Phew, this post has been a long time coming. Again, it’s another one of my word-vomit, spontaneous, horribly written posts which I’ll look back on and realise it doesn’t make much sense at all but it’s a topic which has been firmly on my mind for well, fucking months and one that I need to talk about. For no other reason than to just get what I’m feeling off my chest, in the hope that it might make me feel a bit better and maybe, just maybe, someone reading this will feel the same and offer some insight. 

To put things nice and easy and bluntly; I am bored. Bored with life. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I fucking hate saying and thinking that. It makes me feel ungrateful and selfish and I’m well aware that I am so fucking lucky to be on this Earth, to have a roof over my head, people that love me (although as limited as those are) and food to eat. I know, okay. And I know there are people that would give anything for that. But please, we’re not gonna do the whole, “someone has it worse!” charade because our own problems and feelings matter and they are valid. Your experience isn’t anyone else’s experience and your experience matters. Okay glad we’ve cleared that up.

A few months ago now, I felt the same as I do now and it was overwhelming. I felt overwhelmingly bored. I was sick of staring at the same walls, seeing the same people, doing the same thing and never doing anything different. I wondered whether it was the fact that I work from home that adds to this feeling but people who go out to work essentially do the same thing, see the same people and places. They just have a small commute in the middle. So in all honesty, I think I’d be feeling the same regardless of what I did for work. I love what I do and I’m so proud that I’ve built my own business up from scratch. It’s not that. It’s… something else.

Is it wanderlust I’m feeling? Do I need to up sticks and go somewhere? I’m not sure. I always thrive when I’m away on holiday, even short breaks. But I’ve never been one in desperate need of travel. I like the idea of settling down and being homely with kids and family dinners. My gosh I love that idea. But even then, people are still happy and not in desperate need of “something more”. Is it a change of… something? Routine? Again, I don’t know. I already don’t have your usual 9-5 routine as it is. I don’t know what it is. But all I know is that right now, something needs to change because I feel so overwhelmingly bored with life that I don’t know how much longer I can take before I rip my hair out in frustration. Maybe it’s not anything. Maybe it’s just me. 

I want to go places, do stuff. Interesting stuff. But then I find when I actually do it, it’s not that interesting at all and a bit of a disappointment. Am I setting my goals and expectations too high? Is life supposed to be just a bit dull and mundane? It’s got to the point where I don’t look forward to things anymore because I already know that if I do and build them up to something in my head, I’ll be let down by how normal and mundane it actually was. It’s a sad, sorry state of mind to be in. When you don’t want to look forward to things because you already know you’ll be let down. Fuck. 

This is a bit word-vomity I know. I don’t know what I’m getting at; whether I just wanna get it off my chest, finally say it out loud to myself and admit what I’m feeling, whether I’m hoping someone will come into the comments and grace me with complete enlightenment on how I’m feeling and how to come out the other side. I dunno. I’m sorry if this didn’t make sense. I’m sorry if I sound unreasonable. And I’m sorry I’m not grabbing my one and only life by the balls and ringing whatever I can out of it (bleugh that’s a fucking horrible sentence I’m so sorry!) because ultimately I know it won’t be worth it. 

Any advice for me? 

112 Comments

  1. Hi, I completely understand where you’re coming from… I actually wrote a similar post a few months back! In the past few months I’ve slightly discovered a new lease of life, likely down to the fact I have completely changed my life around having moved away from home, started a new college course I actually enjoy and started a new job that’s different to anything I’ve done in the past! I know it’s not possible for everyone to have such a dramatic change in life but maybe you could try mixing things up a little… mix up your routine a little or find something that excites you again! Life easily falls into a continuous cycle so it’s good to break that cycle every now and again! 🙂

    1. I’m sorry to hear you went through the same but are staring to come out the other side! I’m trying and I haven’t had SUCH intrusive thoughts lately but they’re always there in the back of my mind. Holding on to the little things xxx

  2. Hey I know this post was a couple of weeks ago, how are you feeling now? It sounds like you are suffering from a bid of a quarter-life crisis or some mild depression, if it is honestly getting you down quite a lot though and you haven’t already you should see your GP. It’s not that they are going to give you a magical pill to make you better but they do have talking therapies and maybe you do need to just chew the fat with a total stranger who will repeat something back to you and you will be like “shit yeah I aught to do that”.

