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The downside of being a serial to-do lister

I love a to-do list. I love to-do lists more than life itself. And apart from when I’m on holiday, I don’t think I’ve got through a single day in the last 2 years without working from a to-do list. I am a super organised person and I thrive off of it; the thought of waking up and just going about your day terrifies me. What if I forget something? What if I’m not getting my priorities straight? I am your straight up, stereotypical Type A personality and whilst that’s great and all and I get a shit load done on a daily basis it definitely has it’s downsides. To-do lists are amazing but recently, I’ve been noticing downsides.

I always put things for me on my to-do lists. Catch up on YouTuber’s I love, read some of my book, walk the dog etc. to remind myself that I need to make some time to chill throughout the day and do some nice, relaxing things that wind me down otherwise chances are I’m going to be on frantic work-mode and highly strung all day long. I work from home and for myself so my income, my progression, my everything depends on me and I don’t have the luxury of “taking it easy” every once in a while.

And whilst putting things for me on my to-do list is all very well and good, lately, I’ve been noticing a change. I recently bought some art supplies as when I was in school, I loved art . I loved drawing and painting and I really want to get back into it again. I bought a sketchbook, coloured pencils, paint brushes and watercolours and I’ve made a start on building up my first sketch book. And it’s great. I love it. I don’t get an awful lot of time to do it though so…. I’ve been adding it to my to-do list. “Do some art” or “do some drawing“, something like that.

However, ever single time it’s been on my to-so list, I’ve never done it. Never. But when it’s not been, I’ve just picked up my book because I fancied doodling for half an hour or so and I’ve really enjoyed it. I’m unintentionally turning things I love, things that should be enjoyable, things that should be hobbies and “downtime“, into chores. Into work. Into something I’m forcing myself to do not because I want to… But because it’s on that God damn to-do list.

Now, I’m well aware that this needs to change. That I need to start authentically enjoying myself again not forcefully enjoying myself because just it’s on a list. And I really would love to hear your thoughts on this. Are you a serial to-do lister like me or do you just go with the flow of each day? Have you ever found yourself in a similar position? Do you have any tips? Let’s discuss in the comments!

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Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.

62 Comments

  1. […] Or in as much order as the illusion of control can possibly give you. At this present moment I have lists on my phone of the following things; Blogging to-do’s, work to-do’s, things in the […]

  2. […] and more stuff for me to do – whether I have the time to do it or not. I’m highly a Type A personality, I thrive off of organisation, getting stuff done, meeting deadlines and projects and often spend […]

  3. Interesting, I’ve never actually written on my to-do-list leisurely things like start reading x2 chapters of a book I want to read or feed the ducks at the pond… Lovely… (Maybe it might work for me!)
    – Catherine

    1. I might do! Just don’t get too caught up that you don’t end up doing anything leisurely unless it’s on a bloody list like I am right now!

      1. 🙂

  4. I was too, but I realized it created an unhealthy cycle for me so I ditched it!😉🙏🏼

  5. Great post! I love a to-do list! It is so satisfying ticking things off, a real sense of achievement. I even find myself adding things I’ve already done just so I can tick them off! There are the things that I never get round to doing and they creep onto the next list and the next one…

  6. I love a to-do list, but only for the important shit that needs to get done. I don’t include things for me – like reading, or having a bubble bath. I think that’s where the balance comes in – for me, to-do lists are about jobs that need to be done, work, chores etc. I don’t want my hobbies to be on that list!

    1. Yes exactly that’s how I want to approach to do lists from now on but it’s so difficult to break the habit!

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