I haven’t wrote a blog post in a good month now. I’ve not really been in the right frame of mind to do so and despite putting “write blog post” on my to-do list every day for the past 2 weeks, it hasn’t happened, I haven’t been able to bring myself to do it because you know what happens to blog posts when your heart’s not in it? They’re shit, that’s what. But this is something I’ve been thinking quite a lot about recently; my vision and goals for my blog and my book touring business for next year.
Well… 2016 was quite a year, wasn’t it? I’m not going to go harping on about how rubbish it was for me because I’m aware I’m beginning to sound like a broken record right about now but in today’s post I want to talk about some of the things I’ve learnt in the past year because with difficulties, comes important lessons and all that shit. Whatever, let’s get on with it…
Going into a brand new year can be equally as exciting and scary. Who knows what it may bring? Will it be good or bad? Will you experience anything life-changing this year? A new year in front of us can be a daunting thing but it doesn’t have to be scary – and for people like me who suffer with anxiety and mental health problems, it can be a welcome sight to have a solid foundation on which to try and build a fresh start and a new mindset. I do tend to stray away from the, ‘new year, new me’ malarkey and I don’t believe we can truly start ‘new’ but I do believe we can improve ourselves and take active steps to do that and therefore, become healthier and happier people – both physically and mentally. But today, I want to focus on the mental side of that metaphorical coin and share my tips on how to look after your mental health in the new year.
Whilst brain-storming blog post ideas for January the other day, I was reeling through all the genetic, “goals for 2017” type posts when I remembered that I wrote a “goals for 2016” post on 9th December 2015 – to be precise – I sat at my laptop and wrote down on my blog, for the world to see – okay maybe not the world – the things I wanted to try and achieve in 2016. To be honest I had completely forgot about all of them so chances of me completing them were pretty slim but I decided to go through them and talk about what I did and mostly didn’t manage to do…
As I’m sitting here writing this, I am completely emotionally and mentally drained. I wrote a post a little while ago about 2016 with a person note from me to the universe about what 2016 has taught me from being so utterly shite Well, it’s the year that just keeps on giving and it’s not over yet but I’ve started to get into my ‘preparing for the new year’ mind-set, which is one I always enjoy. I’m an avid tidy-upper and sorter-outer as it is and I’m in my element when I’m sorting things, cleaning things and generally organising things and there’s no better time than the end of a year – especially a bad one – to do that. Here are some things I like to try and do to prepare for the year ahead.
This year has been, to put it quite bluntly, shit. Shitty shit shit. We’ve seen some of the most controversial campaigns and decisions in political history. We’ve lost some of the most iconic actors, musicians and role-models and we’ve endured more news stories of terrorism, violence and heart-break and than I care to think about. Globally, 2016 has been a bit of a travesty. But personally, it’s been pretty diabolical too. It’s been hard and stressful, my mental health has plummeted numerous times throughout the year, it has fallen into holes I didn’t know existed. There has been death (although no-one too close to me, thankfully) and I’ve seen people I know and love suffer. I’m going to leave it there because I’m not auditioning for the X Factor and this isn’t a sob story but today I wanted to talk about the importance of finding joy whenever you can, however you can. Finding happiness and enjoying the little things in life because when the world is as royally fucked as it is right now, the little things are so very important.
I’m not talking about New Years Eve, dressing up, having amazing plans and getting ridiculously drunk – in fact, I’m not one for bothering with New Years Eve plans anymore now I don’t drink or go clubbing – I’m talking about the scary prospect of a whole new year ahead of you. When you can leave the trials and tribulations of the previous year behind and, as cliché as it honestly does sound, have a fresh start. I’ve always found this transitioning period from one year to the next an important time and here’s some things that I’ve done – and still do – to help me get the New Year off to a positive start.
2015, to put it bluntly, has been crap. It’s been absolute rubbish both personally and globally. There’s been a lot of tears, a lot of uncertainty and a lot of self-doubt. In the wider world, there’s been a lot of tragedy and a lot of heart-break and the closer the end of the year came, the more and more I heard about how 2015 wasn’t a great year for a lot of people. However, it wasn’t all bad and there was some lovely moments so today I’m going to turn my frown upside down and talk about some of my favourite things that happened last year.
The Lake District: Last year I went on my first proper holiday with my boyfriend to Cumbria and The Lake District and it was just incredible. I love holidaying in the UK and it has so much more to offer than what we think. The Lake District is truly, truly stunning and I loved exploring and making memories there.
With the end of a year, comes all the lessons we learnt throughout it and although you couldn’t possibly determine an entire year by 15 points written down on a blog post, it’s still important to look back at the good, the bad, the ugly, the funny and the ridiculous to see where you went wrong or right. Here’s 15, some serious, some not so serious, things I learnt this year.
First of all, I think I speak for everyone here when I say, “where on Earth has 2015 gone?” I swear I can still remember writing up my ‘Goals for 2015’ post almost a year ago – FYI, none of which I actually achieved. I’m not sure what makes me more confident this year that I’ll be able to achieve anything on this list – I’m not really, I just guess it’s the done thing to do when another year is looming towards its end, to give us some motivation and drive for the year ahead. But still, it’s always nice to have and set goals so here are a few of mine for next year!