I think there comes a time in all our lives where we feel like we need a fresh start. Whether that’s mentally, physically, geographically – we feel like we need to find ways to begin again and let go of a lot of bullsh*t that’s come before. For some this might be something more minor, like starting a new week without the stress of the previous one. For others, it might be something bigger, like a new job or career.
But whatever it is, it’s universal. Human beings, in all their graces and glory will make mistakes and fuck up and want out and need to, at times, begin again. It might be scary. It might be exciting. But it’s probably always necessary.
Life is always going to be a series of ups and downs, beginnings and endings and a ton of winding roads in between. Very rarely will you find a person who has embarked on a path and reached their goal destination with no detours along the way. That’s life.
So we need to be prepared that, at any time, we might have to begin again.
I’ve felt like that a fair few times in my life. Looking back now, I’ve probably felt it more than I realized at the time, for example:
- Finishing school and college without a plan of what I wanted to do any more
- Experiencing a debilitating anxiety disorder that threw my whole life out of whack
- Accepting failed projects and wondering what next
- Understanding that a chapter of my life was over
Why might we feel like we NEED to begin again?
There are endless reasons why we might feel like we need to begin again in various areas of our lives and with all our lives so vastly different, it’s impossible to cover all basis and find a universal “fix” for all. But some common reasons why you might need to begin again, are:
- A project you’re working on isn’t working or going where you want it to go, so it might be time to move on from it
- You’ve had a really tough week / month / year and need a fresh start and a new mindset
- You’ve not been prioritizing your health or self care and you need to make some changes
- A career or job change is needed, so you need to figure out where to go from where you are
- You’ve lost your sense of purpose and direction and aren’t living intentionally
- You’ve been through a big life change – such as moving house or a death – and need to start afresh
If 2022 has taught me anything so far, it’s that things change (and will change) and there’s no perfect time to do anything. And we shouldn’t ever ignore what’s going on in our lives, we need to be productive.
So if you’re finding yourself in a situation – however big or small – that makes you wonder how to begin again, here are 10 small ways to do that:
Take a bloody deep breath
I posted this quote on my Instagram earlier in the year and I still very much stand by it. Every new exhale is a chance to begin again. So if you’re really overwhelmed with the prospect of beginning again, take a deep breath and start there. This could also be a great time to start practicing mediation to gain more clarity.
Remember that by beginning again, it doesn’t erase the past
A lot of work comes from mindset, when you need to begin again. Starting is often the hardest part mentally. Before you start your journey, remember that beginning again doesn’t erase the past. It doesn’t erase mistakes or failures or even successes you’ve had before. All of those little things are the building blocks to your life and where you’ve ended up – honor them. Don’t be scared of them.
Journal it out
Journaling is an amazing tool when we feel mentally fragile or are feeling frazzled. Grab an old notebook and just write. See what comes out. There will be a lot to process during this time and you might also feel quite isolated, so use your journal as a friend or a therapist and be really honest about yourself and your situation. You might want to consider some journal prompts to help you.
Change your setting
Sometimes the best way to get clarity on something is to change your surroundings. I don’t know about you but if I’m stuck in the same place for too long, I definitely can’t think clearly. So if you’re struggling to manage your situation or what to do next, go for a walk, take yourself on a break, even just change the room you’re in.
Let go of negative self talk around the situation
When you need a fresh start it can be REALLY hard on your mental health to justify. Especially if it’s a negative situation that has brought you there. Negative self talk is inevitable but as long as you’re aware of it and are able to let it go and not hold onto it, then that’s a great start. You might want to consider EFT for stress and anxiety or SRT for limiting beliefs.
Be proactive about it
It’s really important to be proactive at this time, instead of dwelling on what’s happened or worrying about what you’re going to do from here. You’ll figure it out – trust me. Even if it doesn’t seem like it right now. So be proactive, even if that means something small. Consider making some to-do lists, research or getting in contact with people you need to speak to.
Organization makes EVERYTHING easier. I fully stand by that – as a type A Virgo. But honestly, make lists, have a de-clutter, Spring clean your life (even if it’s not Spring) because now is the perfect time to be doing that. And it’ll make things easier and less stressful in the long run.
Start small and start somewhere
This is the foundation of everything we do. Every project we start, every idea we have, every move we make. We have to start SOMEWHERE. And even if that starting somewhere is only something tiny, it’s still a start and still needs to be celebrated.
Focus on the present
I think this point is an accumulation of all of the above because before you move on and begin again, you need to focus on your present – the here and now. Assess your situation, make lists, journal, focus on the things you can control and start small but start somewhere.
