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I believe feeling empowered can help you in all aspects of your life. When you’re confident and sure of yourself, you glow differently. We all deserve to feel empowered and confident. In our bodies, in our minds and in our relationships. I’ve been working on my confidence quite a lot lately, so it feels like a great time to be writing about empowerment!
Dating and relationships are certainly something that can have a huge impact on our confidence, well-being and feelings of empowerment. I can’t imagine I’m the only one here who has experienced a toxic relationship which has stripped you of everything that was “you”.
If you haven’t, lucky you. If that feels a bit too close to home, I’m sorry and I understand.
As the world opens back up and single people start dating again (and couples are allowed to actually GO on dates again!) then now would be a really good time to brush up on how you feel about your confidence and empowerment. After a year of lockdowns, it wouldn’t be surprising if you felt a little out of whack with it all!
How can feeling empowered help you whilst dating?
Embrace what you like
The best way to feel empowered and confident in your dating life is to embrace what you like and don’t feel embarrassed about it. I spoke about sexual empowerment earlier this month, which is a really important concept to understand when you’re dating and in a relationship.
So when you get back out there dating, you might want to consider more niche dating sites, like subsanddoms, if you’re into BDSM. There are a ton of niche dating sites which might help you find something more specific and I also think joining sites like subsanddoms and mybdsmbookups, is incredibly empowering as you’re going after what you like!
Indulge in self care and date yourself first!
I’ve had relationships or points in certain relationships where I’ve not felt like myself. I’ve been all consumed by the relationship and the other person that I completely lost any sense of identity and who I was. It would appear I’m quite a needy person in relationships and that’s okay – but you need to learn how to manage it and know that you can’t stop taking care of yourself.
This is where self care comes in super handy. Learning about the different areas of self care and even setting self care goals to ensure you stay on top of it. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone or where you are in your dating journey, I promise you that empowerment isn’t going to come from getting obsessed and losing your self of self.
Get Blogged kindly sent me some lovely self care goodies to include in this post, all of which play an important part in looking after yourself and your self care so you can feel more empowered! And all of these products are great ideas to include in your self care kit!
The pillow spray won’t only help you sleep (which is obviously an incredibly important part of self care!) but it can also be used to relax sexual nerves, due to the lavender in it! The candle I received was in a gorgeous clean cotton scent, perfect for a sexy night in either with your partner or alone. And the wellness journey is great for getting your thoughts and feelings down on paper. We don’t want anything bottled up!
Put your safety first (in all aspects!)
Safety is obviously one of the most important aspects of dating. Especially now that the world is opening back up post COVID. It would appear that daters have even MORE safety aspects to think about now! If you’re getting ready to go out on dates again and you’re concerned about safety, consider these following tips:
- Have a virtual first date instead
- Pick somewhere outside in the fresh air
- Wear a mask and ensure the other person is wearing a mask too if appropriate
- Don’t go anywhere you don’t yet feel comfortable going
- Only go to an establishment which follows COVID safety procedures
Send them packing if they don’t respect you
And finally, R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Respect is one of the most important things when it comes to relationships. And a lack of respect can seriously harm your confidence and empowerment. I know this point can be easier said than done. But if they don’t respect you, you need to show them the door.
Nobody is worth lowering your self esteem and empowerment for. You can feel empowered on your own, just as much as in a relationship. So that said, you don’t even NEED that other person in order to feel like your most confident self. If you feel like you deserve better, you probably do!