    But also travelling is actually really good for the soul, it is a recommended practise for when you are depressed sometimes. “needing to get away” is a real thing, maybe you just need a bit of an adventure? Sometimes when we go off and experiment with new things it can bring into clarity what no longer works in the norm. Take care of yourself

    Jen xxx

  3. I felt the same a while back, I was stuck in this rat race of waking up, going to work blah, blah, blah.. First off, don’t apologize for how you feel.. its real and obviously you’re not alone, others have felt this way too. What do you fear? Overcome your fears? You may learn something new about yourself. I used to have a fear of heights.. so I went skydiving, bungee jumping and rock climbing. I found out that I like rock climbing better than jumping out of a plane. There was a bit more of a challenge to it too. By the time you’re done, you’ve accomplished a lot.. plus, you’ll have stories to tell. So I ask you again, What fear can you overcome?

  4. I’m currently not at this place, but I get the feeling. It’s been there just before I usually slid in the depression. I used to think about my teacher who had cancer (I have to go by the oncology clinic every day) and I felt ‘why am I here so depressed when I have everything people would want’. But this is a wrong way to think. That does not make us selfish, because look at all the famous people who suffer from it and we think they have everything!
    Getaways usually help me a bit in such moments, or trying new things? Anything to be a bit exciting maybe. And I know how it is to feel like you see the same people every day – I live in a small country. But I’m making it all about me.

    My point is, try to find something exciting. Learning a new language perhaps? New sport? Or maybe really go for a small vacation somewhere if you can afford it?

    Now, a bit on the side – if you need anything, literally anything, I’m here and on twitter. And thank you for sharing this post.

    1. I totally get that mentality thinking that we’re selfish for feeling these things because others have it worse, it’s totally the wrong thing to do. I have considered trying to take up a new hobby or just ANYTHING but I need to find the right thing first. Thank you xxx

  5. I definitely don’t think you’re ungrateful for feeling this way! It’s just human nature, I guess. We seek for a routine for stability and yet we crave for some sort of adventure and change. People we look up to and aspire to be feel the exact same way as us, though we’d find that absurd because we could only dream of having a life like theirs. You might not know exactly what to do to cure this boredom, but perhaps try narrowing down everything you could possibly think of doing. If you come across something you want to do, you’ll just know it because you wouldn’t be reluctant about putting effort into it. Thank you for sharing this and I hope it all goes well!

  6. I totally get the same feelings. What I am trying now is set small or big wishes, challenges and goals to work towards.
    For example, now Im in a huge change mode since we are moving homes. However, sometimes it is just buying a bit expensive ring I have to kind of save for. I know it sounds stupid and materialistic. But having small things to look forward to, and just work on it a bit every day takes some monotony out of life, and brings a little excitement. Hope it makes sense.

  7. This was definitely me a couple of months back. I’d been in the same job for years, had the same friends and was quite frankly just bored with my life. Now I’ve moved cities to start my MA degree, I’ve found a new lease of life. Something it takes a big change to become excited about something again!

    Sian x
    http://www.theenglisheverygirl.com

  8. For me I try to avoid SM as much as possible. I also plan something or a few things which I want to do in the next month to give me something fun to look forward to. I have a few day trips and activities planned which give me goals.

