Mental Health

Feeling Mentally Fragile? Try These 6 Coping Techniques

Back in July, my mind sort of, broke. I went through a period of seriously intense health anxiety. Which ended up with my nurse making an urgent doctors appointment for me for the very same day. It was that bad. I got referred back to therapy. I was put on medication. It was a THING. So it’s safe to say, I was feeling mentally fragile. Like, China Doll fragile.

Feeling Mentally Fragile

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Luckily now I’m feeling much better. I started on Citalopram which didn’t give me too many side effects. Apart from a DRY AF mouth that felt like I was living in the Nevada dessert. And I signed up for a group worry management workshop. ME. The most awkwardly anxious person in the world voluntarily put myself forward for a workshop.

I’m all for moving forward and trying new things to help with my mental health and well-being. But during that period, I was seriously feeling mentally fragile. I felt like at any moment, I was going to go over the speed bump which causes the chip in the glass to finally crack and shatter.

Which got me thinking how it’s okay not to feel strong mentally all the time. We all have times of feeling mentally fragile where we need to go extra easy on ourselves. That’s life. Shit happens.

So whether it’s a bad mental health day, a break up, an argument or something else, here are my 6 favourite coping techniques for those days we need a little extra self love.

Slow down – literally

This is something I’ve noticed I do more sub-consciously than anything else on those days where I’m feeling mentally fragile. But once I realise I’m doing it, I do it more. Because it really does help. And that’s slowing down. Like reaaaaaally slowing down.

I know this isn’t doable 100% of the time, depending on work or kids or pets or whatever. But when you can, just slow TF down. Stop multi-tasking. Stop rushing. Move your body slowly. Take time eating your dinner. And make every tiny task, even just making a cup of tea, the most important thing in the world.

Take care of your basic needs

Sometimes we think self care is this grand ol’ gesture but really, especially on days where you’re feeling mentally fragile, it’s the exact opposite. It’s the small stuff. The basic stuff that needs taking care of the most. We can often jump straight to the manicures, the spa days, the 8 mile runs…

but have you drank enough water today? Have you brushed your teeth? Have you eaten a small meal? Had a shower? Got some fresh air? Really, truly my love, take care of the basics first.

Meditation or gentle Yoga

Meditation and Yoga isn’t just this hippy dippy thing anymore that all the cool kids are doing. It’s got scientific backing and health benefits which are widely recognized. I know I sound like a broken record sometimes and you’re probably bored of me screaming at you to DO YOGA all the time but really…

…do some goddamn Yoga. Yoga is usually my first thought when I’m feeling mentally fragile. And I always opt for the gentle practices. The moving meditations. The nurturing practices which will help me slow down, reconnect and focus on my breath. Give it a go. Just once (if your body and/or mind allows of course).

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Journal

When I suggest journaling, I never mean anything elaborate. Bullet journals are great but in those moments where you’re feeling fragile, you just need to get your thoughts out. And that’s exactly what I do. I have a crappy £1 notebook from Tesco and I just write. And damn it’s therapeutic.

No expectations

On the days you’re feeling mentally fragile, I think it’s so important to let all the expectations go. I’m often powering on through a to-do list but some days, I just can’t manage it. And that’s okay. We can’t be “on it” 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. And it’s taken me a long ass time to come to terms with that.

Because let’s face it, you’re not going to perform at your best if you’re not feeling your best. If you can just about manage to brush your teeth, then how are you going to put your energy into writing, editing, formatting and promoting a blog post? If you can, great. But if not, it really doesn’t matter. No expectations.

I asked Twitter how they manage when they’re feeling mentally fragile; check out what they had to say!

Just do what you need to do

Ultimately, you just gotta do what you gotta do. We’re all different and these are just suggestions of things that have worked for me. Which hopefully might give you a helping hand if and when you need it. But on those days where we don’t know how we’re going to get through the next hour, let alone the day itself, you just gotta do you.

How do you cope when you’re feeling mentally fragile? Do you have any special coping techniques you can share? Do you do any of these things that I’ve mentioned? Let’s discuss in the comments, I’d love to hear from you!

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Jenny in Neverland

Twenty-something lifestyle blogger from Essex. Book lover, Slytherin, organisational wizard and enjoys Motorsport, Disney and Yoga.

88 Comments

  1. I really find journaling helps. I used to scoff at the idea of journals when I was young because I was under the impressions you have to do it every day. Once I figured out I didn’t have to do that, that I could do it any time I wanted, it really helped. I also take comfort in talking to my friends, even if it’s just through Facebook Messenger. I also like to watch a favorite show or movie on days where I’m feeling mentally fragile or depressed; or if I have a lot of time (2 hours or so) play a video game. Both of those gives me a chance to escape for a little while and leave the problems causing me mental anguish behind; even if just for a bit.

