Every single one of us goes through times when things are completely and utterly crap. And sometimes it’s hard to know what to do when you have a bad day because everything feels like an unnecessary effort.
It might just be the odd day here and there; you’ve stood in dog poo on your way to work, then the trains are delayed, then your lunch has spilt in your bag that sorta thing.
It might be a week where everything keeps piling up or a longer period of time when things are particularly difficult; you’re not getting on with your partner, tensions are high at home, a pet is ill or you’re facing money problems.
Whatever the reason things are crap for you for, it’s not unusual that we feel completely out of kilter during these times in our lives. Like the world is continuing to turn but slightly to the left and we no longer feel in rhythm with it.
Nobody should feel embarrassed, ashamed or a failure when things are going crap for them and they find it hard to function or go about daily life as normal. Life is a whole bunch of ebbs and flows; up and down constantly from beginning to end. We will all get them. It’s how you deal with them that’s important.
Even things which seem irrelevant; like a bird pooing on your head. It can be hard to feel “normal” when you feel off kilter with the rest of the world and that’s when looking after yourself is super important. I’m a huge advocate for self-care; I don’t know why any of us shouldn’t put ourselves first.
I’ve had my fair share of crap days, like everyone else. 2016 in particular was particularly difficult for a bunch of reasons and was definitely one of those years where I felt the world was moving on without me. I learnt some coping strategies for those awful days that sometimes we just can’t avoid.
So I’ve compiled a list of things which I have done on the dark days; not all of these are designed to make you feel better. Sometimes, nothing is going to make you feel better and you just have to accept that. But just stuff that you can do. Cos sometimes we just need to do something.
25 ideas of what to do when you have had a bad day:
- Watch a documentary to put yourself in someone else’s shoes
- Do some yoga and focus on your body and breathing
- Cuddle a pet or a fluffy toy
- Clean and de-clutter your room / house / work-space / Facebook friends
- Call the Samaritans (or check out their official website here)
- Have a nap
- Read an old favourite book
- Write down how you’re feeling or try some journal prompts
- Have a bath
- Cook yourself a meal; nobody else, just you
- Go outside and focus on your surroundings
- Brainstorm a new project
- Volunteer somewhere for the day
- Bake something for someone else
- Listen to your favourite band
- Call a friend
- Buy yourself something
- Go to the library
- Start teaching yourself something new and different – like a new language
- Lay on the floor for no reason
- Make yourself a cracking sup of tea
- Practice mindfulness
- Buy your favourite chocolate and eat the lot