It’s inevitable that at some point or another, all of us are going to stop what we’re doing and think, “huh?”. Wonder where our career is going, whether our dreams are possible or if we’re getting real deep, what the meaning of it all is. I certainly have found myself in that situation more than once; most notably, right before I started blogging. I’ve never once had a more intense feeling of, “what’s the point” than then but fortunately I was pulled out of a dark, lost place by books and blogging which eventually got me to where I am today with my own business and a successful blog. Yay! However, I’m not naïve to the fact that I will probably get those feelings again. In the meantime though, I wanna share some of my own tips on what to do when you’re feeling a little lost in life.

Make a plan: Think about where you want to be, what you want to do, where you want to go or whatever the dream is and make a step-by-step, manageable plan and get it written down on paper. A small but relevant example of this in my own life lately was that I wanted to redecorate my room by myself (I.e no help from a decorator) so I started small, made a list of what I envisioned my room would look like, got little bits I needed like paint and rollers etc. and started small with one wall, then two, until eventually, it was done. And I love it!

Make a list: To actually banish those dreary, damaging thoughts on a daily basis, I stick to lists and I find this helps keep me in line, keeps me motivated and productive and doesn’t leave me an awful lot of time to ponder the big ol’ questions. But if you have a goal in mind, make some lists. What can you do on a day to day basis to help you achieve that goal? Add one little thing to your every day to do list to get you closer to where you want to be and hopefully, that’ll help you get direction and stop you feeling quite so lost.

Seek inspiration: Easier said than done, I know but actively seek out inspiration. Read lots of books or magazines, watch lots of movies, visit blogs, go to the library, join a club or do something completely out of the ordinary for you in which you may find inspiration from. You don’t even have to know what you’re looking for inspiration for.. Just look. You might be surprised.

Have a self-care day: Really important and really valid; self-care is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves, especially when we’re not feeling brilliant in ourselves and need to give ourselves some more love and care than usual. Take some time for yourself – a whole day of doing, eating, watching, reading all your favourite things or whatever you find soothing. If that’s rock-climbing, then so be it!

Do something pointless: So, you know you need to get out of this funk but can’t quite get to grips with what you need or want to do. Allow yourself time to do something completely non-productive. Something that isn’t going to change the world in any way shape or form. Something which is, essentially, a complete waste of time but just do something pointless to get it out of your system and then go full steam ahead the following day. May I suggest an obstacle course for your pet?

Have you ever had these feelings before? What did you do to overcome them? What would you add to this list? Let’s chat!


  1. I get those feelings quite a lot and I think that your first tip is where I often go wrong – I rarely make a plan! I just kind of expect things to get better without working out how I can make that happen haha! Your tips will definitely help me get a little bit more pro-active, and take a bit more responsibility for how I’m feeling as I am definitely able to change it!
    Beth x

  2. Seeking inspiration is such a good one, I like to do all of these things but I think this is something I forget most and without inspiration there’s not much else to feel than lost!

    Jen xxx

  3. I often feel a little lost (or a lot lost!) so these tips are going to prove very useful, I’m sure. Especially love the suggestion of a pet obstacle course! I reckon my cat would love it 😉

  4. Doing something pointless is a really good thing. If I have too many things to do being tired and busy I will treat myself with something pointless basically wasting time on nothing. Our brain needs to be switched off sometimes 😛

  5. These are some really good tips. I definitely agree with the self-care day. I wish I had realised how important they are a lot sooner.

  6. Love love love this post! I am a huge maker of lists, they really do help with eceduring – especially when you want to think up a good plan! I also love hunting for inspiration!

    Claudia xo

  7. I find the doing something pointless thing really helpful. When my mind is overwhelmed and I need to switch off, watching something like greys anatomy or reading a book that doesn’t require a lot of brain power is really helpful. I would like to get better at doing lists but I find I never stick to them! I think I’m too much of a vague person. You sound quite organised!

    1. I’m VERY organised – probably too organised for my own good haha. You could definitely make lists work for you too. Doing something pointless really can be so beneficial. My pointless “thing” is playing The Sims! xxx

  8. Jenny this was a post I really needed to read today I’m honestly struggling so much right now with feeling lost and deciding things so thankyou for sharing x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿

  9. Self-care is definitely so important and something I find can help if I’m feeling a little lost. I love writing lists too and always have various lists on the go for certain things. xx

  10. Whenever I feel lost, I find that lists help so much. I just open a notebook, take out a pen and write what needs to be done over the next few days. It helps me refocus and prioritise when I’m feeling lost. Great tips, Jenny!

  11. Jenny, I love this post 🙂 I am a list and plan queen so this feels very familiar. I also need to remember to take time out for self care because I never do. Blogging has become my outlet for so many things, and reading posts like this one are my inspiration, thank you! xx

    Lisa |

  12. I really love this post Jenny, all of the pointers are so relatable to things I do when I’m feeling down or lost. Especially the self-care days. Also making a list and crossing things off make me feel SOO GOOD!! You’ve hit the nail on the head and I think this is such a fantastic post to share. Well done xxxxx

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