Well-Being & Self Care

Looking After Your Well-Being During the Holidays

The holiday season can be stressful on so many levels. It’s supposed to be the happiest time of the year. But what if it isn’t? I’ve got a love / hate relationship with Christmas. Although this year, I am actually looking forward to it, it’s certainly not always been that way. And looking after your well-being during the holidays is so important and something I’ve come to realise that not only I need to do – but everyone does.

Looking After Your Well-Being During the Holidays

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Christmas is stressful. It’s built up and built up and built up for months on end, boils down to one day and then we’re all left clear away the physical, financial and mental mess afterwards. I know, that’s a bit dramatic but essentially, that’s what it is. It’s no wonder our well-being can end up in tatters during the holiday season!

I promised I wouldn’t be a Scrooge anymore so yes, Christmas is stressful. But it can also be wonderful and magical. But only if we keep our well-being in check along the way:

Don’t compare your Christmas to what you see on Pinterest

I’ve put this point first because personally, I think it’s the most important. And not just Pinterest – any social media really. We are inundated with the “perfect” images every single day online. Posed, staged and sometimes fake images to portray a certain look. And whilst these images might be visually beautiful…

They’re not real.

And it can be all to easy to fall into the trap of comparing your own Christmas and holiday season to the perfect images you see on Pinterest. Remember, the perfect Christmas doesn’t exist. Nobody is going to post a photo of their family arguments, burnt Christmas puds and Uncle Dave throwing up on their favourite shoes.

Focus on your self care

Mental, physical, spiritual, intellectual. Focus on all areas of your self care during the holidays; it’s just as important as any other time of the year. Now is not the time to be neglecting them. I know everyone is busy and there’s so much to do during this time of year but you can’t pour from an empty cup. There’s no point becoming too busy getting everything done that you’re too exhausted to enjoy it afterwards. Don’t forget to take care of your basic needs too.

Stay on top of things

However, I do appreciate that there IS a lot to do during the Christmas. Looking after your well-being during the holidays means looking after everything and your schedule and to-do list is included in that. I’m big on organization; being organized helps me stay much more stress free, especially during periods like Christmas.

As best you can, stay on top of things, keep organized, plan and schedule in advance and for the love of Jesus don’t leave your Christmas shopping until the last minute!

Keep track of your finances

Yep… your financial well-being needs looking after too. And this is the one that can definitely take a big hit during the holiday season. With so much going on all around the same time; Halloween, Bonfire Night, Thanksgiving (if you’re across the pond), Christmas and New Year, it’s no wonder so many of us worry about money during the final quarter of the year.

Ignore, mute and block diet culture content online

Ugh. I’m not going to go too much into this because this is a WHOLE other argument for another post but if there’s ever a time where everyone and everything is so focused on food, what we’re eating, what we’re drinking and what weight we’re gaining, it’s the holidays (and after). Diet culture is toxic at the best of times. It is NOT the time to be making people feel guilty about eating a mince pie (or any time of year).

Learn to say no (and don’t feel guilty for it)

There’s so much pressure to be involved in things over the holidays. Friends and family are back in town, there’s events, parties and get-together’s happening all over the place. Having suffered with anxiety for years, I know how hard it can be when people are expecting you to be there and be present but your mental health is screaming no.

Learning to say no and not feel guilty about it is one of the most liberating things you can do. It can be tough, sure. Especially if it’s family related. But at the end of the day, if people loved you, they’d understand if you had to say no to something for the sake of your own well-being.

A little gratitude goes a long way

And finally… don’t forget to express a lil gratitude when you have a moment of peace. For yourself, for everything you’ve made it through this year, for anything you’ve learnt, for the people who love you and for your higher being – whoever or whatever that is to you. A little gratitude really goes a long way, especially during stressful times.

How are you planning on looking after your well-being during the holidays? Any special tips or tricks you can share? Let me know in the comments!


  1. I am glad Robin shared this post! Very good ideas here…if we do not organize our time, set priorities, and take care of ourselves, we will not enjoy the Christmas season!

  2. Awesome tips!

    1. Jenny, I shared this post on my blog today.

  3. This is all such great advice–advice that I should definitely follow. How would you feel about my sharing a link to your post on my blog? I’m planning on doing that in the next week or so (maybe sooner), provided of course that it’s okay with you.

    1. Share away 😌

      1. Thanks! I will probably share this today or Thursday of next week.

  4. This is such a great post! You had me with the first one–don’t compare! That can certainly add on a lot of unneeded stress and anxiety. Pinterest is good for inspiration but it’s not a measuring tool.

