It’s inevitable that at some point or another, all of us are going to stop what we’re doing and think, “huh?”. Wonder where our career is going, whether our dreams are possible or if we’re getting real deep, what the meaning of it all is. I certainly have found myself in that situation more than once; most notably, right before I started blogging. I’ve never once had a more intense feeling of, “what’s the point” than then but fortunately I was pulled out of a dark, lost place by books and blogging which eventually got me to where I am today with my own business and a successful blog. Yay! However, I’m not naïve to the fact that I will probably get those feelings again. In the meantime though, I wanna share some of my own tips on what to do when you’re feeling a little lost in life.
Make a plan: Think about where you want to be, what you want to do, where you want to go or whatever the dream is and make a step-by-step, manageable plan and get it written down on paper. A small but relevant example of this in my own life lately was that I wanted to redecorate my room by myself (I.e no help from a decorator) so I started small, made a list of what I envisioned my room would look like, got little bits I needed like paint and rollers etc. and started small with one wall, then two, until eventually, it was done. And I love it!
Make a list: To actually banish those dreary, damaging thoughts on a daily basis, I stick to lists and I find this helps keep me in line, keeps me motivated and productive and doesn’t leave me an awful lot of time to ponder the big ol’ questions. But if you have a goal in mind, make some lists. What can you do on a day to day basis to help you achieve that goal? Add one little thing to your every day to do list to get you closer to where you want to be and hopefully, that’ll help you get direction and stop you feeling quite so lost.
Seek inspiration: Easier said than done, I know but actively seek out inspiration. Read lots of books or magazines, watch lots of movies, visit blogs, go to the library, join a club or do something completely out of the ordinary for you in which you may find inspiration from. You don’t even have to know what you’re looking for inspiration for.. Just look. You might be surprised.
Have a self-care day: Really important and really valid; self-care is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves, especially when we’re not feeling brilliant in ourselves and need to give ourselves some more love and care than usual. Take some time for yourself – a whole day of doing, eating, watching, reading all your favourite things or whatever you find soothing. If that’s rock-climbing, then so be it!
Do something pointless: So, you know you need to get out of this funk but can’t quite get to grips with what you need or want to do. Allow yourself time to do something completely non-productive. Something that isn’t going to change the world in any way shape or form. Something which is, essentially, a complete waste of time but just do something pointless to get it out of your system and then go full steam ahead the following day. May I suggest an obstacle course for your pet?