After I read this blog post all about ten ways to cope with menstrual cramps, it got me thinking about finally writing this blog post. This is something that’s been on my mind for some time and a topic I wanted to chat about (because I can’t imagine I’m alone in how I feel) but never really felt comfortable doing so, until now. I want this blog to be an informative space for my readers but also somewhere they can see they’re not alone in how they feel on certain matters.

Desk with light pink flowers in a jar that says keep calm

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But before I get into this post, I just want to say that this is ENTIRELY my own opinion and isn’t influenced or swayed in any way. Nor is it a dig at anyone with differing views. Periods can be a funny topic sometimes. For some reason there’s still a taboo around it and some people can be pretty defensive when faced with an opinion that isn’t the same as theirs.

I’m not here to offend anyone. And I completely respect every person’s decision regarding their own periods. Whether you have them or not. Whether you like having them or not. What you use, what contraception you’re on, how you cope. It’s not up to me to comment. I’m just here to share my experience.

So what is my experience?

Well I’m not going to take you back too far but for the last 4 years or so, I’ve been on the mini pill. The progesterone only pill is a safer alternative to the combined pill as it’s suitable for smokers and those who are over-weight. It’s a pill you take every single day, without a break. Therefore, a lot of people don’t experience periods on this pill. Like me.

I actually went on this pill because I was SICK of having periods, I was sick of panicking every time I was 1 or 2 days late and I was bored of having rubbish PMS side effects that affected my plans. So the idea of not having periods any more was like a dream come true! And admittedly, it does make things quite a bit easier for me.

But over the last couple of years, I’ve actually found myself missing not having periods. I’ve mentioned this to my boyfriend and he just can’t understand it (fair enough) and it’s been a difficult thing for me to try and understand for myself. Because when I think about it… why do I miss having periods? 

We’re not trying for a baby. Under normal circumstances (pre-covid), we’re often busy, attending races, going out for the day, taking staycations and visiting his parents in Lincolshire. We’re pretty busy people and having no periods is definitely a positive in that case.

So what was it that made me miss bleeding and cramping and being miserable for a week every month? I had a proper think and I’ve come to some conclusions as to why I miss having periods. Some of them are going to seem totally ridiculous but here’s why I miss having periods:

A clear jar on a desk with light pink roses in. The jar has a label that says 'keep calm'

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The routine

I love routines and being organised. To me, having a period was a part of my routine. I mean, obviously? Mine was usually like clockwork every month and I liked that monthly period routine and everything it encompassed. I knew where I was throughout the month based on my hormones and emotions. I even knew when I was ovulating – I was that in tune with my routine.

The excuse to get cozy

Okay I know this sounds totally stupid because you don’t need to be having a period in order to get cozy. But I dunno, it was just comforting. Especially when you’re cramping and feeling a bit gross, getting cozy with a takeaway, a hot water bottle and a girlie movie was always nice.

Knowing my body was doing what it was supposed to

I’m pretty health conscious, especially after having a bad time with health anxiety in August of 2019. Although that was nothing period related, I did used to like knowing that my body was doing what it was supposed to be doing throughout the month. Having a period is a great indicator of what’s going on. If you’re stressed, pregnant or perhaps have something going on down there that needs checking out.

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Knowing I wasn’t pregnant

And speaking of pregnancy. I know this one is kinda silly because if I’m on the pill then OBVIOUSLY I’m not worrying I’m pregnant but of course there’s other issues that come with being on the pill. After having a pregnancy scare at the start of 2020 when I accidentally forgot to take a pill which caused a lot of stress and being ON the pill made it really difficult for me to know if I was pregnant. I dunno, I just like that little reassurance from your body.

Not having fake hormones in my body

Again with the health conscious thing. I dunno, I’m just over having fake hormones pumping around my body every day. I want my body to be doing what it needs to do naturally – what it was designed to do. I’m just on a bit of a journey of being more in tune with my body and I don’t think fake hormones are helping that.

