Let’s address the elephant in the room first. It’s February and we’re still in a pandemic. Fucking hell. I’m sure we were all wishing that we’d be back to some sort of normality by Valentine’s Day; regardless of our relationship status but alas, here we are. Today I want to share some solo date ideas for Valentine’s Day this year and convince you that loving YO’SELF is the most important thing you can do.

Solo Date Ideas

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Self love doesn’t come easily to me. Neither did spending time alone until last year when I basically couldn’t spend ANY time alone and I really struggled with it. At the beginning of 2020, I took myself on my first ever solo cinema date and I also had a solo staycation booked for April. Of course the staycation didn’t happen but learning to love myself and love spending TIME with myself is something that has become hugely important to me.

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Valentine’s Day; typically associated with couples. Mostly cis couples at that. Flowers, chocolates and a fancy dinner in Nando’s. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate Valentine’s Day nor have any problem with those that celebrate it every year. My boyfriend and I don’t celebrate it ourselves but that’s our choice. But I think the emphasis on love around this time of year can certainly be extended to the love we have for ourselves.

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Something that I’m going to make a point of doing this year is having a date night with myself. If you’re rolling your eyes at that, that’s cool. It can sound a bit cuckoo to some. But for others it could be the very first step to practicing self love on a deeper level and learning to love spending time with yourself, whether that’s doing a face mask, getting intimate with yourself and your favourite sex toy whilst you watch freecams live or taking yourself out for a coffee.. Let’s face it, the only person you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with is you. You might as well get used to it. These solo date ideas will help you get more comfortable with prioritizing time with yourself!

So today I want to share with you some solo date ideas that you can have with your beautiful self this Valentine’s Day (or any day!)

Solo Date Ideas

Have an at home spa evening

Probably the most obvious option but now is a GREAT time to have a full-on spa evening with all the bells and whistles. Think all your favourite products, bath bombs, a glass of bubbly, lotions and potions, nail painting, exfoliating – the LOT. I love doing this occasionally and it always feels like such a huge treat.

Cook your favourite 3 course meal from scratch

I love this one because cooking can be really soothing and a real act of self love and self care. 2020 really made me more interested in cooking and throwing ingredients together to see what I could come up with. But as this is a special occasion (and YES, a solo date is a special occasion) it might be nicer to indulge in all your favourites. Lay the table, print a menu, put on some candles – go all out.

Or order your favourite takeaway for a cozy solo date night in

Can’t be arsed to cook? No problem. This one will be more up your street! When my boyfriend used to go out after work occasionally (does anyone actually remember what it felt like to properly “go out”?) I’d make a point of having a proper lovely night in with myself. I’d stick on my favourite TV show (usually One Tree Hill), order my favourite takeaway (usually sushi), pour myself a drink and just have a bloody lovely night in.

Do an intention setting ritual and gain clarity

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Spend the day doing all your favourite things

If you have the luxury of dedicating an ENTIRE DAY to yourself then you really should. There’s nothing nicer than spending a whole day doing everything you love. Block out a day in your calendar and tell your family or whoever you live with not to disturb you. You should never feel guilty about putting yourself first. And make a mega list of all the things you love that you want to do that day; read, go for a walk, play Red Dead Redemption for 8 hours.

Will you be taking these solo date ideas for Valentine’s Day and having a date with yourself this year?


  1. These are all such cute ideas, I feel like there’s so much pressure to be in a perfect relationship with someone but it’s so important to also be kind to yourself 🤍

  2. A big yes to all of this! A few years ago when I was single I spent Valentine’s Day by myself and had the BEST day. I had a bubble bath and drank a mimosa while listening to my favourite music, had dinner and watched films and it was lovely. I’m so bad at taking time out to just relax these days so I should probably take this advice for self-love time! Thank you for sharing!

  3. These are such good ideas! My boyfriend has been staying with me since August due to the lockdowns and tier restrictions, so we’ll be doing something together this year. BUT this is exactly what I’ve done for the last couple years of being single and, honestly? It was the best thing I ever did!

  4. Carving out time for myself is something that I know is really important, yet at the same time I never seem to be able to persuade myself to actually do it. There are some great suggestions here – never thought about cooking a full meal like that just for myself, but love that idea. Definitely blocking out the calendar now!

