Ah, self care. I feel like 2018 has been the rise in awareness of the importance of self care and the year that many people – myself included – have finally started to do something about it and realise that you know what, looking after ourselves is actually pretty damn important. I’ve posted a lot about self care on this blog over the course of the year and been focusing on it in my personal life in small (but significant) ways and I’ve definitely felt a shift in myself from 2017 – which was absolutely awful and I just don’t even want to talk about it.
I’ve finally learnt what’s important and how to treat myself. I know when to let something go, when to stop if something doesn’t feel right and not force myself to do anything just because I feel like I should or because society is saying I should. Of course I still have a lot to learn and that’s where next year comes it – a beautiful new chance to continue my journey with self care, expand it and let it grow bigger than ever.
I love the lead up to the New Year for this very reason, all the possibilities and the “clean slate” feeling (although I’m very aware that you don’t need a brand new year in order to have a new start but I like the principle) and how we can continue to work on ourselves over and over again. I’ll definitely be implementing these ways you can increase your self care game in 2019, will you?
One of the main things that stops people from embarking on and focusing on their self care is time. Because let’s face it, life is busy and hectic and there’s always something else to be doing. But we can make time. Whether that’s 10 minutes to meditate and stretch in the morning or an entire weekend to relax on a couples spa break. You cannot give your full potential to life if you don’t allow yourself the time to relax and rejuvenate – whatever that means to you.
Limit your screen time (and be strict about it!)
Limiting my screen time on my iPhone was something I started doing about mid way through 2018 but unfortunately I stopped and fell out of habit with it. I’m a self-confessed social media addict but whilst blogging is my job, it can be so difficult to find that healthy balance between being online for work and switching off because I always want to check my emails or see what’s going on on Twitter. When I did limit my screen time, I felt a benefit from it. So it’s something I desperately want to start again in the New Year and I urge you to give it a go too!
Do one thing every day that makes you happy
This could be the smallest thing in the world, like having your favourite chocolate bar or something huge like booking a holiday, obviously it will vary from day to day but putting our own happiness first for a small amount of time each and every day will have such a huge, positive impact on our mental well-being.
This is arguably one of the things I’ve been working on the most throughout this year. It’s so important and can have such a huge impact. I’ve learnt to be much more intuitive with my mind and my body. If I fancy some chocolate, I’ll eat it and won’t restrict myself. If I’m not feeling a Yoga practice, I’ll stop and I won’t force myself to finish it. If I feel like I need a nap, I’ll damn-well have one and I’ll stop feeling guilty for putting off work or chores until the next day. Listen to your mind and body – they’re smart.
Take care of the basics
Basic self care is the best form of self care in my opinion, especially when you’re feeling particularly rough or going through a bad spell or just generally feeling like you’ve neglected yourself a bit. By basic self care, I really do mean basic. Brush your teeth, drink some water, have a shower and eat a small meal. These things can sometimes seem like a mountain of a task when you’re not in that frame of mind but honestly, it will make you feel better. Even just a tiny bit. Even for just a tiny amount of time.
I’ve increased and grown my Yoga practice more than I ever thought possibly this past year. I got into Yoga a few years ago after being diagnosed with anxiety but never really got into it, until I found Yoga With Adriene on YouTube and I’ve been doing it almost daily ever since. I even went to my first Yoga Retreat and although it wasn’t what I was expecting, I’m still so glad I went. Yoga for me can be anything from gentle stretches to a 45 minute work out. I just love knowing that I have that one thing that I absolutely love which will get me moving (to whatever extent I want to move) every day.
And finally… gratitude. Ahh. The most powerful tool. Showing gratitude every single day – even on days where you feel like you have absolutely nothing to be grateful for – is a huge step up in your self care journey. I used to have a gratitude journal which didn’t really work for me but I always express my gratitude for things either in my head or out loud when no one can hear me throughout the day. Try it!
I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and taken something from it which you can implement in 2019! How do you practice self care? Are there any areas of self care that you’re lacking or need to work on? What is your biggest self care goal for 2019?
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Oh I love this! 2019 is going to be a great year. Putting out all the positive energy this year 🙂
Great tips, I definitely have to follow some of these this year!
These are great reminders. Self-care is definitely something I’ve ignored for quiet some time. However, in 2019 I’ll be stepping my game up. Showing gratitude and reflecting on the many ways we’re blessed is very important. I’ll be sure to show my gratitude more readily (Colossians 3:15). Thanks for this
I really needed this. I sometimes struggle with self-care, but lately I have been doing self-care Sundays which helps a lot. However, it’s just good to get more advice to stay consistent; especially for the new year. Thanks for sharing!