Of course this is a very personal journey I’m on and one I need to figure out for myself. I’ve looked into other forms of contraception as being as sexually active person who doesn’t want to get pregnant, it’s an absolute must for me to be safe and not run that risk. I just wanted to share this with you in case anyone else felt the same.

5 Reasons Why I Miss Having Periods

Are you on the pill or any other type of contraception? Do you miss having periods at all? Do you struggle with anything I’ve listed above? Let me know and let’s chat!

103 Comments

  1. I really liked this post! I love having a period. Yep you heard that right. Like you I love the cosy factor, getting in oversized jimjams, hot water bottle and chilling on the sofa. I like all the feelings, the bloating, the stomach cramps, achy thighs and back, the heightened emotions and excessive crying – it’s an indication that my body is preparing to menstruate and doing what it should be doing. Its also a release of all those feeling and that feels great. So when I start feeling like this I understand what is happening and I just allow myself to feel it. I have never been on the pill (in all my 30 something years and I am sexual active. We use protection, we always have done and have been very lucky – no major scares). The pill was always scary for me, though it was recommended to control my acne when I was younger. But I refused it – I didn’t want my emotions controlled by fake hormones (as you say), and I just preferred the natural way, as natural as can be. I will miss all of this when the menopause kicks in – I don’t know. I just feel like having a period is something to be celebrated – look at how clever our bodies are and I always feel like – why would I want to interfere with its workings.

    It’s a part of who we are and I guess that’s it isn’t it. Anyway – thank you for writing this post x

  2. Kind of… Yes to all of this?
    I developed endometriosis while on the combined pill, so now I’m on the mini pill and I miss periods a bit even though I do get breakthrough spotting monthly. They were something more tangible that I could do something about rather than an unexpected smear of blood ruining another pair of knickers.
    And it was definitely the perfect excuse to sack everything off and get cosy with chocolate and wine.
    Cora | http://teapartyprincess.co.uk/

  3. This is a topic that I can really relate to Jenny! I got an implant when I was 20 and continued on that for the next ten years. But as I approached 30 I really wanted to come off it – I felt weird about the fact my body wasn’t having periods when it was supposed to, and that I had hormones doing all sorts of stuff to me! So I got it taken out in December and my periods started again in April. I loved the convenience of the implant for my 20s but now I’m older I’m kind of enjoying getting periods again. Being able to track my cycle is so weird, apps didn’t exist when I was a teenager so it’s a whole new experience! My poor husband though – he basically has never seen me pre-menstrual so the last few months have been a learning curve for him hahah!

    1. OH my gosh I bet! I’m similar to you. Early 20’s, it was amazing to not have periods but now I’m 27 (almost 28), I’m like, well I want my body to just do what it has to do going forward.

  4. I’m in the against camp atm as periods after a baby are horrific haha! I personally find contraception that stops periods odd but everyone’s own decision after all! xx

  5. I’m on the mini-pill too – it’s the only one I can use because of my migraines, but it has fully stopped my periods (and eradicated period migraines with it, yay!). Funnily enough, a couple of months ago I was almost feeling a bit FOMO and sad about not having periods… And then I didn’t get my top-up in time, ended up having one, and it was SO awful that all sadness surrounding not having them went out of the window haha. I feel the same about fake hormones, but when I remember the excruciating pain and inconveniences of it all then I’m all good!

  6. I have suspected PCOS so my periods are all over the place and it’s an absolute nightmare! I always used to hate having periods when I was a teenager but I’d be so happy to have them regularly like that again so I can relate to some of the things you’ve mentioned! In this heat it’s awful though. Really interesting post Jenny! Loved it xx

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

  7. this is the same for me. I don’t have periods anymore because of the pill. Before going on the pill, my periods lasted 12 days and were extremely painful, so I needed to do it really. But now I’m thinking ‘can i even have periods anymore’? i know deep down i can but it’s strange. Also I don’t know how many of my other health issues have resulted from going on the pill, as it can cause side effects. I am also on other medication so it is difficult to know what causes certain things. It’s been 6 years and in some ways it has helped me a lot. But I still think it is weird, not having periods. I still get cramping sometimes.

