I’m not one to really celebrate Valentine’s Day. But I AM one to celebrate self-love. Any day of the year. And I’m a firm believer in that it absolutely doesn’t matter if you’re in a romantic relationship or not, there is always time and space for you to delve into some self-love activities for Valentine’s Day.

self-love activities for valentine's day

Your most important relationship, the relationship with yourself, affects every other relationship in some way or another.

I know myself, when I am in a good place mentally, when I’m taking the time to delve into self-care on a daily basis, when I’m spending time alone and tending to my needs, I’m a much happier person. And that radiates outwards towards the other relationships in my life.

I’m more energized, which means I can spend more time with friends and family. I’m more empathetic towards others with their own problems. I’m a better friend. A better girlfriend. And that’s all because I’ve taken some sweet time to practice self-love.

Self-love activities for Valentine’s Day don’t have to be anything big or outrageous. They don’t even have to cost anything (but can if you want to and are able to!) But they are beneficial to your own self-love journey.

And of course, the things listed here and ANY self-love activity for that matter isn’t only designed to be partaken on or around Valentine’s Day. Self-love should be practiced all year round.

But I find Valentine’s Day is a GREAT prompt for reminding you that hey, you deserve all that love that’s going around too!

So, with that being said, here are 50 self-love activities for Valentine’s Day (which can be done any time of year), categorized for ease!

self-love activities for valentine's day

Free self-love activities for Valentine’s Day:

Self-love doesn’t have to cost a thing! You can incorporate these sweet, free things into your daily life to keep on top of your self-love practice and take that time and care for yourself every day, not just for Valentine’s Day!

  1. Take a warm bath
  2. Dedicate an hour to reading your book
  3. Go for a leisurely walk by yourself
  4. Have a nap when you need one
  5. Give yourself a neck massage
  6. Do a gentle and loving Yoga practice
  7. Dance around your living room
  8. Use your favourite vibrator
  9. Do a meditation practice
  10. Get out into nature

Food related self-love activities:

Food is the key to most people’s hearts. It’s certainly the key to mine! Whether you’re with a partner or investing some time into free self-love activities for Valentine’s Day, then food can certainly play a big role!

  1. Go and get your favourite coffee shop coffee
  2. Order your favourite takeaway
  3. Bake a cake
  4. Cook a meal for yourself
  5. Go to a chocolate making workshop
  6. Make your own cocktails
  7. Book yourself into a wine tasting
  8. Take yourself out for dinner
  9. Or breakfast
  10. Or lunch!

Beauty and pampering activities for Valentine’s Day:

There’s nothing nicer than treating yourself to a pamper. Whether you pay for a professional to do it or do it yourself at home, it’s always such a lovely way to relax, switch off and treat yourself.

  1. Get your nails done
  2. Book yourself in for a relaxing back massage
  3. Get your hair cut
  4. Have a relaxing bath, with a glass of wine and a face mask
  5. Go for a facial treatment
  6. Spend time moisturizing
  7. Have a session of reflexology
  8. Go for a head, neck and shoulder massage
  9. Get a pedicure
  10. Spend time in a hot tub

Out and about solo date ideas:

I absolutely love taking myself out and going places by myself. As someone with a history of a severe anxiety disorder, there was a point where I never thought I’d be able to go out by myself again. It’s liberating and empowering and I’d always recommend it as an act of self-love!

  1. Take yourself on a solo cinema date and have all the popcorn to yourself
  2. Go for a coffee and cake solo date to your favourite coffee shop
  3. Go shopping and treat yourself to something nice
  4. Book a solo spa break and enjoy the alone time
  5. Spend the day at the zoo
  6. Play a sport or do something active (like go-karting!)
  7. Go for a hike
  8. Book yourself an experience day
  9. Go to the theatre to see a show
  10. Book yourself onto a Yoga retreat

Creative self-love activities for Valentine’s Day:

It’s always nice to be creative but I don’t think we give ourselves permission to be creative as adults. It’s a wonder act of self-love and self-care to just switch off and be in the moment with whatever creative activity you’re doing.

  1. Make your own face masks
  2. Book yourself in to a paint and sip event
  3. Buy the materials and start creating a scrapbook
  4. Dedicate sometime to drawing
  5. If you play an instrument, have a jam!
  6. Go to an art gallery for inspiration
  7. Go out and take some photos
  8. Learn how to sew / knit / embroider
  9. Go to a flower arranging workshop
  10. Attend a pottery workshop

I really hope that everyone can take some time for themselves this Valentine’s Day. Of course I know that we should be doing that all year round but hopefully Valentine’s Day is a nice little reminder to you that you should be giving yourself the same amount of love that you’re giving your partner as well.

How are you planning to show yourself some self-love this Valentine’s Day? Let me know!

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  1. I’m all onboard time in your coffee shop. Sometimes, it where I write, too. And too wholesomely agree with the creative takes. They provide a change of scenery, inspiration, may even discover a new hobby.

  2. Even though my boyfriend and I always do dates on Valentine’s Day, I always prioritise self-love in Feb (and any month, let’s be honest!) It’s so important to remember to take care of yourself, and this year I’m for sure going to treat myself to a candle lit bath with a good book!

  3. Hi Jenny,
    This is a terrific list. And, I love how you broke it up into categories. Thank you for the reminder that practicing self-care, self-love, or whatever you want to call it, is important. Putting yourself first, some of the time anyway, isn’t selfish.

  4. I’ve never been a huge fan of Valentines, but I LOVE this list…for any time of the year! Happy Self-Love Appreciation! ❤️

  5. For Valentine’s day this year, I will be away on a business trip but I think I am going to celebrate it by having dinner and a movie night. I will order something special for dinner and enjoy it to the max. Great post, many great ideas 🙂

  6. Jenny, I am ALL for this for Valentine’s Day. Our anniversary is right after V Day so we’ve never really done anything coupley but we always take time to do something for ourselves. I ALWAYS treat myself to new pjs for V Day too!

  7. Great post. I think you’re spot in in terms of self care and treating yourself right. I’m taking your post as permission to have a few naps this week…and of course on Valentine’s Day!

  8. I’m not really celebrate Valentine’s Day – but this year I’d like to treat myself to something I love, including a spa day, getting my nails done, going shopping, or spending the day at the zoo. You’ve included so many self-love activities that I can add into my February plan 😀 Thanks for sharing Jen x

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