  5. I love this suggestions, I will be single on Valentine’s Day this years. I am planning to have a takeaway and watch a movie on Netflix for Valentine’s day. Even thinking about getting some strawberries and other things. Thank you for sharing.


  6. Oh Jenny I love this post ❤️ I would not have thought of things like this but the ritual setting and day to do what you love sound amazing 🤩

  7. I love this! I have a girlfriend but die to lockdown we can’t see each other! I like the last idea of spending the day doing all my favourite things! I think that’s the one I’m gonna go with, have all the foods I like, read my fave books and watch my fave films! Throw in some self pampering and all of that! Great wee post ☺️

  8. Yes! I have a partner but I’m doing things for myself for sure! I’m going to get some treats and coffee to enjoy as well as go for a nice long walk weather permitting! At night, we’ll have dinner together and maybe a movie or two! Getting take out would be lovely but I’m really looking forward to cooking something new haha x


  9. This is such a great post and love that it is focused on those spending the holiday solo ♥️ A lot of single people feel really down and lonely on V-day not realizing that it is an opportunity to turn up the notch on self-love. Thank you for sharing!

  10. I loved this! I’ve never really been a big Valentines fan even when I was in a relationship. Great ideas – I especially love the cooking the fave meal from scratch one xx

  11. I love this! I feel like we spend so much time showing love and care to those in our lives like our partners, friends and family, but we forget about the importance of loving ourselves as well. I am married, however, I still want to take a day and enjoy a solo date sometime in the next couple of weeks! After all, the importance of self love doesn’t end when you say I Do… This is a post that everyone can use.

  12. I love the idea of a home spa day. I’ve really wanted to do a spa evening with my husband lately, but it’s finding the time. I might try and arrange a night next week with the spa idea!

  13. I think I’m definitely going to go have lunch near the beach, buy myself some flowers & then finish it all off with an at home pamper day ! Sounds like the perfect Valentine’s Day to me lol !
    Great post, Jenny !

  14. There’s nothing more important than taking time for ourselves, I especially love having at home pamper evenings! I love your idea of cooking a three course meal from scratch too x

  15. After reading your post, I decided to go for cooking a 3-course meal with my hubby. It’s a good way to celebrate valentines day together during the lockdown.

  16. I love these ideas! I don’t personally do valentines day but these sound like great things to do! I think I will have to take on some of these! The day is about love so love yourself!

  17. I love all these ideas! Especially cooking your favorite meal from scratch! I love to cook so I would definitely do that!

  18. Love these ideas Jenny, ive got a blog post coming soon about a at home spa night and i think thats such a good idea! Cooking a 3 course meal for yourself sounds so good as well!

  19. These are all great ideas! I love the idea of having a solo date, we never appreciate time with ourselves enough. I think I will settle for a nice take away and loads of reading! Thanks for sharing x

  20. I love these ideas. I feel like I need to make more time for this sort of self care this year. I just get so wrapped up in life at times and it makes me miss my single days some times.

    I used to spend so much time indulging my passions and hobbies when I didn’t have to share my time. I need to find a balance I think,

    Great post, Here’s to a special valentines!

  21. Yes I agree Valentine’s Day is focused on couples, but that doesn’t mean we can’t use the day as reminder to love our selves.
    These are all great ideas & I would personally love a spa night or having take out & watching Netflix.

  22. I will defo be going for a nice take away on V Day. I won’t be solo but we don’t usually go crazy for Valentine’s Day as our anniversary is only a few days after!


  23. I actually can’t remember the last time I booked out some time for me on my own. I tend to get a couple of hours by myself when I’m in the garden (just the cats to keep me company) but if I tried to have any solo pamper time I’d get constant interruptions from Flora and Alan 🙁 Occasionally I do the food shop by myself just to get some alone time. I know that sounds sad but I’ll take what I can get in this bloody pandemic. Great post, Jenny, sorry for the ramble! xx

    1. That doesn’t sound sad at all I can totally understand. Taking what you can get is sadly something a lot of people have to deal with at the moment! Hope you can find some alone time soon! x

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