    Steph xx
    http://www.stephsworld.com

  9. Oh my gosh, you just wrote down exactly how I’ve been feeling/what I’ve been thinking lately. I’m so bored with life, with doing the same things day in day out. And I don’t know what to do to change things, to make things better. I do wonder if it’s something to do with depression as I have struggled with depression in the past and wonder if it’s rearing its ugly head again. But honestly? I don’t know! So, sorry that I couldn’t help, but know that it is not only you who feels this way. xx

    1. It definitely helps knowing you’re not alone. I hope that’s helped you too, seeing someone feels the same. I’ve never been formally diagnosed with depression that’s why I’m always reluctant to say that’s what I think it might be. But it very well could be. I’m sorry you feel this way too & I hope it passes for you or you find a way around it soon xxx

  10. I’m coming to this post 2 days later, so you may be feeling different, you may not be. Either way is ok. Funny I should click on this post in particular. I too have been feeling bored. Unlike you I think I know the source. I’ve been trying to get back into writing. It’s been a passion of mine in the past. But it’s frustrating trying to manage my expectations with reality. Long story short, it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Side note, if I feel too bored for too long I’m usually depressed(usually 2 weeks or more.) Probably not the case with you but thought you might find it interesting.

      1. Honestly, that was the first thing I thought. Then again I’ve struggled with depression and mental illness since I was in middle school, so normal vs. someone like you who I don’t know. I imagine you’re sick of hearing this next phrase but it’s helped me a lot. Talk to someone. It doesn’t even have to be someone you pay for therapy (I don’t know your budget nor do I claim to.) It sounds like you have a support system of sorts which is good. Use it and that may help you. If not then it may be time to look into a an actual therapist.

  11. I had the same feelings a few months ago. Maybe I still haven’t completely overcome them now. I used to think that everything we do is pointless in the long run and I felt like a hamster running on a wheel. But then I decided to go out there and get a job. Now I don’t ponder over those thoughts as much as I used to before but sometimes I still think about figuring out my purpose in life.
    So far what I have deduced from my research on this topic that it is important to never stop growing; always keep in increasing your goals so you have something to work towards.
    The second thing is, humans are made in such a way that they feel happiness by helping others. So try volunteering, maybe that’ll give you some excitement and fulfillment.

  12. I hate feeling like this and sometimes get shorts bursts of it myself. For me, I find its when I stop doing things I love because I dont have time for it, when I start being a robot and stressing! I like to do different bits of hobbies etc that bring me back to focus. My job is customer service so I have a lot of different tasks and people to manage everyday so it keeps me on my toes. Hopefully you will feel differently soon!

    Sarah | http://www.sazsinclair.com xx

  13. I’m so glad you wrote this post and I don’t have much advice and don’t feel like this myself currently but I have felt like this previously on and off for quite a period of time. If you ever need or want to talk feel free to send me a message. Xx

  14. I often feel like this. Making plans helps as it gives me something to look forward to, making life seem less boring. Doesn’t have to be anything major, could be a local trip somewhere nice x

  15. I love how you said our feelings are valid! Very true and I think people need to stop competing to see who has it worse. I’m kind of in the same position as you. What helps me is setting goals. Like right now my life consists of trying to save money so I can within a few months live the life I’ve been wanting to. Even though things are dull now I know in a few months it would’ve been worth it. There is something I’m working towards so that gives me hope. Maybe setting a goal can help you too? I think life can be dull at time so this could also just be a temporary thing. Good luck with everything! 🙂

  16. I love this post and I’m definitely feeling in a similar situation at the moment which is ridiculous because I literally changed jobs a month ago so what the hells going on??? Thanks for posting this! I’m gonna read some comments and hopefully get a bit of advice too x

    1. Are you enjoying your new job? With this mindset I’m in, I’m not sure every “change” will fix it you know? Like changing jobs might not be the quick fix for you, it might be something else. Hope you start to feel better soon and find some advice in the comments! xxx

      1. I’m enjoying it while I’m there, most of the time, but I don’t feel the motivation to go there in a morning! I totally understand what you mean. Hope you feel better soon too 😊 xx

  17. What a lovely vulnerable post!!

    Do you love your job online? Perhaps you could ask yourself ‘what it is that you wouldn’t mind doing everyday of your life for free without getting bored’ and do more of that.
    I barely feel that way because I have such big dreams I want to achieve so my mind is always busy in how to make that happen. If you figure out what your biggest and wildest dream is, life becomes more interesting because everyday you take little steps towards it 🙂

    http://www.desiringsme.com/sweet-solitude/

    1. Thank you. I do love my job online, I’m so proud of myself but I do feel like I need “more” or something “else”, you know? I’m glad to hear you have such big dreams! xxx

  18. My partner recently went through something similar and I found a group where we live called ‘Give It A Goers’, it’s a bunch of people who suggest new activities usually on the weekends for people to try new things and meet new people. If travelling isn’t realistic with time/budget then maybe something like this could be an option for you? I hope you don’t feel stuck in this head space for much longer!