    1. Definitely agree x

  5. Rtailor says:

    Perfect advice!!! The holidays seem to be sucking the life out of me!! It’s supposed to be a happy time, dang it!!!

    1. Oh no! Hope you manage to chill out! x

      1. Rtailor says:

        Thank you so much!!!

  6. I think remembering to say no and not to push yourself is so important. There seems to be so much more obligation at Christmas and combined with your general anxiety, the guilt of not going tends to make you feel much worse! I had a panic attack on Christmas day a few years ago and I tried my best to sit through it in the living room with my in-laws but in the end I had to admit defeat and go up to bed. I felt awful for bailing but in that moment it was what I needed to do and once I removed myself from the situation I felt so much better. Great tips, something we should all bear in mind for the festive season! Xx

    1. I agree! It’s so important to do what you need to do even if it is leaving early or taking yourself to another room x

  7. I love your suggestions here, Jenny. I find Christmas to be so stressful, and this year even more than others. But I’m pulling away this year, I’m stepping back from those that make it hard and focusing on my own wee family, and my own traditions.

    1. That sounds like a great idea 😌

  8. So true, it can be a funny time of year and the afterwards is the worst. I hate January.


    1. I personally like January but I can understand why you don’t x

  9. So ive been taking a break the past week because i was so run down and i feel great. I work full time and blog and always try too much. So this week ive just went to work and enjoyed my time after and its been really nice haha

    1. Glad you’re feeling better!

  10. Christmas is always super stressful. I feel like my self care time is January when it’s all over 😂 x


    1. Haha, I’m the opposite! Once January comes around I’m always back on it, 100%! x

  11. I’ve struggled with Christmas in the past for many reasons so I defo agree that you need to take extra care during this season!

    Jessica & James | http://www.foodandbaker.co.uk

    1. Awh I hope you don’t struggle as much this year xx

  12. It is so important to look after yourself during the holiday season!

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

    1. It sure is x

  13. On the flip side of diet culture, I’d add that it’s also bad manners to ask invasive questions on someone’s eating preferences/diets/restrictions, etc.

    I’m low carb for health reasons and I’m just dreading the inevitable “Why aren’t you eating any of this amazing pie I made??” comments.

    1. Yeah that’s always a tough one too. Same applies for alcohol.

  14. Lots of great advice here! I definitely need to start my Christmas shopping soon to stay on top of things, makes it so much less stressful having it all sorted early xx

    Kate | http://www.katelovesx.co.uk/

    1. It sure does! I’ve just finished mine and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted haha!

  15. This is such important advice. Christmas can often feel incredibly stressful for me, I feel like I’m being pulled in every direction in order to make other people happy and never really doing what I’d like to do. I also really worry about money! It’s such an expensive time of year. It can be hard when there’s pressure to be cheery and happy, so these tips are fantastic for being gentle with yourself. Another brilliant post 🙂 x

    1. The pressure to be happy is literally the worst!

  16. This is great advice. Money and parties increase my anxiety this time of year. My mom wants me there for thanksgiving and christmas every year. I am expected to bring gifts and have fun when it’s hard to. The only planning I do is Christmas gift shopping. I hate doing it too.

    Great advice

    1. Thank you – I suggest just getting it done as early as possible if you don’t like doing it so then it’s out the way!

      1. They would be a good idea. I can avoid all the people who go late

  17. I’m not a huge fan of Christmas but I love to splurge on others. I like to gift, always have but not just at Christmas. So, looking after the finances is something I always need to do. I think a lot of people really struggle through the festive period and looking after your own well being is just so important!

    Sarah 🌺 || Boxnip || Latest Post

    1. It sure it – I love splurging on others too!

  18. Couldn’t agree more! Keeping on top of your self care and finances is so important, I know loads of people who skint themselves in the name of having a Pinterest worthy Christmas. While I admit it would be very nice, it’s just not realistic – at least not in less than 3 months!
    Bella x

    1. Crikey that makes me sad – there’s more to life than making Christmas Pinterest worthy!

  19. Self care is definitely important over Christmas x

    1. It really is x

  20. I am hoping to have some time off blogging over christmas as I need to stop comparing myself to others xx

    1. I am too,
      Hope you manage it!

  21. Self care for me at Christmas is all about taking time off to relax x

    1. Oh absolutely – I love having a week or so away from blogging stuff in December x

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