  8. This was an interesting and I appreciate your sharing of this post because this is definitely a different perspective and one not heard a lot of. Knowing my body is doing what is supposed to be doing is actually one of the reasons I’ve been hesitant about using any medication, although I have severe menstrual plan.

  9. I was on the mini pill until we started trying for a baby. I didn’t get periods either, and coming off it was a bit of a shock to the system, but it wasn’t too bad. Then I got pregnant, so obviously didn’t have periods again. I would honestly love to go back on the pill, but we want a second baby, so I can’t.

    Although I’d love to go back to being period free, I do agree with you about the fake Hormones, and knowing that your body is doing what it’s supposed to do.

    After years on the pill, I was worried I’d messed up my body, so having periods again is a bit of a comfort. I see them as something that we have to learn to accept!

  10. Really ineteresting to read. I was on the minipill too because I was a smoker and I hated my period. I was on them for about 4 years. During that time I had to have the LLETZ procedure to remove abnormal cells in my cervix. Since I had surgery, things weren’t quite right down there for a while. Sex was becoming more and more painful, I was in and out of gynae consultations having numerous people poke me and prod me and “having a look”. I was diagnosed with provoked vulvodynia – pain in the vagina without obvious cause. They said it was psychological cause by trauma. I was given creams, lubes, lotions, attended women’s physio and even recommended couple’s counselling/sex therapist. The last appointment I had I was left with a prescription for lidocaine, an anaesthetic gel to use before sex. It took all the intimacy out of our relationship and I hit rock bottom. I was done. Last September I decided to stop taking the pill to give my body a rest, and what do you know? 3 months later, my “provoked vulvodynia” is cured. Thank you for sharing this x

    1. Wowzers! Thank you for sharing this! I’ve had abnormal cells too but didn’t have to have that procedure because they were only mild and went on their own. But there’s literally SO much going on down there with hormones and things isn’t there? I’m so glad it’s cured too!

  11. This was super interesting to read. I have been on the pill before and didn’t have periods for a while and I loved it, but then I did decide to stop for a little while. I totally agree with you with so many of these points, I kind of felt comfortable knowing that my body was working okay and having periods was a good way to know. And also the thought of having the fake hormones pumping around your body, it does seem a little scary! I can totally see why you would miss having periods.

    Chloe xx

  12. Thanks for sharing your experience, I’m not on any thing as I’m not in a relationship so I don’t need that kind of protection, also I would have to manage the other health issues I have to, as my Diabetes can be effected as well, my BS levels go up before my cycle, which is a normal day of a diabetic!!

    So I wish sometimes not having to wait to guess when they are but sometimes it’s fun to guess, keeps me on my toes!

    Nic | Nic’s Adventures & Bakes

  13. I’m currently on my period (TMI) and it’s awful in this heat so I wish I didn’t have it but I’ve tried the pill a few years ago and I absolutely hated it x

  14. I’m obsessed with how candid this post was! I totally understand you not wanting to be on the pill anymore so your body can be its natural self again. And I’m with you on the part about getting cozy! My cramps can get so bad that all I feel like I can do is curl up with a heating pad and cuddle with my dog in bed. I had an awful time with the depo shot in high school so I’ve been very against getting back on any birth control because I felt every symptom possible. But I’m glad you opened up a conversation that not a lot of women feel comfortable having, especially on the internet! Can’t wait to see more of your candid conversations! 🙂

  15. I love your honesty here! It is pretty incredible how we can miss something like having cramps and curling up to get cozy, but there is also plenty of reassurance in knowing that our bodies are doing what they are supposed to.

    I get bad cramps, but I have never thought about taking a pill. I love my hot water-bottle!

