Two weeks ago, I turned twenty-eight so I’m officially in my late 20’s. I mean, I know how time works and all that but I can’t quite believe we’re here, at twenty-eight, so damn quickly. I’ve heard from a lot of people that your twenties are a confusing AF time and that’s certainly been the case for me. And whilst there’s no rule book for it, I definitely believe there are some things to do in your twenties that are important for personal growth.
My 20’s have been… interesting. And certainly not the 20’s that I envisioned for myself as a teen. They started with me in the midst of the worst period of mental illness of my life. Slowly, throughout the very early stages of my twenties, my world got smaller and smaller until all I knew was the four walls of my bedroom. I had no friends. No prospects. And absolutely nothing to keep me going.
Of all the things to do in your twenties, being a prisoner to your own mind is NOT THE ONE. And even now, at twenty-eight, I’m nowhere near where I wanted to be or thought I’d be at this age. Your 20’s are a weird and confusing time. With half of the people you know settling down with marriage and kids and the other half travelling solo around the world being a digital nomad.
But I find that comforting. Because it shows that there are so many things to do in your twenties and no one way is the “right” way. Life is all about growth – however you decide to do that. But now that I’m coming to the end of my somewhat unconventional twenties, I wanted to share some things to do in your twenties to help with personal growth!
17 things to do in your twenties
1. Find an exercise you enjoy
By our 20’s, we should all be exercising on a regular basis. With the increase stress of work and relationships, exercise is a vital part of our routine to help keep us as healthy as possible as we move through our 20’s!
2. Establish some savings for the future
Now is the time to save, save, save! I wish I had started saving much sooner than my 20’s because during a good number of years during my 20’s, I wasn’t earning anything due to my anxiety being so bad I couldn’t leave the house. Thankfully now I’m earning a full-time income from my blog and my savings are flourishing but that wasn’t always the case!
3. Let go of friendships that no longer serve you
It’s totally normal for friendships to fizzle out in your 20’s. As we grow up, we get different priorities and often go our separate ways. That doesn’t have to be a negative thing either – it just IS. So learn to accept that it might be time to let go of those friendships that no longer serve any role in your life.
4. Talk about your mental health
Whether you feel like you need to or not, I urge you to start (or continue) talking about your mental health in your 20’s. It can be a tough decade, with a lot of curve balls. So don’t forget to put yourself first and seek the help you need if required. Get open and honest about your mental health.
5. De-clutter all your old rubbish
It’s time to have a de-clutter. Are you keeping a ton of old stuff from your childhood and teenage years? If so, why? Is it for sentimental reasons? If so, have you looked at or thought about any of those items in the last 5 years? If not, get rid of it. Scale down what you own and if you want to keep some stuff from your childhood, choose wisely.
6. Find your signature fragrance
Now is the time to confirm your identity to the world. And fragrance is an amazing way to do that because smell can be so powerful. I’m sure we’ve all got a certain smell or fragrance that reminds us of someone or somewhere? Personally, I’m a Lady Million by Paco Rabanne kinda gal!
7. Attend your cervical screenings
A few months before you turn 25, you’ll be invited for your first cervical screening. Make sure you attend these – they’re so important and are such a convenient test to help save lives and prevent future problems.
8. Find a hobby without the need to monetize it
With all the stress in our lives during our 20’s, hobbies can play a vital role in our self care and well-being. However, hustle culture online has it that we should be trying to monetize every aspect of our lives which honestly, is total bo**ocks. Find a hobby for YOU. Even if you never show or tell anyone. Find something that helps you cope.
9. Know what self care works for you
And speaking of self care, it’ll be crucial for your 20’s so this is one of the really important things to do in your twenties. Don’t follow the crowd. Experiment. Find what works for YOU. Self care comes in all forms, from mental, physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual.
10. Understand your priorities
Notice how I haven’t written ‘travel’ on this list? Whereas most other people you speak to will say you “have to travel in your 20’s!!!” Well that’s because now is the time to figure out your priorities. And for some, travelling is NOT a priority in their 20’s. Which is fine. It literally doesn’t matter what your priorities are, just figure them out.
11. Cherish your relationships
When you get into your 20’s, you’ll get the stark reminder that your loved ones are getting older too. This has definitely been my least favourite thing about being in my 20’s but obviously something none of us can change or control. What we can do though, is make TIME and cherish those relationships while we can.
12. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes
One of the most important things to do in your twenties is to forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Especially those mistakes you made in your teens or when you weren’t in the right frame of mind. We are f**k up every now and again. But the only person you’re guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with, is you. So you better forgive yourself eventually.
13. Learn the value of alone time
Alone time is so important at any age but in your 20’s when there’s so much hustle and bustle around you, so many plans to make, people to see, things to do. It’s very quick and easy to get burnout. So learn the value of alone time and what that can do for your and your well-being.
14. Challenge yourself
Now is the time to challenge yourself. Challenge your limits. Find out what scares you. But try it anyway. Surprise yourself. Learn that you CAN do it. And if you fail? So what.
15. Learn how to cook at least 10 basic dishes
You’ll be fending for yourself in your 20’s so now is a good time to learn how to many some yummy go-to meals. Quick meals for after work, easy meals for when you’re hungover, nice meals for when you have guests and everything in-between.
16. Master your mindset around money
As well as establishing some savings, now is also a great time to master your mindset around money. Trust me, it will do you wonders going forward in life! Learn the basic principles of money. The fact that money is just paper with energy attached and how and why you should be grateful for every penny you receive.
17. Learn how to say ‘no’
Of all the things to do in your twenties, I think this is one of the most important. We’re past the University phase. We’re past the getting pissed over the park phase. Past hanging out with people we don’t like or have nothing in common with. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to follow your heart and your head and know when enough is enough. Preserve your energy. Use it wisely.