July was not a cool month. Literally and figuratively. After my Pinterest account was marked as spam and all the hours hours of work I’d put in over the last few months was basically shot to shit, I was at the end of my tether. I was just NOT feeling good about my blog, my career and my progress. I was seeing people succeed left, right and center and here I was feeling completely and utterly LOST. So I decided to take some advice from myself about finding your way back to you.
I also feel like this is an appropriate time to talk about this and share this post with this VERY APPROPRIATE title because my book, Finding Your Way Back To You is out NEXT MONTH. Can you believe it? I still remember last year, being offered to write this book and thinking it was literally a prank (that’s a good indication of how I feel about myself sometimes!)
But anyway. So. July was shite. For the first 2 weeks I felt completely out of whack with myself. I did mention it briefly on Twitter but didn’t go into too much detail but basically, my confidence with my blog had plummeted. My views were dropping quite dramatically – partially due to the Pinterest issue and partially because I was so fed up I just wasn’t bothering.
July was also a pretty slow month for blogging work and I’m not the only person to mention this. My income was on the lower side and as someone who’s pretty motivated by money and success, you can imagine how much of a kick in the crotch that was.
Basically, I just really needed to take a step back and have a good, long, hard think about things. Which I did. I did quite a few things during that period of wallowing which made me a feel a ton better and although of course there are some aspects you can’t and will never be able to control – it’s important to focus on what you CAN control. And that’s you. Your attitude. And the way you deal with these set backs in life.
So today I’ll be sharing some top tips on finding your way back to you in times of uncertainty:
Get offline and away from your phone
This is one of the things I did that probably helped me the most and that was getting AWAY from the situation that was making me feel down. Having a digital detox – even just for one day – really gave me the head space I needed. I had my digital detox on a Sunday which personally I think is the perfect day to switch off from social media, ahead of the new week. I barely picked up my phone all day and was super present. It felt amazing.
Get really bloody honest with yourself
This was something that happened during my crappy period that I didn’t expect to happen. But actually turned out to be exactly what I needed. I ended up having a pretty honest conversation with Kayleigh from Kayleigh Zara and sharing some of my shit that I didn’t think I’d end up telling her. Turns out, we’re all struggling with something, aren’t we? But letting go of what I was feeling that I’d never expressed out loud before really helped.
Watch your mindset
In your journey to finding your way back to you, your mindset is going to play a pretty lead role in how you get there. Your mindset is the one thing you CAN CONTROL. So really take care of it and what’s influencing it. Try and establish a mindset routine and try and perform that routine every day – even when it’s the last thing you want to do.
Practice all the self care
Yes, yes, yes. Self care. God’s gift. Honestly I practiced more self care during that crappy month than I’ve done in years and I did not regret it for a second. If anything, it taught me that I need to be practicing MORE self care than I have been. When you’re feeling lost, self care is vital. Overdose on it. Make it your TOP priority. Because the only person getting yourself out of this funk… is you.
Move your beautiful body
Exercise is great however you’re feeling – obviously. I don’t need to tell you that. But I found it particularly beneficial when I was feeling so lost and crappy because it got me out of my own goddamn head. Which sometimes is exactly what you need. I mean, if you’re anything like me then you know how exhausting being in your own head ALL THE TIME can be. Get your body moving. It deserves it. Check out Holly Dolke on YouTube for some fab, quick, HIIT workouts and of course my fave, Yoga With Adriene.
Accept that you’re lost
Acceptance is the first step to… recovery? Is that the saying? Whatever it is, acceptance is so important. It can genuinely be the first step you need to take to feeling like yourself again. I was powering through as normal until I realised I felt mega off. But at first, I didn’t know why. It was only after a bit of soul searching did I realise what the problem was for me and then I continued on with all the other points in this post. But acceptance comes first.
Make a plan
Look, you can’t stay lost forever. You need you. So although it’s beneficial to just feel the feels and switch off and take care of yourself, you still need to make some sort of plan on how to find your way back to you. Consider it your internal road map. This one can be tricky to dictate because everyone’s situations are so different but for me, I accepted where I was, I was clear with myself on where I needed to be and made a plan of how to get there. A plan will help you get started on finding your way back to you.
Have you ever felt lost and struggled with finding your way back to you? Are you struggling right now? Which of these tips would you find most helpful? Let me know!