  16. This is so interesting! I’m on the combined pill so occasionally I would overlap my break so I don’t have a period (for holidays etc) but in those rare times I do miss being on my period. I agree with the comforting thing – it sounds weird but there’s something about having cramps and getting cozy like you said. This is such a rarely talked about subject so Thankyou for sharing your experience 💜

  17. This is such a great post girl! Thanks for sharing a taboo topic. I honestly miss having periods too. I have endometriosis so I am on birth control pills and a strong hormone to keep it under control and it therefore causes me not to have any periods. It actually gives me menopausal symptoms like hot flashes (and I am only 27!) so I would much rather have a period than that. But unfortunately the only cure for it is a hysterectomy and I am obviously too young for that too so I guess I just have to suffer through a few more years lol

  18. Totally different perspective, so sure. But, I can relate. Every time I visit the doctor, and they ask me when my last cycle was… I can’t answer LOL It’s very rare and I haven’t had a normal cycle in years. I do hate the hormones, too. They aren’t good for my migraines, either.

  19. What an interesting perspective! I don’t know if I could ever miss my period. I think most of that comes from a place of pain and frustration because my period is much worse than most due to chronic illness. However, I think I could understand your thoughts based around routine and knowing that things are “regulated” to a degree. Would you ever consider going back off the pill again to normalize things a little more?

    1. I would love to go off the pill but I need a strong reliable contraception because I’m sexually active and don’t want kids and don’t want to run that risk! It’s such a difficult situation!

  20. While there is one part of me that is TOTALLY envious of the fact that you no longer have periods, I can also see where you’re coming from. Honestly, the inability to see that my body is doing what it’s supposed to properly would definitely have me a little on edge. I’ve never understood why the topic of periods is SO taboo… It’s a natural bodily function and one that’s SO important for bigger and better things, aka children! Right?

  21. All of your feelings are incredibly valid! There is something to be said about periods and how they affect us; it makes sense that taking them away after having them for most of your life would come with its own set of emotions and feelings that are complicated. I agree with those comforts, especially routine and knowing that I’m not pregnant. I’m happy that you were able to express your feelings and also speak to those who share them. Thanks for sharing your perspective!

  22. I really appreciate this post because I feel like, as women, we don’t have much space to talk about our periods and/or pills even though it’s part of our routine. I get bad cramps, so I’ve been thinking about going on the pill lately. But, I’m also not sure if I should go through it because I agree with the points you’ve mentioned. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  23. I can understand how it might be a difficult thing to get used to, even if it’s something that you’ve chosen for yourself. Thank you for your honesty in sharing your experience.

  24. I’m a total mix on this. On one side I hate my periods. They are a bit fickly, always have been, and I can’t really count on when they’ll come, even when on the pill. Its like my body just decides now its time and no pill or anything else is gonna change that. On the other hand they are a nice way of the body to do a natural clean out and well, its nice to know everything is working even if I don’t plan on any more kiddos. Thanks for sharing

  25. I’ve just started taking the mini-pill again after a long break (specifically chosen due to being a smoker and overweight), and I’m at the stage where my body is getting used to everything again. One thing I did like about not taking it was the stress of not having periods, so it’s nice to see you talking so frankly and openly about it!

    Hannah / hannahpeaches.co.uk

  26. I can completely relate! I am on the implant and my periods have stopped, which is great in some aspects but I do find myself missing them! x

    – Charlotte / charlottesspace.com

  27. Every sentence I read in this post I found myself nodding along with you. Felt like I was speaking to a friend! The scariest part about contraception for me is the fact that there are so many ‘fake hormones’ involved. It’s enough to send me for the hills, I hate the thought of interfering with my bodies natural cycles. Thank you so much for sharing X

  28. It is the WRONG time of the month for me to be reading this. 😂 I totally get what you’re saying about fake hormones because I’ve known a couple of friends come off contraception for the same reason. But my cycle isn’t my friend and having periods doesn’t give me any of these things. The only contraception on offer to me that doesn’t make me extremely ill is the coil and the thought of having one of those things inserted makes me feel almost as ill as an actual period so I don’t have a lot of choice. I’d love to be able to get rid of mine. But each body is different and to be honest, even if I did have the option I don’t think I’d like being on something for an extended period of time. Can definitely see why Carl didn’t get it though…x

    Sophie

  29. This is interesting. I, for one, wish to stop my period because it’s just painful for me and causing discomfort on my first two days. But I learned a lot from your post. Thanks for sharing! ☺