So glad it helped 😌
After a very bad time at the start of the year (and the tail end of last year), self care has been something I’ve been working on recently. I’ve made some good steps with it and This post has given me motivation to keep at as we head into 2019.
So glad to hear that it’s motivated you to keep it up 😌 I hope the beginning of next year is better for you x
Thanks Jenny x
Such a great read and so important to take care of #1 x
Thank you 😌 totally agree x
Self care is definitely something I need to do more of in 2019. I’ve done a lot in 2018 and made good progress so need to work on it!! This post has definitely motivated me!
Melanie || http://www.melaniewithanie.com xx
That’s great to hear ! 😌
Totally agree with this post! I had to make myself a little extra time each day but I get up half an hour earlier and start the day by reading my book with a cup of coffee. It’s the perfect me time and really sets up my day right.
That sounds perfect! I really wanna get up earlier 😌
I completely agree that because of blogging it’s hard to draw a line when it comes to social media! I find I’m on either Twitter or Instagram all the time and the excuse I find is because of blogging but I really need to get better at taking breaks from it. I think it’s so important to take some time out when you can for self care, I definitely need to make it more of a priority in 2019 xx
Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk
Screen time is so addicting, isn’t it?
I 100% need to get moving again and to reduce my screen time in next year, I’m grateful that I’m going on a couple holidays with my family so can’t wait for a proper break! Hope you have an amazing Christmas! x
Doing something that makes you happy everyday is such a good one. It’s so simple but so easy to miss. Limiting screen time is definitely something I need to work on x
It really is so simple! 😌
Such a good post!
Self care is so important. My go-to self care strategies are time to myself, yoga, drinking lots of water and eating a lot of fruits and veggies, and finding a creative outlet (writing, taking photos, doodling, etc).
Happy almost New Year! 🎉
Yoga is a huge self care element for me!
I just started practicing about six months ago and it’s amazing how it effects your entire being after a good session!
I need to take a bit more time to myself xx
Self car is so important, especially at this time of the year x
I really need to decrease my screen time. The amount of time I’m on my phone is shocking.
I know same, it’s shocking x
Great post, self care is always great to talk about because it is so important. I probably didn’t take care of myself as much as I should have this year so hopefully I can change that next year! Great advice though, definitely making time for yourself is so important, I like to actually schedule it into my calendar so if someone asks me if I’m free that day I’d say no!
Hope you manage to focus on it more next year! 😌
I love how you said we need to make time for self-care. I think so many of us are so focused on getting everything done before we have “me time” that we forget that far too often there’s always something that can be done. Self-care is still needed even in those times – even if we have to schedule it in, we need to make it happen!
Definitely! And there’s nothing wrong with scheduling it in either 😌
Nodding along to all of this but more so screen time! It’s so important to limit time spent on them.
It really is! I’m sick of being on my phone so much tbh!
The new screen time update on iOS has been a huge help on lowering my screen time 🙂
That’s what I used too!
Definitely limiting my screen time is one I want to put into practice next year. As I’m stuck in bed all the time, my laptop is my only link to the outside world, so it does make it harder. Though most times I am just watching Netflix or something, so at least it isn’t all spent on social media. I also want to take the time to read more too because I enjoy it and find it relaxing and I used to read a lot before I got sick. 🙂
Sarah 🌺 || Boxnip
Social media is the main thing I want to cut down on, not Netflix and watching things 😌 it’s just the endless scrolling I’m sick of!
Screen time! Oh so much needs to be a priority for me it’s so easy to get sucked in, removing notifications and icons I find helps as does leaving my phone in my bag/another room
Something I desperately need to work on too!
I’ve just got home from the spa and I feel so relaxed!
Love, Amie ❤
The Curvaceous Vegan
Wow lucky you!
Another great post to take advice and hints from, self care often neglected in leu of busy lives and chores, buy vitally important
Thank you 😌
Great post! I like limit your screen time. I use my phone for phoning or texting – in all the years I have never used for any other reason – zero apps. I schedule my time on my laptop where I can give my undivided time to what I view and what I do so the rest of my time I’m present with myself or those I love – both equally worthy of attention without distraction.
You sound like you’ve got that one pretty sorted already
It’s an ongoing challenge but when I first got my phone I was sitting in the Dr. office and every single person had their head down on their phone – I vowed that day I would never do that and so far I’ve managed to stick to it. It’s not for everyone for sure – I’m an odd ball but I’ve never regretted it. I just love your posts – you always have something meaningful to share.
Thank you 😌