  19. Hi Jenny! What I would suggest is occupying yourself. Try to make a bucket list and set up some goals you are going to achieve. I`ve had a difficult time about a year ago… thinking too much, worrying too much and being busy helped a lot. I was meeting lots of people, doing different things and trying to achieve those little goals. It did help so maybe in your case would be helpful too. Stay strong :*

      1. Sometimes any ideas coming up to our mind could be good, even those crazy ones 🙂

  20. I wish I had some incredible advice for you but to be honest I’m kind of jealous! I wish I could say my life was boring, it’s a mess right now hence the jealous feeling. Maybe start up a hobby? But I guess blogging is..
    possibly a holiday?
    PaleGirlRambling xo

    1. Ah I’m sorry to hear that! Always open to chat, if you want to. My life itself isn’t boing. I’d hate to say my life is boring. I’m just bored. I’m looking at things in the complete wrong way and not seeing things as interesting or worth while. I’m definitely looking at starting up a new hobby (: xxx

  21. You’re not alone in feeling this way and I think it’s so important to acknowledge what we feel. We shouldn’t have to hold things in, because it doesn’t help. I often feel bored with life myself, but we just need to find something exciting and new, whatever that may be, and in doing that we can feel and be better. In time, something will come along and bring some sparkle back!

  22. I think you touched on a really really important point in your second paragraph, Jenny. While it is true that there are a lot of people in the world who have it way worse than us, everyone’s individual experience and their individual responses and feelings to situations in their own lives of valid. Just because somebody else has it worse doesn’t mean that you are not suffering right now. I think that this is so important to remember because I don’t feel that anyone should be made to feel guilty about their own experiences, that just isn’t fair. I can completely empathise with your feelings of board, I often feel the same way when I’m in need of a new challenge. I’m sure that something to spice things up to you will be just around the corner, sometimes good things to come to those who wait.

    Abbey 😘 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

    1. I’m glad you’ve said that because that’s exactly what I was getting at! I hate this whole competition on who has it worse and the whole mentality that “you can’t complain about things because there are starving children elsewhere in the world”. It’s sad but it doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to feel sad when I need to xxx

  23. What a coincidence! I’ve been feeling something very similar recently. Lately, I watch a lot of story times on YouTube, and although I’m sure many of them are exaggerated, some of them are quite intriguing. I remember just the other day I was watching one, and I thought to myself oh “how boring my life is!” It really made me want to do something about it. Then I questioned if I was just a boring person. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that my life isn’t going to feel boring forever because everything is temporary really.

    -GG
    http://www.girlingamba.com

  24. I loved that you shared this Jenny! I have times where i feel like this too and i hate it. My life is not bad by any means but i too often feel ‘bored’ with life X

  25. There’s so much pressure to constantly be happy or ‘excited’ with life when most of the time it feels like the same old routine constantly. I totally get you but maybe try something completely unlike yourself or gain new experiences or learn a new skill that will change the way you see things. Stay strong babe <3

    Morgan // http://www.justmorgs.com

  26. Oh lovely, how I have felt this so many times before. Like you said, you feel guilty for feeling this way when we are so lucky to live the western life we do. My advice would be to begin a gratitude journal? Know that this feeling will pass and do all you can to change things. As you said you work from home, maybe get out a bit more and do something challenging? Travelling is a life saver. Exploring somewhere new! When I change up my routine it makes a huge impact on my wellbeing. I think it is so normal to feel this way!

