moan every now and again of course we are.

But if you’re seeing lower views or your followers aren’t increasing as you think they should be, maybe it’s time to step back and actually have a proper think about why. And change it. Instead of complaining.

What are your ultimate blogging pet peeves? I’d love to hear them!

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  1. Aloha! Thought you might like to know you were also recommended to me, might be the same course, the instructor is named Richard Mansfield. Thanks for the blospiration 🙂

  2. Hello! Thank you for writing this. I’m new to blogging (as in, less than one month in) and your site (this post in particular) was recommended as part of a class I’m taking: Blogging and Podcasting for Beginners. Kinda lame I suppose, but I want to be well prepared.

    Anway- I understood most of what you’re saying, but I’m a bit foggy on the “follow/unfollow game”. If it’s not horribly stupid of me to ask, can you elaborate? What is that?

    Thanks! x

    1. Can I ask who recommended me? That’s so cool! Not lame at all, it’s great that you want to learn so much!

      Follow/unfollow is basically where someone will follow a ton of people, wait for them to follow them back and then unfollow them.

      It’s a quick and inauthentic way to gain a lot of followers!

  3. The follow/unfollow game annoys me so much. But yes, the “I’m just leaving a comment in the hopes of other people following my link but I haven’t read the post” kind of comments are probably one of the worst. Oh, and the click bait headlines that turns out to be bullshit content. Those always annoys me so much.

  4. Great blog topic. Honestly, I haven’t had a lot of issues with a lot of the points that you’ve brought up, but the follow/unfollow thing really is discouraging. It’s a lot of the reason that I’m so turned off to Instagram. It feels like working a room full of ice queens over there; everyone seems solely interested in self-promotion

  5. Oh my gosh yes I hate when people just blatantly use hashtags that aren’t relevant to what they’re posting! And I NEVER follow someone who leaves a “check out my blog” comment, even if the rest of the comment is insightful. It’s one thing to leave a link back, another thing entirely to be spammy!

    Thankfully I haven’t come across someone saying that blogging is the hardest job ever, because there are so many jobs that people’s lives literally depend on! Those are the hard jobs. Blogging certainly can be tough but those people can get over themselves haha

    Great post as always x

  6. First of all, you totally had my insides giggling in a good way. I am constantly looking at the do’s and don’ts of blogging since I just started this adventure. Thank you for the informational entertaining read!

  7. I’m new to the blogging world so “begging”, I’m guilty of. Good to know. The follow/unfollow burns my butt. I feel like we should all support each other. Thank you for your list though. I did learn something

  8. I feel ya when it comes to these pet peeves!!! Nothing grinds my teeth more than when a blog(ill just use my site as an example i guess) such as talker99.wordpress.com decides to leave some random comment on a blog just so they can get their link out there! THEN they have the audacity to beg for readers through twitter with a badly misplaced #talker99 or some crap like it…. I mean, get a life, right(high fives you) ……thats why, on my site, talker99.wordpress, we absolutely refuse to play that follow game! You can rest a sure that if someone follows my site we certainly will not follow back….unless youre cool and write interesting stuff, then we might…. But all others, no way jose…. So yeah, totally agree on those blog pet peeves…….(high fives again, spins and then walks away)

  9. I agree with all of these, especially bloggers using the bloggerswanted etc Twitter hashtags to promote themselves. It makes it very difficult to find PR or brand collaborations. I actually like a little negativity in blog posts, that’s real life. Why should you me made to feel bad about having a negative thought or or opinion?

      1. You know people have to be real, and honest, and that means they can’t be positive all the time. My pet peeve is people who lie and say it’s all good and it isn’t. Because if we don’t acknowledge the problem, how will we fix it?

  10. Still kind of new to blogging. But those pet peeves had me nodding my head yes to all of them. It helps to know that others feel the same way.

  11. This is the best thing I have ever read! I actually laughed out loud. I loved all of your pet peeves and I definitely agree with all of them!

    And also cringed as I remember doing some of them in my younger days!

  12. This is a fantastic post, thank you! I found myself nodding and giggling as I read it. It was such an honest and authentic post, and I really loved it. I am fairly new to blogging, so I am probably still developing my own list of pet peeves. Yours seem pretty on the money, however. Thank you!

  13. I really loved reading this! it really annoys me when people randomly message me on instagram ( baring in mind, they don’t engage in my content or have never spoken to me before ) and ask me how I have worked with certain brands and if they can have an email to contact to discuss working with them.

  14. loved this! I try to stay away from such ‘faux-pas’ bloggers because I seek for authenticity but sometimes their comments are ridicolous: all exaclty the same.

    Cate ღ 35mm in Style

  15. Love this article and agree with all of the points! But the OTT positivity is the one that really gets me because I’d much prefer reading stuff that’s real and I know most people out there prefer that too. I posted a snapshot from a brunch at one of the hipster spots in the city a month or so ago and mentioned that whilst it looked super instagrammable the actual food tasted average and I was quite disappointed with it and someone actually commented on how refreshing it was to read an actual real opinion no matter what it is.

    1. Wow that’s great that they gave you that feedback! I’m a bit sick of seeing all these gorgeous places in London without any actual real information about what they’re like to go to?

  16. Oh I absolutely agree with this! With the begging for followers/complaining about low views thing, I think it annoys me so much because I get the feeling, but I also think that it’s totally the wrong way to go about improving your stats. I’d so much rather have people follow me/visit my blog because they want to, rather than because I told them to, or they felt sorry for me. After all, only the people who like my stuff are going to stay long-term.

    Also, who said that blogging is the hardest job in the world??? I’m not saying it’s easy, but c’mon. (Also, I’m generally not a fan of people trying to one-up each other on who’s got it worst.)

    Great post – I think it’s so good to talk about this stuff – it helps us all behave a bit better.

    1. Oooh yes good one! The “collaborative post” thing really pisses me off now. I used to use it but after the guidelines were reinforced and made stricter, it’s been made very clear that “collaborative” isn’t acceptable anymore!

  17. I completely agree with you. Being positive is really important but blogging is also a great platform to talk about issues or things that we want to change. I prefer reading real genuine post written by a human I can relate to, rather than a robot 😉 x

  18. This blog post had me nodding my head so much when reading it! I have to admit, I probably come across sometimes as so over-positive as I am a massive believer in the secret and law of attraction so for me personally always think looking on the bright side is important than being negative but I do share my bad times and mental health days too as they are equally as important. I adore that you’ve been so open about these facts darling, great blog post! 💜

    With love, Alisha Valerie x | http://www.alishavalerie.com

  19. Thanks Jenny, we’re new here and your blog is soooo full of truths, do people really beg for readers on tweeter? but yes, if the content is right, it will attract eventually attract the right audience… You know recently someone told me… that because I wasnt so found of social media, fbook etc. I shouldnt even bother… that you need to be famous and a socialite to be popular… That was funny. Blogging just makes me happy… whether people reads our posts or not 💕💕💕 take care!

  20. I’m mentally clapping so much right now. I’m always saying the same thing!

    When people complain they’re not getting anywhere especially when I can see they don’t engage with others I’m like, well what do you expect? And the positivity thing! Oh man, there’s so much of it and that’s great but let’s get real for a minute… things aren’t always sunshine and happiness which is why I’m so honest in what I say and do.

    Well done for sharing this! 😊

    Love Lozza xo

  21. Oh my gosh, yes, yes and YES. I agree with so many of these – especially the begging for follows. I mean, as a blogger, you’re also a writer, right? So at least come up with a more creative way of saying it! I could go on and on here but let’s just go with I LOVE this post!