Embrace self care
And finally, embracing self care is a must in EVERY situation. I mean that. Beginning again can be stressful and scary – even if it is a positive thing. So don’t neglect yourself during this time. Make sure you’re embracing self care in whichever way you need to. Here are some posts which might help:
- 50+ Amazing Self Care Goals To Improve Your Life
- Unusual Self Care Ideas To Try If You’re Bored of Candles & Baths
- 30 Self Care Ideas in 10 Minutes or Less
- Things To Do For Self Care That Fit Effortlessly Into Your Day
Learning how to begin again is hard in any situation. So give yourself credit for how you’re coping (even if you feel like you’re not) and how far you’ve come. Change isn’t easy for any of us but it IS inevitable and something we’ll all have to face at some point. But remember, just because it’s scary, doesn’t mean that beginning again won’t be the best thing you ever do.
I love this! Productivity is the best (+ at times hardest) part of starting again. Book marking this because I happen to be on one of these universal start overs…again. I feel so seen/heard with his post. Thank you.
I’m glad you can relate to this and find some guidance in this post 🙂
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I feel like I’m starting over again at the moment after being just a Mummy for so long. This post was what I needed to read. Thanks for sharing. Jade MumLifeandMe
I’m so glad this post helped 🙂
I love this post, I have been prioritising my health lately and I’ve been a little worried about my future career, so I am hoping to work on my blog more productively. It will take a bit of a shift, but if I’m organised about it, hopefully it will pay off! x
Awh good luck lovely! You’ve got this!
As someone beginning again with something in my career, I needed this post. Love the points and tips, Jenny x
Good luck! You got this!
Such an excellent post! You do have a gift for getting at the heart of things. Little steps are surely always best, and a change of scenery can do wonders. You are so right. getting started on anything is always the hardest part!!! Each little success builds on the last step…and so it goes.
Thank you so much Linda. Yes little steps are always the best!
I so need to start over again. My life feels like a mess and I feel like an octopus trying to do eight things at once and getting nothing done the way I like.
Sorry to hear that. Focus on one thing at a time!
Amazing tips. Definitely changing the settings helps.
Love the ideas..
Thank you x
Great post! Being proactive and organized is very important to know that you are in control. Thanks for sharing all great tips.
This was a really thoughtful post I needed Thank you for putting it out there,
Great post. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you x
I struggle with starting anew because it is tough for me to leave things behind, so I loved reading this post! Your tips on how to make the switch or transition easier are so helpful, simple, and actionable. 🙂
Thank you 🙂 I’m glad you think so!
These are some really amazing tips! I’m going to be moving to university in September so will be starting over then, which is very daunting! I definitely think it’s really important to just take a deep breath if you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed as well as focusing on the here and now before. Thank you so much for sharing x
That’s so exciting!
These are amazing tips for starting over! It’s important to just take a deep breath and let go of all the negativity and just go for it! x
Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk
Thank you, totally agree!
I think anyone in their adulthood can totally relate and will appreciate this post. I’m someone who likes starting the week a fresh, putting the stressful week behind me and start again. I haven’t dealt with it in the ‘bigger’ aspect but I can totally relate to everything you’ve written. Thank you so much for making me feel like I’m not alone in feeling this way and sharing these tips with us. I’ll be putting them to good use for sure! Xo
Elle – ellegracedeveson.com
Thanks Elle. These tips can definitely apply to those smaller moments of starting again, for sure!
Absolutely love this! Such an important topic and really good, helpful tips here. Sometimes it’s so hard to know where to start thanks for sharing!!
Thank you 🙂
I love these tips – changing your setting and starting small are both such great ways to help motivate you.
They sure are!
Amazing post. This is something that I needed to read right now. Definitely going to try your tips. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you 🙂 x
Great ideas! Sometimes it is hard to know we are in those places and we becomg stagnant or bitter before we figure it out. I was struggling recently with a lot of heavy baggage and came ot the realization it was time to cut some things out that were making me feel this way. I’m never great with change, but there is freedom is throwing in the towel and trying something brand new!
Oh I can totally relate to this, especially the bitterness!
Great tips, we may think to start again, but if we are not focused. It won’t be good. These are helpful. Than you for sharing!
This is brilliant — such a great reminder that we can make a fresh start and that we can support ourselves in so many ways as we do. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Thank you 🙂 x
Yesssss!!!!!!!! There’s always smother options when doing things. You don’t have to stick to one way. These are good tips to begin again. Thank you for sharing.
I’m going through this exact thing now with dropping my blog a bit and starting a jewellery business and it’s so terrifying, but breaking down into these small steps is such a great way to at least put one foot forward. Thank you for this reminder, I needed this today x
Good luck on your venture!
Really lovely post reminding us that restarting doesn’t need to be a negative.
Love this, these are great tips for starting over! It can be such a scary situation finding yourself alone after a relationship, or jobless for whatever reason (I’d know, I’ve been fired from 2 jobs xD). But the first step is definitely to calm down and look at the situation from an analytic perspective: what is my nest step? And then just go for it and watch a whole new era unfold! Those are some of my favourite moments in life, coming out from a situation and thriving.
Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog
“Remember that by beginning again, it doesn’t erase the past” has to be one of the realest things I’ve heard. We really shouldn’t be afraid of the past. I love this post.
Thank you <3
Totally agree. Calming down and looking at the situation rationally helps so me!
Thank you x