    1. I already write a gratitude journal, I’ve done it every day for almost a year now and whilst it’s nice to look back on I can’t say it’s having any impact on how I’m feeling right now. A change of routine certainly can help. I just don’t know what that change could be just yet! xxx

  27. Plan things in to do something different every day that’s not your normal routine maybe? Review after a week see if it’s working if it is then you know you need to mix it up more x

    1. I’d love to do that but I wouldn’t know where to start & I don’t think there’s enough to do to actually do something different every SINGLE day. Maybe I’ll try with the small things and work from there xx

  28. I totally get this feeling sometimes, too. It’s most definitely okay, because it helps us to think about what we feel like we’re missing and how to go about filling that void. You say you’re feeling greatest when on holiday or traveling. I say go wander around looking for new things, new places, anything and everything. You may just find what you’re looking for and maybe you’ll find more.

    Ashlynn | http://thecrimsoncardigan.com

  29. I honestly, feel so much of this post! I think it can be the nature of mental health … It gets so cyclical, and you feel that your feelings about this stuff are categorically permanent, but that doesn’t mean they are!

    I’m terrible for stop-starting things, but drawing eases my mind one day and then frustrates me the next because I don’t get the same enjoyment out of it!

    The hobby thing is a lovely idea, the other thing to do is perhaps fill a jar with your ‘bucket list’ of things you want to do – when you have a spare day, pick one at random, perhaps taking away the option to spend time building it up might mean you have less expectation over all?

    I hope that helps you a little bit, or at least just knowing someone else feels the same way that you do. I think this is a really brave post, and I promise you will get there sooner than you think hun, just remember it’s on the horizon!

    Kate x
    http://www.findingkate.co

    1. Thanks for such a lovely comment, it DEFINITELY helps knowing I’m not alone in how I’m feeling and I’m surprised so many people feel this way too. It’s a shame but it’s reality! xxx

  30. I’ve definitely felt like this! Although admirable, day-in-day-out of the same can get rather boring, can’t it? For me, starting my degree really helped with that. I’m learning so many different things that if I’m bored with a subject, I know it’ll only be another couple of chapters and I’m on to something new!
    Could you try learning something new? There’s all sorts of free modules available these days, and it might help with the business!
    I hope you feel better, whatever you decide to do 🙂
    Imogen’s Typewriter. <3

    1. I do love learning, starting a course or something could be good for me! I’ve done a couple of free Coursera courses in the past which I’ve really enjoyed so I might venture onto there again soon (: xx

  31. I feel like this all the time! It’s why I’m such a workaholic. You go to work and see your family and cook your food and watch tv or read a book and everything’s *fine* but you’re really wondering ‘is this really what life is about?’

    I think as well it’s important to ask yourself, when you put those interesting things on your ‘To do’ list, why are they there? Is it because you’re filled with so much excitement that you can’t bear it? Or is it because it sounds kind of cool and impressive and that’s what people think everyone should be doing?

    I’d second everyone on the hobby thing – something that is maybe a little out of your comfort zone and not related to any of the other stuff you enjoy. Or something where you can raise money for charity doing it, and feel like you’re growing and making a difference at the same time?

    Whatever you decide to do, I just want you to know it’s completely normal. The only way I get around these feelings is booking activity holidays and trying new things (and working so much that I stop my brain from thinking about it). It’s a philosophical issue scholars have been dealing with for centuries – why are we here, what’s the point, is this it?

    You got this 🙂 xx

    1. Agh Andi, THANK YOU for this comment. I bloody love philosophy and studied it in sixth form so yeah, I totally get that. I’m not glad to hear you’ve felt like it but it does seem more common than what I realised. There seems to be a universal feeling of boredom.

      Think that’s why I spend so much time working as well to be honest, if I’m doing that I feel like I’m making progress but am I?

      I’m gonna look into the hobby thing (: xxx

  32. I was going to say you need a long break but then, I realised that you’re bored. You don’t need any break! If travelling isn’t working for you, make a bucket list of things you feel would make you better and cross them out one at a time or even five at a time. Maybe go to a couple of carnivals, haunted houses, go skydiving or climb mountains. Or start painting; expressing your feelings on paper without writing. You won’t have to feel like you’re word vomiting. Something that takes you away from your mundane life right now. Something safe though! I hope you find what you’re looking for🤗❤