If you’ve ever said any of these things to someone with anxiety, just shtap.
- Just chill out: Oh wow, you’re right. I’d never even thought of that before, you’re my saviour. Anxiety, especially severe, life-altering anxiety is the incapability of being able to simply “chill out” even sometimes, in the most normal of situations. So telling me to “chill out” is probably going to make me even less chilled yo.
- Go out and do something, you’ll feel better: Well actually, some people with anxiety have a crippling fear of outside so you know, maybe don’t say that.
- You just need to get back to normal: Oh gosh! Yes! Normal! That’s what I need. What even is normal, anymore? Nobody is the same, nobody is normal – telling us to essentially just, “be like everyone else” isn’t nice or helpful.
- It’s nothing, everybody gets anxious: Oh so everybody feels like they can’t function every single day of their life for absolutely no reason? Everybody does get anxious – to an extent and when faced with certain things. But for the majority of the day, every day, often for no reason is something you can’t just shrug off as, “Oh, everyone gets it”.
- You’ve got nothing to be anxious about: If you took the time to research what Generalised Anxiety Disorder is then you’d know that most people that have it do in fact get anxious for no apparent reason.
- Lots of people have got it worse than you: Wow, really? You’re playing that card? Well next time you moan about how much something costs or that there’s nothing in the fridge you fancy eating, I’ll remind you that some people have it worse than you and you’ll see how quickly that gets annoying.
- You’ll look back and regret spending so much time feeling anxious: Like I woke up one day and thought, “You know what would be really fucking fun?” I didn’t chose this but it’s a part of who I am and as much as I hate it with every ounce of my being, I’m not going to regret fighting something and *hopefully* getting through it.
- It’s all in your head: The clue is in the name, babe, “mental” health. It’s not all going to be in my arse now, is it.
As someone that suffers with anxiety daily, I know how infuriating it can be when someone says something like this to you. It’s hurtful and disheartening and makes you wonder whether everything you’ve done to try and cope with this awful condition has even been worth it. But if, like me, you do struggle with anxiety, remember how strong you are and how nobody, nobody can tell you otherwise.
As always with my anxiety related posts, this was intended to hopefully help raise awareness and educate on the matter but should be taken lightly. If you think you're suffering from anxiety and it's affecting your daily life, please go and see a doctor.