    1. I love playing video games too – it really gets you out of your own head!

  2. Such great suggestions! 🙂 I tend to just slow down, well more like grind to halt! I just do whatever to get me to a mentally good place again. 🙂

    Sarah 🌺 || Boxnip || Latest Post

    1. That’s all we can do really!

  3. I’m glad you’re feeling better and the medication is working for you. I only really feel like this if I’ve been ill and have a huge workload to catch up on or if I have tight deadlines for something but I find having really clear to-do lists and scheduling helps me the most x

    Sophie

    1. Clear to do lists and lots of scheduling and planning really help, I agree 😌

  4. These are all great techniques!! Mostly, it’s a mind game that I have to play on those anxious days. I have to stop those searching thoughts of “what next?” (because I’m the Queen of wanting to be time efficient) with “that’s not important right now.” Like you said – slow down. I have to permit myself to just do one thing at a time instead of my usual urge to multi-task (ie cook without cleaning up between stirring). It’s definitely helped prevent myself from making the anxiety worse.

    1. I definitely feel you with the multi-tasking thing!

  5. Love these. I got back into Yoga this morning after a week off due to low energy, and I have to say I am feeling so much better. Maybe what I needed all along was to do some yoga!

    Thank you for sharing Jenny.

    1. So glad to hear that x

  6. Emily Ann says:

    Thank you so much for talking about this! I’ve gone through some bad mental health times in my life, and I feel like people need to talk about these periods and what you can do to help yourself during these difficult times. I think the one I most relate to is “do what you gotta do.” Sometimes that all you really can do. Just get through the hour. The afternoon. The day. The night. The week. It’ll get better, but it just takes times. Your tips were great and so helpful!

    Emily | https://www.thatweirdgirllife.com

    1. Totally agree. There’s only so much advice you can give but ultimately, you’ve really just got to do what you can and if that means crying for 6 hours, so be it! x

  7. All great tips!! My go-to is journaling. I can write whatever I want! It can be nice, hateful, bitchy – just whatever. The other thing that I focus on is making myself happy. By this I mean, I learned to stop trying to please everyone else first. Thank you for sharing!!

    1. I love journalling. And I agree, when you feel like this, sometimes you’ve really gotta forget about everyone else and be selfish.

  8. Amen to all of this, it’s all so true and so important. The ‘have you drank water today’ is such a tell tale sign that y o ure sleepwalking from minute to minute. Giant hug and take care and thank you X

    1. So true! And sometimes the simplest things like drinking a glass of water can make you feel that little bit better x

  9. emilyunderworld says:

    I’ve only recently learned the value of slowing down! It’s helped so much with stress and my PTSD. On a bad day, I take a bath, have a cup of tea and try to just let myself heal. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been having a hard time, and I’m glad things are getting better. I started sertaline two months ago and I also have a really dry mouth! All the best x

    1. It’s such an underrated thing to do, especially in a world where everything moves so fast and there’s always so much to do, all the time! Things are much better now, thank you! The dry mouth is the WORST! x

  10. Breathing exercises . . . that is what I did the last time I found myself going through bouts of fragility and it really helped.

    It is easy to stop doing what you are doing once you feel better. That is where you have to go on.

    1. Breathing exercises are amazing x

      1. 🙂

  11. Meditation was a new discovery for me in the last year and it definitely helps my anxiety and is a good coping mechanism, all the other tips are so good! x

    Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk

    1. So glad to hear meditation is helping you! x

  12. Great post! I think no expectations is a great point when you’re mentally fragile. It’s important not to put any more unnecessary pressure on yourself when you’re feeling fragile x

    https://www.femaleoriginal.com

    1. Totally agree! Not beating yourself up is one of the best things you can do! x

  13. Really helpful — I get bad bouts of anxiety so will use some of the tips you’ve included. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Hope they help!

  14. I feel mentally fragile quite often. I tend to focus on the fact that it tends to be temporary, remember my achievements etc.. you know instead on focusing on the negative thoughts! I love your advice, I think we tend to forget our basic needs so often. It is super important to be aware of your needs. Thanks for your advice.
    Laura / https://www.laustworld.com/

    1. Focusing on the fact that every feeling you have is temporary is so helpful!

  15. Hope you are doing ok, thanks for sharing these! xx

    1. I’m doing miles better, thank you x

  16. I hope you are doing well now Jenny.
    I’m also on cirtralopam. It’s causes me side effects all the time.
    I find that side tracking myself is also a great method of coping.

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    Love AlexaJade,
    http://alexajade.co.uk

    1. Thank you, I’m doing much better! Side effects have been okay for me!

  17. I hope you’re feeling okay and looking after yourself. 💗

    1. I’m doing much better thank you x

  18. This couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Taking care of my basic needs can be such a struggle when I’m feeling down/stressed/busy, sometimes I need to stop for a moment and make myself get out of bed & off my laptop to brush my teeth and shower, as gross as that sounds. Thank you for writing such an understanding & non-judgemental post about mental health – we need more posts like this x

    1. Not gross at all, I totally get where you’re coming from x

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